would u be bothered? (1 Viewer)

[CoffeeBeans]

wold u be bothered if ur gf/bf could only stay out @ night till 11pm the latest due to a strict families curfew?

i spend heaps of time with my bf during the day, but the more interesting stuff happens at night... he is a more outgoing person, and im not sure if he is annoyed by this..

am i making too big of a fuss about it? what do u think?

 

[Inscrutable]

its only a problem is your bf has a problem with it,
but if he really likes you then after 11 shouldnt be fun for him

cant really tell if ur making a big fuss, only ur bf knows, trying asking him?

 

[iambored]

i was staring at that for a while, i thought you were wondering if you should be bothered continuing with the relationship.

would i be worried or angry etc.? i don't know, 11pm is quite early, but at the same time i'd respect him for listening to his family. ask him if it bothers him?

 

[Inscrutable]

now its confusing, whose the one thats not allowed after 11, the bf or gf?

 

[iambored]

the bf

edit - i re-read the post, you're right, it's the gf

to which i say - the only way you'll know is to ask him.

 

[Inscrutable]

ohh bf, then let me rephrase

its only a problem is you have a problem with it,
but if you really like him and are serious then after 11 shouldnt be more fun for you

yeh i guess ur making a big fussfor no reason, BUT it might be fussy if only ur bf doesnt like it, trying asking him

 

[jumb]

You can have sex and get home before 11pm. So whats the deal?

 

[Inscrutable]

omg man im confused now


top it all off:
IT SHOULDNT BE A PROBLEM FOR ANYONE (BF OR GF) UNLESS THEY ARENT SERIOUS ABOUT EACH OTHER

 

[Inscrutable]

You can have sex and get home before 11pm. So whats the deal?

oh why not? ...... lol

 

[Casmira]

lucky you, i got 8pm curfew

 

[Inscrutable]

lucky you, i got 8pm curfew

8? lolz,
the funny thing is i know i have a curfew but ive never tested it so i dont know what time it is

 

[CoffeeBeans]

lucky you, i got 8pm curfew

if u were to come home afa this curfew, what would happen?

im getting kicked out :S

 

[jumb]

if u were to come home afa this curfew, what would happen?

im getting kicked out :S

Spankings?

 

[Inscrutable]

Spankings?

lolz, nah maybe just not going out again

 

[table for 1]

11 pm is kinda late, imo. what can you really do that you can't do just a bit earlier?

anyways, i don't really see how it should impact your relationship in a big way. you guys should be able to sustain a strong relationship without the need to stay up all through the night. if you guys are meant to be, then you guys will be able to handle something like this

just don't let him influence you into doing something you're not quite sure you want to [ie. don't let him make you feel guilty as though you need to push your boundaries]

 

[Inscrutable]

11 pm is kinda late, imo. what can you really do that you can't do just a bit earlier?

anyways, i don't really see how it should impact your relationship in a big way. you guys should be able to sustain a strong relationship without the need to stay up all through the night. if you guys are meant to be, then you guys will be able to handle something like this

just don't let him influence you into doing something you're not quite sure you want to [ie. don't let him make you feel guilty as though you need to push your boundaries]

totally agree, ive been there and i pushed every boundary and in the end, i not only lost that person but others that were close

always put urself first, ALWAYS.... and u should be alright

 

[mmm_sofay]

woo, i dont have a curfew.
and um, yeah, its only a problem if you make it a problem.

 

[MaryJane]

How old are you? Is he still at school? I think 11 is pretty ok I guess. I've never had a curfew, but it seems reasonable. You can do heaps of things at night which would make sure he'd be at home by 11.... do they enforce the curfew? It will change as you get older, parents will realise that they cant control their childs life. If you're serious about this guy, it really shouldnt matter at all.

And, if you're allowed to stay the night, the night doesnt have to end at 11, if you get my drift!

 

[Jiga]

Ive never had a curfew, I cant believe ppl on or above 16 can have one! In this particular case, if you havent already done so, maybe you should confront your parents in a civilised manner about this. Obviously during the week 11pm is ok, but on weekends, 11pm is early as.

 

[pinkblinkbarbie]

when i was in year 11, my curfew was 10 on a school night and 11/12 on weekends depending on what was happening. my then boyfriend didnt mind and either did i. we were still seeing each other so it was no big problem really. like we were only 15/16 he was 16/17, so its not like we were going to go clubbing or anything.
but since about may last year i havent had a curfew at all, i also got a new a boyfriend i wonder if that changed it