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[Nashie]

hey, I have no idea wtf is going on, I like this girl and she seems to like me but she doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with me! She flirts with me (well thats what I think) by doing stuff like when she came into my work with one of her friends trying to drag me onto a bed (I work in a furniture store) and then jump on me, she did do this at another friend's party and she always seems happy to see me and other stuff but when I asked her to go to the movies she said no, she needed to get to know me more (known her for like 2 years) so i suggested as friends so we can get to know each other and she still said no, and now she is suddenly "going out" with some guy she met like the day before doing the stuff I suggested we do to get to know each other with him! Its driving me insane because I feel like I have been used and I don't think I read the signals wrong and she is acting as if nothing happened! WTF is going on/ what do I do? and girls, do you/would you do this?

 

[SuGa BunI =D]

flirting for fun is onething
dating a guy you flirted with is another thing

 

[Nashie]

flirting for fun is onething
dating a guy you flirted with is another thing

That was pretty full on flirting I thought for her not to want anything to do with me... which was my point!

 

[SuGa BunI =D]

ohh well, shes dating another guy now, move on

 

[MaryJane]

I agree with suga_buni, there is a massive difference between flirting and wanting to be involved with someone. Flirting is just fun, its innocent (except for when it isnt...), she's probably attracted to you in some sense, but that attraction could range from you being eye-candy to her being serious about you. And it seems like its not the latter if she's found someone else. You were probably just something to occupy her time at parties, someone for her to feel wanted and desired around.

Alternatively, it may have just been in her nature, possibly not even intentional. I know people like that who are just naturally flirty with everyone, they're just effervescent people.

If you really dont think it was just innocent flirting but more than that, confront her, or maybe ask her friends.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

She's just a flirt.

There are people (mainly girls) who shamelessly flirt with every guy, whether or not they're single.

She doesn't seem interested in you, as she turned down your request to go out, etc. Don't think about it too much.

 

[iamsickofyear12]

There was this girl who would flirt with me all the time at school. I knew that she wasn't interested in anything more and the flirting was more annoying than fun so I just ignored her when she attempted to flirt/annoy me and she eventually stopped.

 

[^CoSMic DoRiS^^]

okay, she does sound as if she *might* have been interested at some point, but her response to you seems to say she's either just really flirtatious (without any intentions whatsoever) or she lost interest once she managed to get you to like her...in other words, she was sort of using you for entertainment i guess. either way it doesnt seem like you'll get far with her, so it's best to just move on and forget about her if you can.

 

[Nashie]

Just so everyone knows, normally she is not flirty at all thats why I made the conclusion I did.. I know what chicks who contantly flirt are like, i work with one like that! I am trying to move on but because she is a friend of a friend I keep on getting asked wtf happened

 

[Dreamerish*~]

Just so everyone knows, normally she is not flirty at all thats why I made the conclusion I did.. I know what chicks who contantly flirt are like, i work with one like that! I am trying to move on but because she is a friend of a friend I keep on getting asked wtf happened

She enjoys being with you only as a friend then.

Some girls' minds work in strange ways. Forget about this one, it's her loss (and yours too, but for optimism's sake let's just focus on her's).

 

[Mz_mE]

maybe she did like u at one time.. and as ur friendship grew she got more comfortable with you.. her crush or infatuation with u turned into a real friendship..and the more comfortable u r with some1 the more u flirt n stuff.. maybe wen confronted with the option of a further relationship it made her realise how she was acting and that all she really wanted was just friendship.. she mite b goin out with this new guy to prove she doesnthav feelings 4 u.. but thats prob just overthinkn..

 

[nwatts]

Relax Nashie. I'm sure you knowledge of Yeats and Elliot can woo any woman (ten points if you can guess EXACTLY which ones I'm thinking of).

Hey, works for me.

You won't have much luck wooing women with Yeats and Eliot. Get some Donne and Keats into ya - that'll have them melting from your every stanza.

 

[Nashie]

(and yours too, but for optimism's sake let's just focus on her's).

Thanks Dreamerish, yes lets! Well I'm over it.. its her loss! Thanks all (maybe I need a copy of that L&R guide!)

 

[PerfectByNature]

She's just a flirt.

There are people (mainly girls) who shamelessly flirt with every guy, whether or not they're single.

She doesn't seem interested in you, as she turned down your request to go out, etc. Don't think about it too much.

i have a friend who does that... she just cant help hgerself... she flirts with EVERYONE. im afraid itll get her into trouble one day, you know?


yeah, just forget about this girl. its obvious she doesnt want more even though she was flirting with you.
it sucks, i know, but its the truth

 

[Dreamerish*~]

i have a friend who does that... she just cant help hgerself... she flirts with EVERYONE. im afraid itll get her into trouble one day, you know?


yeah, just forget about this girl. its obvious she doesnt want more even though she was flirting with you.
it sucks, i know, but its the truth

My friend used to do that too.

I love your av, I used to have it as my MSN display pic. It's so adorable.