Mateship Rules (1 Viewer)

[ur_inner_child]

Boy introduces new girlfriend to his mates

Mates think she's good company

The couple decide to break up for reasons of their own, no third parties involved, boy does NOT want to see her again.

Girlfriend MUST piss off and not hang out with the ex's mates as if their her own.

& vice versa of genders

Discuss.


EDIT: i feel this is fairly controversal. oh and discuss other scenarios if you so please

 

[minushuman]

Girlfriend MUST piss off and not hang out with the ex's mates as if their her own.

Uh, that's like a given. If the boyfriend had not been so kind an generous as to introduce her into his circle of mates then she wouldn't know them. Plus there's the immense danger of her opening her mouth about his sexual performance and/or penis size in a negative manner amongst said circle of mates; which would be detrimental to his bond with them.

 

[ur_inner_child]

Uh, that's like a given. If the boyfriend had not been so kind an generous as to introduce her into his circle of mates then she wouldn't know them. Plus there's the immense danger of her opening her mouth about his sexual performance and/or penis size in a negative manner amongst said circle of mates; which would be detrimental to his bond with them.

wouldn't know if its a given. i thought i'd make a thread about it because its become one of those issues that have been recurring in my life.

 

[hipsta_jess]

Did you and your bf break up? *hugs* you seemed so...together.

Anyway, I'm in a situation that I don't see my friends ex anymore, even though he was an awesome guy and I miss him a lot...but if I did, I think there would be some awkwardness there, so its probably best to avoid it.

 

[ur_inner_child]

Did you and your bf break up? *hugs* you seemed so...together.

Anyway, I'm in a situation that I don't see my friends ex anymore, even though he was an awesome guy and I miss him a lot...but if I did, I think there would be some awkwardness there, so its probably best to avoid it.

oh no. we're still together

just this girl who wont get out of this group.

aww... babe <3

 

[AlleyCat]

it sort of depends on how long the relationship has been going on for. if they have been together for years, and the girl has grown close to his friends, then its not fair to tell her to just fuck off. but if its just a short fling, the friendship between the mates is threatened by the girl, and in this instance i think it would be best if she pisses off.

friends of mine have been in a similar situation but more often than not the girl will find it too wierd to hang out with an unfriendly ex and move on.

i agree with you though, its not a simple problem.

 

[^CoSMic DoRiS^^]

yeah its not simple. i guess it depends on a lot of things: how friendly the girl/guy was with the mates before they got together; how messy the break up was; how long they were together for. using the example of two of my friends - they'd been friends with each other for ages before going out and shared a lot of friends since a big bunch of us are really close and seem to be constantly going out with each other. so when they broke up it wouldnt have been fair to expect either one to stop hanging out with their significant other's friends, because most of them were the same anyway. but if it had been different...like if they werent friends before getting together, they had different groups of friends, etc, then maybe you could expect that they would keep away from each other's social groups. it really depends on the individual situation and theres no one right answer.