I'm not sure you understand my perspective, vahl.
Changing an aspect of one's behaviour does not change the self. If a little boy occasionally (not constantly) plays with mummy's clothes, that doesn't make him a girl - it shows that he's curious, or he likes the colours, or something - if you asked him, he might tell you.
If one is to change due to a moral reason, then one must be convicted of that reason from the core of oneself. It's good for a role model to show the way, but true change comes from within.
You suggested a few pages back that you thought it would be more beneficial for society to have something of a more open kinship structure - where all of the community looked after the children and so on. What is this then, but many many role models and family for the children?
I would suggest that a truly good role model would, when neccessary, say "I'm doing this, or saying this, because (insert moral reason here)" - they are showing their beliefs through their actions, and occasionally telling as well, so that others can be clear.
If you get to know your role model, you learn more and more about them all the time - you will never get the full picture, but this is not neccesary, as you are developing as your own person, and if a mainly similar moral base is established, people can get along fine.