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RogueAcademic

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hell even kids can be in love
love isn't defined by age, nor is it restriced by anything else
It depends on what kind of love you're referring to. Love of live, love for your family etc, you're right. That kind of love is not defined by age. Being "in love" is something different. That is defined by maturity.

A 40 year old and a 38 year old might think they're in love when it's really just lust and if they're not emotionally mature enough to realise that and they go ahead and get married, there's a good chance it'll end in a divorce at some point when they realise it's not love after all.

On the other hand, a boy and girl might meet in high school, fall in love and remain partners for life when they remain together after high school ends and they get married. That can happen too.

I should note that maturity is also not defined by age but it is also fair to say that age and life experience plays a big part in maturity.
 

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I believe in it, ive seen it first hand, my sister started dating this guy at 15-16 everyone said it wouldnt last, bla bla bla....
now 22-23 and they are married...
just goes to show there is such thing as 'teen love'
 

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Teen love is mainly for sex as younger people are keen to explore their sexuality and create that sexual bonding in their teen years. As you get older, the value of relationship changes, such as becoming married or even having kids. Generally your first love isn't the one you will stay with for the rest of your life .. however you never know, there are possibilities.
 

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My friends sister, who is a very close family friend met her now fiance as a teenager (late teens, but still teens) and is getting married to him.
They've been together for 4.. this is their 5th year together now, actually.

It's possible, not probable.
 

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see, i really dont know...

i dont think love is as simple as a clear cut 'forever love' versus 'now lust', teenagers can feel love that is the same as adult love.

for me, my second ever boyfriend, at the young age of 17, was my first real love, and i really loved him, despite what magazines and adults say about teenage infatuation not being real love. he did not love me back, and we eventually broke up because of this, but i still think that if he had loved me, i might still be with him.

i think if you feel love, it doesnt matter how old you are, how old they are, how long it lasts or whether you want to be with them forever or not, its still love.

/ramble.
 

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agreed..i think its safe to say that if you're still in a relationship after 2 years and things are not great but not bad then yeah... you've settled down already.

its most likely because we're still unstable as teenagers, we like to move on quickly, try new things and satisfy our curiosities as compared to adults who have " been there done that " and are ready to settle down with one they believe they can be happy with for...a long time =D
 

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I don't resent that from an adult's perspective, "teen love" is an experimental stage with less strings attached. It's a necessary learning phase or shiny glimpse of the real thing but nonetheless puppy love in comparison to the challenges real love entails. I don't see how this is cruel or close-minded. You shouldn't marry someone until you've seen them sick, blue and figuratively on the verge of wrinkly; until you know them inside out, warts and all, and still love and prefer them for who they are. But teenagers (I'm generalising here) want to touch and be touched in all the right places, they don't have the patience to deal with as many sacrifices that need to be made in order to commit to love, which in my opinion is as unconditional as possible and evolved from being "in love."

Most teens live off the reassurance "there are plenty of fish in the sea" at the first sign of a mishap in the relationship since everyone's still figuring out their needs/standards. Our generation is also encouraged to "dream big" career wise, "you can achieve anything you set your mind to" so idealism of weighing their options might overlap onto the relationship domain before the stark reality of unappealing flaws sinks in. I'm not saying you can't have a solid, persevering teenage bond but if you manage to stay together, love will strengthen to encompass sacrifice, compromise, loyalty, trust, honesty, maturity etc beyond the infatuating giggly summer crush phase, and that's the only way you could ever stand to remain with a life long partner...
 

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for some teens it may be love, but its only a rare few.
as for the others its lust, obsession, or something along the lines of that.
so its almost sterotypical to say that theres no such thing as teen love=P
 

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agreed..i think its safe to say that if you're still in a relationship after 2 years and things are not great but not bad then yeah... you've settled down already.

its most likely because we're still unstable as teenagers, we like to move on quickly, try new things and satisfy our curiosities as compared to adults who have " been there done that " and are ready to settle down with one they believe they can be happy with for...a long time =D
i agree with that, and many other posts. I agree on the fact that it depends on the individual and maturity level. Im kinda agreeing on both sides but i think im safe in saying as ive already said it depends on the indivivual and maturity level.
 

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hmm...
well there are different levels of love (obviously)
you got like puppy love which is just like ur first bf/gf sorta thing
then you got physical love...need i explain the roll of hormones
and then you got emotional love...which is more than just hormones but when u really connect with the person.

most teenagers only get up to the physical love stage, if anything..and then you've got the ones that go further than that and are actually in love with someone, unconditionally.

I know a couple who got married at 15 (they had to go through the courts/parental consent etc etc), and they have been together ever since...40 something years :)

so true love does exist for teenagers, but it is very rare. even more so now days.

btw...teen love in twilight is just a bit obsessive in my opinion...infatuation.
 

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I know a couple who's been dating since year 8, so this is their 7th year anniversary :jaw: she even moved down to Tassie when he transferred into Tassie medicine, but after not being able to find work, she's moved back up to Sydney and they're now doing it long distance.
 

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lol teen love does occur ... im in the middle of it ... it may not be "true love" but its def love ... my definition of love - when u value some1s life more than ur own, when ur more than willing to give them ur all, when there all u ever think about - not my exact definition but close lmao im too tired to think atm
How about we wait 2 months when the boy you're 'in love' with, gets sick of your vagina, quits the facade, and leaves your stupid arse. I honestly doubt you're in love honey.

God, I'm so rude... bitch.
 
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ok so people dont get aggressive with me over this lmao ...

why is it people get so shitty when teens say there "inlove" i mean like geesh arnt they allowed to at least think its love ... it may not last forever but its possible it might theres a fairly low chance but there is still a chance ...

You think that's bad? try having just finished school - people are so god damn serious!

I'm at a party FULL of couples - the whole time they're talking about moving out together or going to melbourne for the weekend - they're 19!

I have this massive paranoia that if I don't meet someone within the next few years I'm gonna be one of those old ladies with the cats...
 

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