If you're not happy where you are, then you're either with the wrong guy, or not with enough guys. In both cases i reckon you should go out and meet some more men.
You're probably looking for some guy who will be spontaneous and sweep you off your feet, someone who's not a pussy... good luck...
I had a dream where i was being driven by someone (don't remember who it was) and they said they wanted to kill me. I jumped out of the car, went to the nearest convenience store, and bought myself a lighter and a can of deodorant.