Biggest dilemma of my young life! (1 Viewer)

[miaomiao]

Who made you the judge?

 

[Lhyviathan]

I'm just basing this on what I've already heard, and I'm entitled to my opinion.

If someone posts their situation on the board, I daresay they're asking to be judged, for better or worse. In this situation, I feel as though the girl and the ex are in the wrong.

There. My opinion. Yours is just as valid.

 

[miaomiao]

I give you all 10 ot of 10 for trying

 

[Cyph]

I am sorry, but you are a slut.

 

[OZGIRL86]

Ok maybe that is a bit of an exaggeration, but it's pretty bad. This is my problem in a nutshell (look its me in a nutshell- sorry had to add the austin powers reference)

I am with my current bf who is a great and sweet guy, someone that i dont really deserve, and i am torn between him and another guy who just happens to be my ex. It all started when my ex rang me last week after getting back from being overseas for a year fucking aroung Europe and was like "You wanna catch up?" and i was like for sure. Note- we only broke up because he was leaving and we knew we wouldnt of been able to handle long distance at all!

So anyway... we met up and one thing led to another and i ended up sleeping with him again thus cheating on my bf who doesnt deserve this type of treatment at all. Now, all of the old feelings for my ex have come flooding back and i am not sure what to do!!!! Should i go with the ex or the current bf!!!!


AAAH, im seriously going insane here! Has anyone been in a similar situation? What do you guys think i should do? I need help my mates are no help because they are too close and cannot give any objectivity to the situation

Sorry but you are right, your current bf dosn't deserve being cheated on and I don't think you deserve him at all. leave him before he ends up getting hurt in the end.
If you have feelings for someone else then you shouldn't be with your current bf,and when your in a relaitonship and you care and love a person you shouldnt feel the need to cheat,and you wouldn't do anything to hurt them..
Go back to your ex.

 

[HellVeN]

I am sorry, but you are a slut.

Don't say the s word, it's too great a compliment.

 

[thejosiekiller]

yep u fucked up

its all ur fault and i hope u learn something from this

i feel sorry for the current bf cause i doesnt matter really if hes cheated b4 cause i dont judge ppl on their past entirely always- it doesnt make what u did as right

the fact remains while he was with u he was faithful and u were not- dont dig up ppls past and throw it in their face cause u feel guilty

 

[Ranger Stacie]

i think you and your ex deserve eachother

 

[llamalope]

yeh i contemplated it, torching yourself is always the way to solve your love life

soha- my ex knew i was with someone else and he was like it doesnt matter we should be together because i love you and i missed you and all that crap!!!! AAAH... maybe i should just break it off with both and have a fresh start?

Or maybe i could just set myself alight...

Girl, just remember this...you broke up for a reason right? whats to say that this time it will really be any better in the long run if you go back to your ex?

 

[rantman]

toss a coin ffs

 

[Beckiki_S]

Okay guys ease up she knows she did the wrong thing but she asked for advice not condemnation.

And i'm sorry I think your ex is a bit of a jerk for putting you in this situation... I KNOW it takes two to tango but if he cared about you he wouldn't have given you "the biggest dilemma of you young life" - he would say "decide how you feel and i'll wait" thats if he REALLY wanted to be with you... not just sleep with you.

So i say if the nice new guy will have you you should stay with him... but leave it up to him. Some people can get over these kinds of things and some people can't. It took me a lot of time but i got over it and i know the ex that cheated on me is a good person who just made a mistake and so maybe you can work it out.

And remember it's been a year... at this age people change heaps in a year! You could have thrown away a great relationship for something that should be left in the past.

Okay good luck.. be honest and don't ever do it again.

 

[thejosiekiller]

i just dont think its such a big dilemma as she makes it out to be

she cheated on her bf with her ex- it seems obvious that she shouldnt be with her current bf

but in regards to whether she should get back with her ex?? i dont know- it seems like u traded the nice guy for the guy better in bed

or does he just seem better in bed cause it wasnt meant to happen?

 

[pinkblinkbarbie]

ok, firstly, you have to be honest with your boyfriend, when all hell breaks loose- be honest. you owe him that much. it will be his decision on what happens, if he stay with you, he is an awesome guy, and definently a boyfriend you should keep, if he dumps you, you deserved it (not to be harsh), but there will be someone else for you.
ask yourself: if i really loved my boyfriend that much, would i cheat on him?
do i deserve to have my boyfriend after how i acted?
if i cheated on my boyfriend to be with him, how much do i love my ex?
and similar questions...figure out for yourself, who you love more, who you want to be with, who makes you heappiest, treats you right etc. basically make a pro and cons list about each of them

 

[imsooverskool]

i just dont think its such a big dilemma as she makes it out to be

she cheated on her bf with her ex- it seems obvious that she shouldnt be with her current bf

but in regards to whether she should get back with her ex?? i dont know- it seems like u traded the nice guy for the guy better in bed

or does he just seem better in bed cause it wasnt meant to happen?

ok obviously u didnt read my first post because i did state in my first sentence that it was not the worst thing that could of happened to me but it was pretty bad, so yeh all i am asking for is some advice and it is not like i am going to slit my wrists over what has happened

for all of those people who have labelled me a slut, thats fine you are entitled to your self rightous opinions, but just remember that noone is perfect and there will come a day when you do something that is fucked up that you should not have done- SO FUCK YOU! Now invision how perfect you think you are, i have news for you, you aren't

and for the inevitable "Well you posted your sexual indiscretions on a forum you deserved to be condemened for your actions!" i accept that, but all i did was come on here and ask what people would do in my situation, as i know that i am
not the only person in the world to cheat on someone.

all that rant being said i do not condone my actions and you are right that what i did was fucked up and inexcusable. so give me a break!!!!!

 

[imsooverskool]

btw, thanks beckiki and pinkblinkbarbie for actually giving me some advice and not just condemning me!

 

[thejosiekiller]

there goes any sympathy for u

and btw with advice comes condemnation as u said- its just the way it is

dont get pissed off by this when uve got clearly more worrying things to think about

 

[Beckiki_S]

btw, thanks beckiki and pinkblinkbarbie for actually giving me some advice and not just condemning me!

thats cool...

thejosiekiller's right, with advice comes condemnation but it still sucks bad... i know!

So how are you feeling about it all now? Were we any help in deciding what to do or are u still "dilemmarised"?

 

[imsooverskool]

there goes any sympathy for u

i didnt really detect much sympathy from you, not that i want any! Despite the whiny and complaining feel of my posts im not here for people to go ooh poor you, because people should'nt and rightly dont feel sorry for me- all i wanted is for people to tell me what they would do in a similar position-

of course there are alot of people on BOS who are perfect and would never make as big of a mistake as i have so i guess i shouldnt have expected too much

 

[imsooverskool]

thats cool...

thejosiekiller's right, with advice comes condemnation but it still sucks bad... i know!

So how are you feeling about it all now? Were we any help in deciding what to do or are u still "dilemmarised"?

i guess i knew what i should have done all along i guess i needed the opinions of others to verify it. Basically, i am going to tell my bf what happened and im pretty sure he will also become my ex and tell my current ex that nothing is going to happen. I'm pretty sure i am better off making a fresh start

 

[thejosiekiller]

i just think u should stop over-reacting to little things

for instance telling ppl to go fuck themselves when u post in an internet forum

im glad uve made a decision but dont offend others cause advice is not only that when u like what ur hearing...so what if some ppl online tell u off, expect that and more from ur bf. thats my advice