men are from mars, women are from venus (1 Viewer)

[iambored]

has anyone read the book or bits of the book?

is it fairly true for your own sex?

e.g.

women - like to talk when someone is upset, probes and asks questions when people go quiet. when people do this to them (be caring)= they feel loved

men - go quiet and withdraw when upset. don't like people asking then questions. leaving them alone = the woman trusts him to deal and cope = they feel loved

 

[pinkblinkbarbie]

im a girl, and it applies 100% to me

 

[SweetSeasons]

My friends and I where having a talk about this, and we reckn that the guys all of a sudden are becomming the emotional clingy ones, WTF is up with that?

 

[OZGIRL86]

has anyone read the book or bits of the book?

is it fairly true for your own sex?

e.g.

women - like to talk when someone is upset, probes and asks questions when people go quiet. when people do this to them (be caring)= they feel loved

men - go quiet and withdraw when upset. don't like people asking then questions. leaving them alone = the woman trusts him to deal and cope = they feel loved

I havn't read the book, though from what you have said I think it is what happens, and is fairly true for both males and females

 

[jumb]

Aww, you just ruined the story for me.

 

[iambored]

My friends and I where having a talk about this, and we reckn that the guys all of a sudden are becomming the emotional clingy ones, WTF is up with that?

that's an example of not knowing how far to take the book, i suppose you have to read your partner and go from there

but damn, why don't we all know info like this, how can males and females communicate if they respond exactly opposite in the same situations and expect the other gender to react the same as them!

 

[jumb]

that's an example of not knowing how far to take the book, i suppose you have to read your partner and go from there

but damn, why don't we all know info like this, how can males and females communicate if they respond exactly opposite in the same situations and expect the other gender to react the same as them!

Because opposites attract. If we wanted someone like US then we would be single and enjoy our own company more.

 

[Shuter]

but damn, why don't we all know info like this, how can males and females communicate if they respond exactly opposite in the same situations and expect the other gender to react the same as them!

I wouldn't expect that. I would expect a girl to talk to me about her problems and I'm fine with that, but if I have problems I would like her to leave me alone unless I ask for it, or if she even knows me better than I do and realises I should actually talk about it.

I wouldn't expect the opposite sex to react the same as me, by definition.

 

[iambored]

well that's ok if you recognise the girl wants to talk to you, what if other guys don't and leave her alone? on the same line, what if girls thought continually asking their guy to talk was the best thing?

 

[jumb]

well that's ok if you recognise the girl wants to talk to you, what if other guys don't and leave her alone? on the same line, what if girls thought continually asking their guy to talk was the best thing?

Then they would be wrong. It's annoying when they do that.

 

[pinkblinkbarbie]

i dont expect my boyfriend to talk unless he wants to... i can tell when he is shitty, and if he is, ill ask him whats wrong, if he says nothing, ill leave it at that because he obviously doesnt want to talk. but if he does, he knows ill listen.
he listens when i have something wrong, though he can usually tell because i wont talk to anyone or im crying. we have a pretty good communication realtionship, by understanding each other and respecting each others time, space and feelings

 

[uwsstudent]

i did read some

it's a good psychology book, i mean good for couples to learn how not to break up, usually people doesn't speak out about their emotions and then end up argueing, i guess this book is a reason to teach u how and when to understand ur partner, i guess all psychology students get some benefit from reading this, i think it belongs to social psychology field of intrest