just a mate (1 Viewer)

[Tommy_Lamp]

Yeah val, like its been said, almost everyone is in the same situation.
i got told by two girlfriends of mine not to be the guy that girls ask for advice because i'll never get any lol

 

[Atotoi]

IT is possible to "de-friend" yourself...
because i did it last year, but even when i was in the friend zone, i still flirted with the girl.
i practically just dropped off as a friend for a few months, then just started talking 2 her again in a different way

 

[thejosiekiller]

de-friendsation???

i dont know- in my opinion u have 1 shot when u first meet - and possibly one more if ur both lonely and horny

 

[OZGIRL86]

You should still be happy that yor their"mate" because most friendships seem to last longer then relationships..

 

[thejosiekiller]

You should still be happy that yor their"mate" because most friendships seem to last longer then relationships..

yeah, but this about attraction- when ur tired of being just a mate

 

[twiddla]

I seem to have the same prob - every girl wants to be my friend but none will go out with me - and i'm not even metro or gay

 

[val_dramaqueen]

spell_check is REALLY annoying... why do we have freaks in these forums?!

anyway... yes, the mate situation. its terrible.. but sure enough, i'll get over it... it just makes it worse when he says things that make your knees tremble! GOD DAMMIT!

i think that you have one chance with a person. you meet them and then after a while you will only ever be seen as a mate or only ever seen as something more... THAT'S IT...

 

[thejosiekiller]

i guess the lesson is when first meeting ppl girls should act real slutty?

 

[wrong_turn]

dude, spell-check. that is just not cool?! it's wrong! it's too teacher-ish!


well anyway. yeh i have the same problem. i am also in the mate zone a lot. like after a while. it just begins to travel into the friend zone. like i don't want to spoil the friendship if i make a move on them

true story: a friend of mine liked this girl. he asked her out. it like totally backfired on him. everyone found out about it. all the girls that were part of THE group, then began to back away from him. they would hrdly speak to him, even now. well of course, except those that were already taken. its still happening now a few months after.

well likei said. i ahte it when it gets to the friendship stage. once you have that tag after your name ' the guy friend.' there is no way back. the only way is like some one just said. back away for a few months then reapprach. but again it could be just me being chicken, and too damn careful. even though i'm mostly seen as the crazy fella

 

[Atotoi]

hehe why did Twisted Sista get banned?

Yes , well - ill make a gross generalisation here - "Being the ' guy friend ' sucks"
The re-approach is rather tricky, you need a motive to suddenly "appear" again.. you must be a magician

Dj guy - i feel sorry for your mate, it must suck to be him!!!

 

[wrong_turn]

well i try not to pay him out too much. just a few coments there and a few there. i guess it adds up... the worst thing for him, is that all these girls ahve either left the school, or a re taken, or on the verge of being taken.

i hate being the 'guy friend' but its better than no female friends at all. like my friend mentioned above.

 

[Skillo]

and also... dating a mate... good or bad?

Hmmm. Bad.

Think about it, if you really care for them Val, would you risk losing their friendship?

 

[welshi]

don't worry spell check, i'm a freak too. i was correcting the teacher's spelling on the board in year three. (true story.) i'm REALLY annoying like that sometimes.

anyway, on-topic i think the friend zone is very blurry. i've got with some of my good guy friends, some of whom i only got be good friends with post-hookup. i don't do the boyfriends thing. one of my friends really liked me, i didn't feel the same way, we hooked up when i was wasted, it fucked everything up. well...what i'm trying to say is i never out guys in a box like that. if i don't think we could ever have a relationship, it's to do with them, not my current relationship with them. does that make any sense?

 

[Keen]

Hmn, I think it just CANNOT work really 99% of the time, once you're even sort of friends. You can sort of get together, it rarely works (girls often come out really confused) and you're putting what is usually a great friendship on the line. Even if they're flirting back with you - do not take the bait, you may regret it or whatever, but it's not worth it.

Keen

 

[Raiks]

Just a general rule... you're either friends or partners with someone because anything else either leads to fustration, mixed messages and 90% of the time, it just not working out between you. It makes it much easier to define it. Although there is the exception if while you're friends, one of you is in a relationship, if that relationship ends, your friend can make a move on you

 

[wrong_turn]

Just a general rule... you're either friends or partners with someone because anything else either leads to fustration, mixed messages and 90% of the time, it just not working out between you. It makes it much easier to define it. Although there is the exception if while you're friends, one of you is in a relationship, if that relationship ends, your friend can make a move on you

taking advantage of someone, while they're still recovery from a break-up, for shame....

though, how else can raiks get a girlfriend! :uhhuh:

 

[Atotoi]

ohhh.. harsh words lesmeister...

you wont impress anyone saying such things...

 

[wrong_turn]

ohhh.. harsh words lesmeister...

you wont impress anyone saying such things...

aint gona get repped. and i don't have a girlfriend. but that is besides the point.

but all in good humour. Raiks we love ya...so don't throw the kitchen sink out at me yet.

 

[val_dramaqueen]

well.. as the saying goes... it's kind to be cruel.... wait.... its cruel to be kind? kind and cruel? drool and be kind? find a mule? rind of a mule? man... i forget...

 

[thejosiekiller]

what??......