i dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!! (1 Viewer)

[schamoozlers]

ok.. bit of background.. met this really really great guy, lives in my area, and we have been doing the whole txt message conversation thing for awhile now.. it was a two way street, the flirting that is... then we both arranged to go to this gig last nite.. and he dogs it.. i message him asking where he is.. he says hes not coming, i told him he was the only reason i was there and he acts all sorry and such, but wen i finally work up the courage to ask him whether or not me telling him i was there for him wuld of made ne difference.. he gets scared (impression i got) and runs away..

i honestly do not get this! im not one of those girls who is afraid of her feelings or wat he is going to say.. i just want a straight answer and he knows this... so why do boys seemingly put their emotions out there and then wen the girl goes for confirmation they get intimidated and run scared???

i just wanna know why boys like to toy with emotions.. p.s this isnt the first time eitha... im just sik of it

 

[iamsickofyear12]

ok.. bit of background.. met this really really great guy, lives in my area, and we have been doing the whole txt message conversation thing for awhile now.. it was a two way street, the flirting that is... then we both arranged to go to this gig last nite.. and he dogs it.. i message him asking where he is.. he says hes not coming, i told him he was the only reason i was there and he acts all sorry and such, but wen i finally work up the courage to ask him whether or not me telling him i was there for him wuld of made ne difference.. he gets scared (impression i got) and runs away..

i honestly do not get this! im not one of those girls who is afraid of her feelings or wat he is going to say.. i just want a straight answer and he knows this... so why do boys seemingly put their emotions out there and then wen the girl goes for confirmation they get intimidated and run scared???

i just wanna know why boys like to toy with emotions.. p.s this isnt the first time eitha... im just sik of it

That is all I have to say.

 

[schamoozlers]

lol.. i dont get it!!! please elaborate... txt message is easier.. i may b upfront with my emotions but i cant just jump on the fone to him... i have to work my way upto the fone convo.. i saw him every sunday for 2 months so its not like theres a lack of communication... sorry shuld of mentioned

 

[iamsickofyear12]

lol.. i dont get it!!! please elaborate... txt message is easier.. i may b upfront with my emotions but i cant just jump on the fone to him... i have to work my way upto the fone convo.. i saw him every sunday for 2 months so its not like theres a lack of communication... sorry shuld of mentioned

There is it again.

 

[Frigid]

refer to the e-life thread.

 

[lourai*87]

... the difference between me (e-life thread starter) and schamoozlers is that i am not totally reliant on electronic forms of communication I mean, if he lives in your area, there isnt really any excuse like you dont see him often enough..

In response to your

honestly do not get this! im not one of those girls who is afraid of her feelings or wat he is going to say.. i just want a straight answer and he knows this... so why do boys seemingly put their emotions out there and then wen the girl goes for confirmation they get intimidated and run scared???

i just wanna know why boys like to toy with emotions.. p.s this isnt the first time eitha... im just sik of it

While it is all flirting, etc everything feels great, right? And then the minute someone makes clear their feelings, everything changes. My theory (and im not alone on this) is that when we know someone feels for us, we start questioning "can i live up to their image of me" "am i good enough for them" etc etc. And you cant flirt anymore, because it will be seen as leading the person along, seeing you now know they actually like you, and so dont want to give a false impression. Maybe this fella is really insecure, and what you perceive as "toying with emotions" is actually him backing off so as to not hurt you.

I might point out, in defece of guys, it is not only guys who do this. Girls do it just as much. Put yourself in his position for a second. Oh, and an sms relationship is expensive

 

[50Cent]

did u send him a photo?

 

[shady_03]

ok.. bit of background.. met this really really great guy, lives in my area, and we have been doing the whole txt message conversation thing for awhile now.. it was a two way street, the flirting that is... then we both arranged to go to this gig last nite.. and he dogs it.. i message him asking where he is.. he says hes not coming, i told him he was the only reason i was there and he acts all sorry and such, but wen i finally work up the courage to ask him whether or not me telling him i was there for him wuld of made ne difference.. he gets scared (impression i got) and runs away..

i honestly do not get this! im not one of those girls who is afraid of her feelings or wat he is going to say.. i just want a straight answer and he knows this... so why do boys seemingly put their emotions out there and then wen the girl goes for confirmation they get intimidated and run scared???

i just wanna know why boys like to toy with emotions.. p.s this isnt the first time eitha... im just sik of it

I think ur whole approach was wrong, it seems that he liked the whole flirting thing and had fun with it and was genuinely gonna meet up with u, but wen he coul make it u seemed to "freak' a bit and start throwing all this emotional stuff at him which he wasnt read for. U shouldda been like "ok well im disapointed but maybe next time its ok' rather than "u didnt go why why? didnt u wanan come for me" etc, that wouldda scared ne guy off a bit. If ur not even goin out then dont put 2 much emption into it, just chill out and blow it off.

