Threesomes - The emotions involved & bi-sexuality (1 Viewer)

[dany_starlet]

I have two questions.

If I am physically and sexually attracted to a female when I am horny, does that put the label of being bi-sexual on me?

How do you overcome the emotional barrier between you and your boyfriend and another girl during a threesome?

I've had lots of thoughts of including another girl in my boy's and I's sexual relationship by having a threesome. He's open to the idea (as most males would be) and sometimes I really get into the idea, not just to please my man but myself as well.

And yes, it's all fun when your in the mood but I could just imagine the jealousy that would be created during the 'fun' and that could really put me off.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

As for your threesome idea, be very very careful.

Have a look at this.

 

[FreakTrigger]

My advice is definitely have a talk about it with your boyfriend, not just in the sense of whether or not he's up for it, but your concerns over the emotional issues - if you feel that your both sufficiently down to earth, and the second girl is someone that you trust and your comfortable with, then do it and enjoy it.

You only live once.

The emotional barrier is only a problem if you let it be.

And so far as labels, what does it matter?

 

[minushuman]

Mind if I jump next in line incase you two break up? Threesomes sound hawt
But yeah, as already stated by the more sensible/intelligent members, be very careful because in all likelyhood it is going to end bad.

And no, your not a lesbian, no that there's anything wrong with that. But sure i'd probably label you as bi-sexual if your sober and willing to have a threesome with another female, but there deffinetly isn't anything wrong with that.

 

[val_dramaqueen]

about the bisexual thing...
1) girls are a lot more comfortable with other girls and a lot of girls can say that they find other girls attractive. this doesn't make them gay or bi, they are simply comfortable with the fact that the other person is a girl and they are attractive. Guys however, aren't comfortable with this (obviously, unless they're gay or bi)...
2) If you really think girls are attractive and guys, you may be bi... BUT if you're one of these girls that just like the idea when you're pissed, then no, i don't think so. I'd put that down to either bi-curious or randy!
3) Threesomes are meant to be a fun activity... If you're not sure of how your man will take it (as in, possibly fall for the other girl) or how the "emotions involved" will do anything to your relationship, DONT DO IT. You should only do what you feel comfortable with. You should probably do the threesome thing in a "no-strings" kinda way (as in, not on a regular basis with the 3rd person)
4) how to find these people? If you're a friend with someone who you know is bi and is interested in something like this, then a friend could be the way to go. BUT only someone you can trust and you both feel comfortable with. You can also find people interested in personals at adult shops or online. If you're gonna do it with someone online (as in, find someone from an online site), make sure you talk to them on the phone, meet them in person, and only go through with it if you feel comfortable with them. Just search google for something like gaydar... you can set up yourself a profile
Hope that helps... I haven't actually had a threesome nor been asked for one but this way is prolly the best/easiest/safest way to go about it..
remember, don't do anything/anyone you're not comfortable with. It's supposed to be fun, remember? so don't let the emotional side of it get to you TOO much

 

[Skeeta]

You're just curious.. theres nothin wrong with you.

Infact its better that you want to do it for your own pleasure as well as his - this way you are both enjoying the act and in turn you are less likely to regret or have doubts with what you're doing

If you are thinkin about having a threesome it should definitely be because you are sexually attracted to another female, otherwise you're likely to feel used


on that note, i wouldnt have a threesome in a relationship for that reason, i dont find myself sexually attracted to girls in that way (although i can appreaciate the beauty of a naked woman) and it would be my partner that is having the fantasy - not both of us

 

[azzie]

i think everyone's pretty much said it- talk to him.

as for your sexuality, ask him how far he's willing to let you go and experiment, if thats what you'd like, before you get him involved in a threesome. you should get a better idea of your sexual orientation before you get into that kinda stuff. at least i think that would be a wise idea.

 

[Skeeta]

oh and another thing, theres a different thing between being sexually attracted to a girl, and being a bi-sexual, which imo has more to do with love.

If you believe that you may possibly fall in love and have a marriage-type relationship with a woman or man, then IMO thats what makes you bi, not the sexual attraction

 

[dany_starlet]

Well i'm defiantly not bi then... but i like being with girls during sex.

We've talked about it before, he'd love it and so would I but I wanted to know if there is an actual way to overcome the jealousy. I will always be protective of my boy, no time can change that but is there a way I could look past it or is there no hope?