Boy/girlfriend going away... (1 Viewer)

[tammer]

Okay I'm in a bit of a dilemma...

I have recently started seeing this guy. He is awesome, and I like him heaps..
He is really concerned because he is going overseas for about 3 months in January, and he is scared that I will get hurt when he goes..
I guess I'm being silly about it now saying everything will be fine because I'm caught up in the moment.
But when I think about it, 3 months is a long time...
Maybe it will be too hard to handle.

Should I not get close to him because of this, or should it not be too much of an issue?

I get really upset when he talks about it already, I'm going to be pretty shattered when it happens I suppose...

Help me out here!

 

[datAsianGuy]

umm... i spose youll still be in communication with him wont you??? unless hes like Morman or somethin, but still, theres email and MSN and ICQ and then theres phone calls and the rest of it. THe whole relationship shouldnt revolve around seeing him and experiencing physically, you should be able to maintain something with him like that if you like him enough and you want things to work. good luck

oh... I seem to maintain a long distance relationship and I like the girl enough to try and make it work... and it does.

 

[santaslayer]

Take it as it comes I guess. If he does come back and you still do have feelings for him then do something about it.

If you (or he) finds someone else in these 3 months and you like them more, then it was never meant to be.

 

[study buddy]

Ok, I know this is going to sound completely cliched, but if you really like the guy, and he reciprocates the feeling, then you'll survive 3 months, no matter what. But if you're doubting things (coz like you said, 3 months is a long time), maybe just talk to him about it. He might be thinking the exact same thing, and you can work out a viable solution together, rather than you saying to him 'maybe we should cool off till you get back' or whatever, and having him question your decision (i.e. is she really saying that just because i'm going away? or does she not really like me? etc).

Not to put you off or anything, but I went away for like, a month last year, while I was going out with this guy. We'd been together for almost 6 months when I left, and by the time I got back, so much had changed that we didn't feel right together anymore. Stuck with it till we'd been going out for almost 10mths, but then broke up, and I can literally trace when it all fell apart back to my trip away.

Of course, that's just me. Don't do anything just because someone suggested it on a forum.

 

[Atticus.]

if you feel strongly enough (both of you) itll be fine when he gets back...
its the same situation for me but its only two months... when she gets back ill be feeling the same waiting at the airport after being lonely for two months haha
it doesnt change anything

 

[Dreamerish*~]

It's the very beginning. Even if you wanted to go that deep, you probably can't.

Three months might seem like a really long time, but you know, he'll be back. If you happen to change your mind during this time, it's likely that he will understand as he is the one worried in the first place.

Think of it as starting your relationship three months later. If you really want him, you'd be excited waiting for him. If something happens and you guys don't end up going out, then well, everything happens for the best.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

May I ask who deleted my post? And why?

Someone cool.

I think the reason is obvious. Your post was extremely rude, even for you.

 

[bernz]

Should I be glad I didn't see it?