Another explanation - maybe he got radiation poisioning (comeing from lucas heights and all ....)

 

[schamoozlers]

im not totally reliant on technology for communication.. but i have been treated realllly badly by guys b4 and im not ready to dive head first into the deep end with it all again.. especially with said boy.. i know it sounds like im relying on msging etc to talk to him, but i do talk to him other than that, i see him lots, but its different once u have developed feelings for a guy, i find myself asking the same questions 'm i good enuff for him?' etc and things get awkward and confusing.... but its not like i came out of nowhere and said that i like him.. i simply told him he was the reason i was out that nite.. and he got scared? i talk to him on the fone, just not about the mushy side of things.. like i said.. past experiences will affect my actions in this situation lots.. as much as that sux.. im not heart broken coz he dogged it last nite, coz he was the one that missed after the fall, but i just wanna know why boys kinda give a little of their feelings away..then pull back...
i know girls do this, but as a girl who doesnt do it i dont understand it... its easier to get it out there isnt it?
as for the e-life.. i have been best friend with the most amazing guy ever for a good two years and never met him.. wuld never base a relationship on it tho.. coz there always has to be that attraction...

 

[shady_03]

did u send him a photo?

ill woop yo ass bitch

Wat aint a country i herd of... do they speak english in wat?
Look at the smart brains on brad! u one smart motherfuker thats right!

 

[50Cent]

I think ur whole approach was wrong, it seems that he liked the whole flirting thing and had fun with it and was genuinely gonna meet up with u, but wen he coul make it u seemed to "freak' a bit and start throwing all this emotional stuff at him which he wasnt read for. U shouldda been like "ok well im disapointed but maybe next time its ok' rather than "u didnt go why why? didnt u wanan come for me" etc, that wouldda scared ne guy off a bit. If ur not even goin out then dont put 2 much emption into it, just chill out and blow it off.

Another explanation - maybe he got radiation poisioning (comeing from lucas heights and all ....)

Shady hit the nail right on the head with this one.

On a serious note im you too sound like nice and honest people y would people take advantage of that. Oh wait cause thats the type of people who get taken advantage of, u didnt have them wrapped around ur finger, thats what tha hoes do best, work it ur way next time.

 

[schamoozlers]

I think ur whole approach was wrong, it seems that he liked the whole flirting thing and had fun with it and was genuinely gonna meet up with u, but wen he coul make it u seemed to "freak' a bit and start throwing all this emotional stuff at him which he wasnt read for. U shouldda been like "ok well im disapointed but maybe next time its ok' rather than "u didnt go why why? didnt u wanan come for me" etc, that wouldda scared ne guy off a bit. If ur not even goin out then dont put 2 much emption into it, just chill out and blow it off.

Another explanation - maybe he got radiation poisioning (comeing from lucas heights and all ....)

it wasnt an attack of emotions! i know it sounds like it..
i sent him a message wen i got there coz i culdnt hear a thing wen i called him.. asking where he was.. he explained that he didnt wanna come coz all he wanted to see was after the fall and all these other crap bands were playing and that if it wasnt sold out he wuld come down.. it was a civilised convo.. and i sent him a msg abit late saying that he was a dog and stuff with a playful ' the only reason i came was u!!' and he knows me well enuff to know that its playful.. and he was fine about it even saying 'i didnt know that i wuld b there now if did!' -direct quote
and it wasnt til later that i asked him whether or not me telling him that he was the reason for my coming out wuld of made ne difference that he went all funny.. i dont know if he was scared/intimidated and frankly this is not the point i was wondering why guys IN GENERAL back off so quickly? as much as chix do it too i can ask my friends about that but i wanna know why guys do it!... this has NOTHING to do with my situation it was simply a bit of context so u understood the reason for my question

