Does a relationship really require sex? (1 Viewer)

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As the title says, does it? Makes me wonder... it appears that in a general relationship, it's all good in the beginning, etc... then it looks like it gets very boring and dull, and normally people are dieing for something new and fresh for fun... and then once they get over sex as well... where does that lead to? Breaking up, cause it's boring? :S...
 

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Well, are we talking platonic here? Because, if your talking about a couple, thats a different definition, because they're romantically linked. I think that it only happens circumstatially, such as if they are physically unable, whether it be impotency or someother handicap, or religiously, where celibacy is observed, or simply because the participants are to young or old.
 

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Yes.

Sex is the cornerstone of a good relationship. You see your partner for lunch, sex on the table. You see your partner at a business meeting, sex in the boardroom. You see your partner at school, sex in the classroom.






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Nah, i think (hope) that it doesnt hold that kind of importance when i meet a great girl.
 

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sex does not have to be a cornerstone necessarily, depends on what foundations you have, for myself "love" doesnt mean "making love" ... :uhhuh:

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But it solidifies your relationship, and it is also one of the truest ways of expressing how you feel about eachother. In fact, sex can describe any relationship, whatever it is based on, i.e, lust, its only about sex etc
 

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pc_wizz said:
sex does not have to be a cornerstone necessarily, depends on what foundations you have, for myself "love" doesnt mean "making love" ... :uhhuh:

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I think it depends entirely on why a person enters into a relationship. If they do so expecting that as one of the things they want from the relationship, then I guess it does become a fundamental.

On the other hand, I think it's fairly easy to do without if it's not as high on the priorities scale, and a number of people genuinely do value the togetherness in senses other than the physical. In these instances, I think that sex is able to be removed from the relationship without any serious impact upon its stability or longevity.

In response to the sex getting boring and moving on thing, again I guess that depends on why you entered into the relationship in the first place. If you were after a quick fix or something less than permanent then I guess maybe the role of sex in the relationship again becomes more significant, whereas people commiting for the long haul are (often?) more interested in other things.

Afterall, if you're planning to stay with someone for a long time, there's only so much of it you can spend having sex, and things would get awfully boring if there was nothing else of interest going on :)

(Again, maybe other people see it differently, this is just what I think) :)
 

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While I would be happy to wait a few weeks for sex when first meeting a girl, having been in a relationship where sex is regular I honestly don't think I could go without it indefinitely. A relationship may not require sex, but it'll definitely make it last longer.
 

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Acid said:
While I would be happy to wait a few weeks for sex when first meeting a girl, having been in a relationship where sex is regular I honestly don't think I could go without it indefinitely. A relationship may not require sex, but it'll definitely make it last longer.
Agreed, and anyway, whats wrong with sex anyway? Its natural, people should want it anyway. I don't understand why this is a big issue.
 

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i dont think a relationship NEEDS sex. it depends on the people, but its nice to take that next step....sex just makes it more intimate. people say that sex changes everything...sorry but thats a load of shite, if anything it makes things better, an i think u'll only get bored with the sex if u get bored with the person, not the other way around
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yes.

rofl, i got a popup just then saying my message was to short *mutters*.
 

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haha

*Love.

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err, I don't think that, short term, a relationship *needs* sex. However I do think it's very naive to say that it's easy peasy to live without sex. Sex is a natural urge, not just some whim
 

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MissGeorgie said:
i dont think a relationship NEEDS sex. it depends on the people, but its nice to take that next step....sex just makes it more intimate. people say that sex changes everything...sorry but thats a load of shite, if anything it makes things better, an i think u'll only get bored with the sex if u get bored with the person, not the other way around
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I agree with that,
its not a need, but it makes the relationship more intimate
 

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glycerine said:
err, I don't think that, short term, a relationship *needs* sex. However I do think it's very naive to say that it's easy peasy to live without sex. Sex is a natural urge, not just some whim
Exactly! short term it is easy to go without, but when long term comes, why would you not want to?

Id like to know some reasons to not have sex when your in a relationship, love eachother, and are within the law's age limit?
 

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Yes, sex should be a part of love. Sex is the union of man and woman. :) Love does not exist if there is an absence of physical loving.
 

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a romantic relationship cannot go indefinatley without sex... its a natural act of expressing ones self and love for one another.

that being said, i don't think its absolutley necessary... it depends on the people. if both are of strict religious backgrounds then they may see sex as something which is a bonus within marriage as opposed to a necessity
 

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