Going overseas, don't want to leave gf (1 Viewer)

[flyingscotsman]

After going out with my gf for 6 months, I've found out I've got a job overseas for 6 months next year. She's in yr 11 this year, and I'll be away between like Feb and Sept of next year - i don't really want to put a use-by date on the relationship but I have no idea what will happen when I leave.

What is the best way to approach the issue with my gf? About whether or not we want to break up/keep seeing/go 'on a break' while I'm away... we will have been going out for a year by the time I leave and I dont want to come off too hopelessly sad or anything... HELP!!!

 

[Dreamerish*~]

After going out with my gf for 6 months, I've found out I've got a job overseas for 6 months next year. She's in yr 11 this year, and I'll be away between like Feb and Sept of next year - i don't really want to put a use-by date on the relationship but I have no idea what will happen when I leave.

What is the best way to approach the issue with my gf? About whether or not we want to break up/keep seeing/go 'on a break' while I'm away... we will have been going out for a year by the time I leave and I dont want to come off too hopelessly sad or anything... HELP!!!

You can't tell what will happen between the time you leave and the time you come back. Tell her how you feel about her now, and talk to her about it whichever way you think is necessary.

Time does strange things. You might be even more madly in love by the time you come back, or you might not give a toss about her. You'll just have to wait and see.

 

[666_blessings]

I'm sure whichever country you go to will have telephones. Use them. Until then, i agree ith dreamerish, you should definitely talk to your gf about it.

 

[MuffinMan]

lol dreamerish heh can u change ur cs now? nothing wrong with it but didnt u say u wanted it changed?

pffft to boys is dead =

 

[FoodForThought]

dude, take a break. if you mean alot to each other then you'll be back together when you got back... if not then it prolly wouldnt work out anywhoo...

but yeah.. definately talk to her... if your stuck with it she will probably have some kinda solution...

 

[Dreamerish*~]

lol dreamerish heh can u change ur cs now? nothing wrong with it but didnt u say u wanted it changed?

pffft to boys is dead =

Nup, still stuck. It would read "Mrs Smith" if it wasn't.

 

[PinkKiller]

hey it might be a good thing becasue it'll give her time to study for her hsc next year

 

[santaslayer]

Give it a break.

If either of you find someone more interesting than so be it.

 

[pinkblinkbarbie]

i mostly agree with dreamerish. its still 5 1/2 months away till you are going to leave. and an awful lot can happen in that time. i think (like dreamerish) that talking to her, and let her tell you how she feels is a good start.
she might see it as a good opportunity to have a break till you come back. but you will also be coming back near the time of her exams...so she will probably have a fair bit to say on the matter if school means a lot to her.

 

[azzie]

i'd give her the choice- tell her you really like/love her, tell her you will be faithful (if this is the truth, but make sure it is the truth) then give her the choice- ask her if she can stay with you though your appart and discuss ways to make it work.
where there's a will, there's a way.
and make sure you spend as much time with her as possible before you go.

 

[braad]

After going out with my gf for 6 months, I've found out I've got a job overseas for 6 months next year. She's in yr 11 this year, and I'll be away between like Feb and Sept of next year - i don't really want to put a use-by date on the relationship but I have no idea what will happen when I leave.

What is the best way to approach the issue with my gf? About whether or not we want to break up/keep seeing/go 'on a break' while I'm away... we will have been going out for a year by the time I leave and I dont want to come off too hopelessly sad or anything... HELP!!!

put her in a rucksack. carry-on luggage

 

[flyingscotsman]

hey it might be a good thing becasue it'll give her time to study for her hsc next year

yeah thats what i was thinking.... shes fairly independent with work and stuff - id probably be a distraction.

thanks for the help guys i think i know what to do... thanks heaps