 

[hiphophorray123]

ok.. bit of background.. met this really really great guy, lives in my area, and we have been doing the whole txt message conversation thing for awhile now.. it was a two way street, the flirting that is... then we both arranged to go to this gig last nite.. and he dogs it.. i message him asking where he is.. he says hes not coming, i told him he was the only reason i was there and he acts all sorry and such, but wen i finally work up the courage to ask him whether or not me telling him i was there for him wuld of made ne difference.. he gets scared (impression i got) and runs away..

i honestly do not get this! im not one of those girls who is afraid of her feelings or wat he is going to say.. i just want a straight answer and he knows this... so why do boys seemingly put their emotions out there and then wen the girl goes for confirmation they get intimidated and run scared???

i just wanna know why boys like to toy with emotions.. p.s this isnt the first time eitha... im just sik of it

you are such a fucking slut

 

[Korn]

im not totally reliant on technology for communication.. but i have been treated realllly badly by guys b4 and im not ready to dive head first into the deep end with it all again.. especially with said boy.. i know it sounds like im relying on msging etc to talk to him, but i do talk to him other than that, i see him lots, but its different once u have developed feelings for a guy, i find myself asking the same questions 'm i good enuff for him?' etc and things get awkward and confusing.... but its not like i came out of nowhere and said that i like him.. i simply told him he was the reason i was out that nite.. and he got scared? i talk to him on the fone, just not about the mushy side of things.. like i said.. past experiences will affect my actions in this situation lots.. as much as that sux.. im not heart broken coz he dogged it last nite, coz he was the one that missed after the fall, but i just wanna know why boys kinda give a little of their feelings away..then pull back...
i know girls do this, but as a girl who doesnt do it i dont understand it... its easier to get it out there isnt it?
as for the e-life.. i have been best friend with the most amazing guy ever for a good two years and never met him.. wuld never base a relationship on it tho.. coz there always has to be that attraction...

LOL I read that as i have been treated realllly badly by guys b4 and im not ready to give head first into the deep end with it all again.. especially with said boy


"but i just wanna know why boys kinda give a little of their feelings away..then pull back...
i know girls do this, but as a girl who doesnt do it i dont understand it... its easier to get it out there isnt it?"

Because alot of the time you chicks like to fuck with guys minds, and so we arent gonna give away to much unless we are 100% certain we have a shot (I know alot of ppl who are and/or have been this way) So unless your indicating (NOT slightly suggesting) your into him, u fuck ur chances up.

"i have been best friend with the most amazing guy ever for a good two years and never met him.. wuld never base a relationship on it tho.. coz there always has to be that attraction"

Your best friend you have never met, you are sounding weirder by the second, get of ur fucking fone, and the net and actually go outside & meet ppl

 

[hiphophorray123]

Shady hit the nail right on the head with this one.

On a serious note im you too sound like nice and honest people y would people take advantage of that. Oh wait cause thats the type of people who get taken advantage of, u didnt have them wrapped around ur finger, thats what tha hoes do best, work it ur way next time.

props mayne

 

[50Cent]

this is getting all into that emotional shit, just text fuck him then youll see the true side of him.

 

[shady_03]

Shady hit the nail right on the head with this one.

On a serious note im you too sound like nice and honest people y would people take advantage of that. Oh wait cause thats the type of people who get taken advantage of, u didnt have them wrapped around ur finger, thats what tha hoes do best, work it ur way next time.

As did u with that post....

tha hoes just fuk tho! lol

 

[hiphophorray123]

i suck cock coz im a fkn faget

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[schamoozlers]

Shady hit the nail right on the head with this one.

On a serious note im you too sound like nice and honest people y would people take advantage of that. Oh wait cause thats the type of people who get taken advantage of, u didnt have them wrapped around ur finger, thats what tha hoes do best, work it ur way next time.

im not a hoe! im a normal girl with normal emotions and feelings i dont feel like this with everyone! and like i said it was a two way street! i do not 'work' guys.. and people get taken advantage of bcoz otha ppl are jerks. and i wuld know this. please dont judge me wen u dont know me.. thats cliche but so right in this situation...

 

[hiphophorray123]

text him offering him head, it'll work i guarentee you