Should you date someone that is significantly taller or shorter than you? (3 Viewers)

[nerdasdasd]

Thoughts ?

 

[Carrotsticks]

We are from BOS, beggars can't be choosers.

 

[enoilgam]

I'll be a dead honest, but I'd find it a bit weird (mainly because I am quite tall and it would be rare to find a girl taller). But I wouldnt let something like that stop me.

 

[InsoulvencyReaper]

Does it really matter?

 

[obliviousninja]

Prefs girls around my height.

 

[buriza]

Does it really matter?

Like most physical attributes, it does not really matter, but individuals have preferences anyway. With that said, I prefer someone taller than me, which probably would not be that hard to achieve.

 

[enoilgam]

Like most physical attributes, it does not really matter, but individuals have preferences anyway. With that said, I prefer someone taller than me, which probably would not be that hard to achieve.

See, to me, I think there has to be some degree of physical attraction.

 

[SylviaB]

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[buriza]

See, to me, I think there has to be some degree of physical attraction.

I agree with what you are saying, however what I am more saying is in the long-term scheme of things, personality attributes are going to ultimately be more significant than physical attributes. And it could be argued for some individuals that in getting to know someone, personality attributes can certainly compensate for "average" physical attributes, e.g. I find that if I learn someone is personally not appealing as a person, I will no longer see them as attractive physically either (even if from an objective perception, they may well be).

 

[enoilgam]

I agree with what you are saying, however what I am more saying is in the long-term scheme of things, personality attributes are going to ultimately be more significant than physical attributes. And it could be argued for some individuals that in getting to know someone, personality attributes can certainly compensate for "average" physical attributes.

Fair point, I kind of interpreted what you were saying as been the whole "looks dont matter at all" type thing.

 

[dangerouss]

We are from BOS, beggars can't be choosers.

100% accurate

 

[nerdasdasd]

I agree with what you are saying, however what I am more saying is in the long-term scheme of things, personality attributes are going to ultimately be more significant than physical attributes. And it could be argued for some individuals that in getting to know someone, personality attributes can certainly compensate for "average" physical attributes, e.g. I find that if I learn someone is personally not appealing as a person, I will no longer see them as attractive physically either (even if from an objective perception, they may well be).

That's what I thought too. Like personality matters more.

 

[SylviaB]

I agree with what you are saying, however what I am more saying is in the long-term scheme of things, personality attributes are going to ultimately be more significant than physical attributes.

false

appearance is immediately obvious and will immediately determine whether or not a relationship is formed. personality is simply more subtle and is not fully obvious until a relationship has already been formed

 

[dangerouss]

Thoughts ?

Define significantly taller/shorter? Funnily enough, I was just discussing this with my best friend last night

 

[SylviaB]

In the study, which was recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, psychologist Andrea Meltzer tracked over 450 newlywed couples during the course of four years and posed the question: does a good-looking spouse lead to a more satisfying union?

What Meltzer and her team discovered was that spousal attractiveness does play a major role in marital satisfaction — but only for men. In other words, men care about looks more than women do.

The authors write, “The significant effect of wives’ attractiveness on husbands’ satisfaction was significantly stronger than the nonsignificant effect of husbands’ attractiveness on wives’ satisfaction, indicating that partner physical attractiveness played a larger role in predicting husbands’ marital satisfaction than it did in predicting wives’ marital satisfaction.”

http://psycnet.apa.org/index.cfm?fa=buy.optionToBuy&id=2013-35735-001

 

[InsoulvencyReaper]

Like most physical attributes, it does not really matter, but individuals have preferences anyway. With that said, I prefer someone taller than me, which probably would not be that hard to achieve.

See, to me, I think there has to be some degree of physical attraction.

I'd prefer someone taller in general, even if just slightly (LETS GET PHYSICAL, PHYSICAL - lol - first thing that popped into my mind)

 

[buriza]

false

appearance is immediately obvious and will immediately determine whether or not a relationship is formed. personality is simply more subtle and is not fully obvious until a relationship has already been formed

It depends on the individual and their dating methods, e.g. obviously not all individuals are going to go straight into dating someone. Some people date after developing a fairly decent friendship, of which personality attributes will become more notable.

 

[dangerouss]

I'd prefer someone taller in general, even if just slightly (LETS GET PHYSICAL, PHYSICAL - lol - first thing that popped into my mind)

You're the kind of girl who wouldn't date a guy shorter than she is, right?

 

[SylviaB]

You're the kind of girl who wouldn't date a guy shorter than she is, right?

you mean she's like 99% of other women

 

[buriza]

Define significantly taller/shorter? Funnily enough, I was just discussing this with my best friend last night

I would probably say significantly taller/shorter is ~15 centimetres. Maybe ~20 centimetres though. Significant makes it sound... significant.

you mean she's like 99% of other women

I don't think I've ever met a female that says she prefers males shorter than her.