at parties, get a little tipsy, srs
loosens most people up and confidence should rise a little
for normal stuff, just take it slow, make a couple of close friends and branch out, if you are having srs problems, then meds might help
I've always had a fair few friends because I'm nice enough irl, and I've always enjoyed going out to parties simply because it gives me an excuse to drink.
My main problem is with new people and groups of people. I know it's important to make friends at uni (and I really want to!) but I become incredibly scared to speak up in front of a group of others; I focus intensely on myself and fear I'm being boring/unfunny and tend to constrict my responses etc as a result. It's difficult because you end up wondering whether people are just being nice to be polite or whether they're actually enjoying your company :S
I've decided to try a number of things, until I can get a 'scrip for beta blockers to control the sudden attacks (they make adrenalin/epinephrine do nothing, stifling the 'fight-or-flight' response)
Mostly I'm go to:
1. Eat more (I'm underweight according to the BMI, probably missing out on some important nutrients or something)
2. Eat dark chocolate/cocoa nibs (proven in numerous studies to aid in the treatment of depression, very good for you otherwise)
3. Exercise more (gets endorphins flowing, improves self image/confidence)
4. Cut down on caffeine (I feel moody if I haven't had a caffeine hit, probably better to go without it entirely)
5. And more than anything, just feel positive and like everyone is nice rather than out to get me.
I might try this in conjunction with some low-dose antidepressants, but that depends on what my doctor says.
if you're not trolling: that's pretty bad. Talk to your GP about finding a psychologist that does Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, it works really really well and unlike drugs, its not just a bandaid fix.
Not trolling, it's the reason I'm such an asshat on the internet - apparently it's fairly common for people with anxiety to be arrogant dickheads to compensate. It's only now that I'm realising I need to tackle this ASAP if I'm going to enjoy my time at uni. I read about that CBT stuff and it seems good, but my parents said they're not going to pay a therapist and that I just need to 'get over it' :~(