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im sick of being the tag along with my 2 supposed best mates and their boyfs. they both started relationship[s around the same time and for 6 months it was 'party of 5'. now its a party of 4.. they never do anything thats not a 'couples' thing. everything involves blah and their partner.. theyve stopped calling and emailing and the like. we never see each other... and when we do.. we have nothing that the 3 of us can chat about so it ends up going back to the boys (if theyre not already there) anyway...

these are girls that ive known almost my whole life and i never thought 2 penises could come between 20 years of friendship.. what a joke.

i feel like im another fucking bridget jones.

ahhh vent... stories? advice?
 

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Get yourself a partner.
 

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if it was that easy dont you think i would have by now?
 
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bex said:
im sick of being the tag along with my 2 supposed best mates and their boyfs. they both started relationship[s around the same time and for 6 months it was 'party of 5'. now its a party of 4.. they never do anything thats not a 'couples' thing. everything involves blah and their partner.. theyve stopped calling and emailing and the like. we never see each other... and when we do.. we have nothing that the 3 of us can chat about so it ends up going back to the boys (if theyre not already there) anyway...

these are girls that ive known almost my whole life and i never thought 2 penises could come between 20 years of friendship.. what a joke.

i feel like im another fucking bridget jones.

ahhh vent... stories? advice?
tried to bring someone else into the mesh?? like not neccesarily date them but just someone who you can hang around with more... kinda equalise things so they see what they are doing...
 

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Make a pass at one of the two guys in front of your girlfriends. You'll never have to be a fifth wheel again.
 

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Find yourself some new friends, or hang with your other friends.

You can't really talk to them about it because it's likely that they'll end up laughing at you.

So my advice is, get some new friends, get a boyfriend, or just don't go out. :p

Of course you can learn to become good friends with their boyfriends so you won't feel left out when you're all together.
 

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santaslayer said:
Wait for your friends to break up with their boyfriends. It works every time.
speed it up, spread a rumour
 

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If your friends think that their new boyfriends are more important than 20 years of friendship you should be the one telling them where to go. Avoid them... hit the town, make some new mates and when they call you and want to do something, let them know you simply don't have enough time for them.
 

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little_shaz said:
If your friends think that their new boyfriends are more important than 20 years of friendship you should be the one telling them where to go. Avoid them... hit the town, make some new mates and when they call you and want to do something, let them know you simply don't have enough time for them.
That's harsh.
They could be doing it unknowingly.


Best thing is to wait for them to breakup. Trying to speed it up will ruin your friendship. Unless you can do it cunningly and covertly.
 

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hmm... youve all offered good suggestions.. i think they will realise in time.. whether theyre doing it unknowingly or not.

i do know that ive got to be proactive about it and just go and do my own thing.. which im learning very quickly how to do!
thanks for all your advice!
 

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bex said:
im sick of being the tag along with my 2 supposed best mates and their boyfs. they both started relationship[s around the same time and for 6 months it was 'party of 5'. now its a party of 4.. they never do anything thats not a 'couples' thing. everything involves blah and their partner.. theyve stopped calling and emailing and the like. we never see each other... and when we do.. we have nothing that the 3 of us can chat about so it ends up going back to the boys (if theyre not already there) anyway...

these are girls that ive known almost my whole life and i never thought 2 penises could come between 20 years of friendship.. what a joke.

i feel like im another fucking bridget jones.

ahhh vent... stories? advice?
hmm im in sort of the same situation, except that one of my best friends bf's is my ex, so he doesnt ever come out with us, coz its really awkward, and my other best friends bf is an absolute wanker, and i hate him, and im teh driver of our little group so what i say goes, and he doesnt come. besides, hes such a shit bf that he's rather sit at her house and smoke pot then spend 5 mins with her.
 

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shellybelly087 said:
hmm im in sort of the same situation, except that one of my best friends bf's is my ex, so he doesnt ever come out with us, coz its really awkward, and my other best friends bf is an absolute wanker, and i hate him, and im teh driver of our little group so what i say goes, and he doesnt come. besides, hes such a shit bf that he's rather sit at her house and smoke pot then spend 5 mins with her.
Doesn't it suck ass when your friend is going out with an absolute fucker and you can't say anything about it because it'll be taken the wrong way?
 

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shellybelly087 said:
hmm im in sort of the same situation, except that one of my best friends bf's is my ex, so he doesnt ever come out with us, coz its really awkward, and my other best friends bf is an absolute wanker, and i hate him, and im teh driver of our little group so what i say goes, and he doesnt come. besides, hes such a shit bf that he's rather sit at her house and smoke pot then spend 5 mins with her.
if he's at her house (smoking pot) wouldnt he be spending time with her :rolleyes:

also, girls...guys are just assholes...and some of us are absolute wankers...but you should stand up for what ou think, if you dont like them then dont socialise with them...and shellybelly, if you're driving, fuck him off...YOU're the driver, so make the rules clear, and make sure he knows what he can and cant do/say
 
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to dreamerish- lol we tell her every single day that hes a lsoer, and that she's gotta get rid of him. her excuse is that hes changed over the two years they've been together, and he might go back to the old days, where he was the biggest sweetie.

and to braad- no. he lives at her house yes, but always brings his own pothead mates over, and if by spending time with my friend, you mean swearing at her, insulting her, and stealing her money, then yeah sure, he spends time with her
 

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shellybelly087 said:
to dreamerish- lol we tell her every single day that hes a lsoer, and that she's gotta get rid of him. her excuse is that hes changed over the two years they've been together, and he might go back to the old days, where he was the biggest sweetie.

and to braad- no. he lives at her house yes, but always brings his own pothead mates over, and if by spending time with my friend, you mean swearing at her, insulting her, and stealing her money, then yeah sure, he spends time with her
um...no, i didnt mean that, it was tongue in cheek..but yeh
 

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santaslayer said:
That's harsh.
They could be doing it unknowingly.


Best thing is to wait for them to breakup. Trying to speed it up will ruin your friendship. Unless you can do it cunningly and covertly.
Fair enough. But I assume that they're not completely ignorant to the fact either. They probably know or have a feeling... BUT they choose to ignore it and still spend time with the boyfriend.

When I suggested how to resolve the issue, I intended it to be carried out in a very stealthy manner. It's no use having them know what you're doing, because then you'll just look pathetic.
 

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bex said:
im sick of being the tag along with my 2 supposed best mates and their boyfs. they both started relationship[s around the same time and for 6 months it was 'party of 5'. now its a party of 4.. they never do anything thats not a 'couples' thing. everything involves blah and their partner.. theyve stopped calling and emailing and the like. we never see each other... and when we do.. we have nothing that the 3 of us can chat about so it ends up going back to the boys (if theyre not already there) anyway...

these are girls that ive known almost my whole life and i never thought 2 penises could come between 20 years of friendship.. what a joke.

i feel like im another fucking bridget jones.

ahhh vent... stories? advice?
AH SO KNOWING WAT U MEAN

far out my bestfriend i have spoken to about 3 times in about 6 months as her BF is MUCH MUCH more important than friendship... What a HOE
 

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