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flipsyde

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I didnt know really where this post would really fit but I guess it has stuff to do with friendships and friendships are a form of relationship so....

I dunno.. I just need to change, like forever. I keep having desires to just up and leave my life how it is and move on. As much and all as I love my friends to death and would glady take 50 bullets to the head for them and cant leave them. I feel that this change would have to include leaving them to... I dont want to but I feel I have to, since schools finsihed they have faded... I dont want that.. I dunno, maybe I could take them with me, but that would never work.....

Maybe its that im not satisfyed with my life, yet I have done so much with it so far. I get tired living the way I am, and I feel tapped here and like I need to get out before I go crazy. I have no troubles leaving my family behind, we dont get along, but theres also so much here for me that I dont wanna let go.... Yet so much that I could just forget about.

I'm so confused, someone plz gimme some thoughts
 

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u know wot u need to do? u need to find focus in ur life.

try some of these things

- have a daily habit of running or do some for of exercise
- get a job! (that really changes ur life pattern)
- join a sport.

it sounds relaly simple. But u wanna keep urself occupied so ur not constantly bored and overannalysing things or just feel bored and discontent with ur life.

Furthermore, do more socialising, meet more pplz. More freinds make ur life more intersting
 

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that actually is some pretty good advice... thanks. I think I need to get away to.... Ive applied for a job, but yeah I need to get away still for a bit... Im going on a holiday soon...so I guess thatll be good
 

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flipsyde said:
I didnt know really where this post would really fit but I guess it has stuff to do with friendships and friendships are a form of relationship so....

I dunno.. I just need to change, like forever. I keep having desires to just up and leave my life how it is and move on. As much and all as I love my friends to death and would glady take 50 bullets to the head for them and cant leave them. I feel that this change would have to include leaving them to... I dont want to but I feel I have to, since schools finsihed they have faded... I dont want that.. I dunno, maybe I could take them with me, but that would never work.....

Maybe its that im not satisfyed with my life, yet I have done so much with it so far. I get tired living the way I am, and I feel tapped here and like I need to get out before I go crazy. I have no troubles leaving my family behind, we dont get along, but theres also so much here for me that I dont wanna let go.... Yet so much that I could just forget about.

I'm so confused, someone plz gimme some thoughts
Dude, your worrying me, i don't mean to sound rude but you need to see someone, next you'll be contemplating death! Dude just live the life, go out and get shitfaced with the boys and dont come home til the next morning. Fucken fire up son!
 

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heh lol... Im past the suicide part... I had depression when I was younger... Id never kill myself.. but thankyou... yeah seeing someone had come to mind...
 

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flipsyde said:
I'm so confused, someone plz gimme some thoughts
you haven't asked a question and i don't want to tell individuals how to think :)

anyway, i hope you have a nice day tomorrow. go to the beach, go for a swim, have some fun. don't coop up at home all day and vegetate on BoS. physical activity and interactive stimuli help the release of endorphins which make you happy.

in other words, doing stuff is like eating chocolate without making you fat. :p
 

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go out and meet new friends....but maintain ur friendships with ur old friends.

change of self is a long process...but i dont think u actually 'think' about it happening...it happens without u realising.

maybe u should take a holiday by urself (if u can afford it) and re-think ur values/beliefs n whats important in ur life?

u seem abit lost, but if u try and find urself, u will

u could also talk to someone about how u feel>?
 

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It sounds like you need time to get away from everything and find out who you really are. i think you should get a job, work your ass off for a bit and then take a long trip overseas by yourself. you'll make heaps of friends along the way and maybe you will find yourself in a destination that you never want to leave.. Just go away from what you know and put yourself in a totally new situation. go work as a volunteer in a 3rd world country. it really helps you put your life and your values into perspective...

i know how you feel though.. sometimes you just feel kind of lost with your life.. like you contemplate what it is you really live for. not in a suicidal way, but in a re focus and re position your life kind of way.
 

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Volunteer work is also an idea (it's what I'm doing to keep myself out of the house), depending on what you do you can meet new people, feel like you're actually doing something worthwhile and perhaps see people in situations that will let you put your own problems into perspective.
 

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flipsyde, im feeling the same way atm, i have been for a long time, snce about halfway thru the year- its not a psycho thing, just rather dissatisfaction with current living- it feels like monotony, doesnt it? What im doing is moving away and getting all new firends both where i live now and at bathurst- a complete change of environment! Do somehting HUGE and doit for a reason, and youll be good
 

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I feel like this too, Flipsyde. Thanks for making this thread, kinda made me realise im not the only one who is completely lost and bored with life. I'm constantly restless as well. Like nothing I used to enjoy makes me feel the same way anymore. Everything seems a little more empty. Everything feels the same.

I wish I could offer advice, but I'm just as lost as you.
 

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Go out with your friends, work 5 days a week...enjoy life. I was pretty bored and all for a while, but doing those things will make you feel as if you have achieved something. For example, if you work a long shift one day, when you get home, eat dinner, have a shower, you will feel as if you achieved a lot that day. :)
 

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Talk to your friends. Do they feel the same way? If they do then you can move through the stage together, otherwise they will surely cheer you up.

If you are bored and have nothing to do, then do something quite random, like ring an old friend, go fishing, hire a movie, go for a walk, go to the shops (wearing a strange hat), apply for 6 jobs, meet your neighbours, have a bbq piss-up, read/write a book, give advice over the net, and whatever takes your fancy. (I intend doing these)

Make a list of things to do (that's what I did). Make sure you are always doing at least one thing every day.
:)
 

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flipsyde said:
heh lol... Im past the suicide part... I had depression when I was younger... Id never kill myself.. but thankyou... yeah seeing someone had come to mind...
You need to find as many things as possible that make you happy. Ok, you've got your friends, that's one, now just get out there n try a whole heap of NEW things, start doing things you've always wanted to do but haven't done yet, give everything a go. If your constantly doing things that make you happy and you enjoy doing how are you not going to be happy? If that makes sense! Get out there and find those things! Go go go, get off the computer right now....stop....go out and do something, try something new! Live life to the fullest, you can, if you find the right things to get you there you'll get there.....there's a whole world out there!!!!!!
 

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flipsyde said:
I didnt know really where this post would really fit but I guess it has stuff to do with friendships and friendships are a form of relationship so....

I dunno.. I just need to change, like forever. I keep having desires to just up and leave my life how it is and move on. As much and all as I love my friends to death and would glady take 50 bullets to the head for them and cant leave them. I feel that this change would have to include leaving them to... I dont want to but I feel I have to, since schools finsihed they have faded... I dont want that.. I dunno, maybe I could take them with me, but that would never work.....

Maybe its that im not satisfyed with my life, yet I have done so much with it so far. I get tired living the way I am, and I feel tapped here and like I need to get out before I go crazy. I have no troubles leaving my family behind, we dont get along, but theres also so much here for me that I dont wanna let go.... Yet so much that I could just forget about.

I'm so confused, someone plz gimme some thoughts
so u like live in the country side or the middle of nowhere or something?? coz living away from civilisation can do that to u.....living in sydney means u neva run out of things to do.....its a very busy fun filled life....move to sydney is my suggestion and if u already live in sydney then make some new friends and go out alot.....do stuff that u wouldnt have dreamed of doing....

u feel like shit now...but when u leave ull feel like ur life is starting afresh....
 

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