2 of my closest friends, Laura and Allan met each other through me... they never spoke. Just called me up days later asking "who was that?... he/she's hot". Both of them.
They bump heads again, thru me. I didn't think I'd mind if they hooked up. They're just friends. Good friends in fact. they've been going out with past "lovers" that treat them like shit. I thought it would be nice for them anyway, plus knowing they'd treat each other right.
They were all lovey dovey for ages. Laura called me up and said she thinks she's "in love" with Allan.
Allan went to the Army Reserve training for the holidays etc. Still hadn't asked Laura out yet. He says he'll ask her out when he comes back. He goes to me:
"I really like Laura. I just don't want to get hurt again... It's not that I don't trust her while I'm away, I just don't want some guy trying to get onto her while I'm not there. Tell me if she does. I sound possessive I know. I'm not even going out with her. I just wish I didn't have to leave her."
Of course I reminded him that its been his goal to go to the army for years. I said not to lose sight of what he's been aiming for over a girl. And besides, Laura is a mature, moral girl.
Or so I thought.
She decided to flirt and exchange numbers with dozens of guys she's met, as well as sleep with 2 or 3. I only found out about half of the occasions. She decided to lie to me about how many guys she associated with, but thing was, I never asked her about her boy relationships.
When I do find out, it's too late, because the first thing Allan does when he came back was lock lips with Laura. Allan tells me he's in love, while I'm trying to contain myself that she's been fucking around. I couldn't take it, so I told him "You know, just because you're faithful to laura, doesn't mean she was obliged to do the same for you while you were away...."
He could take a hint. Asked Laura. They had a fight about their feelings etc. She admitted to flirting with ONE guy. Nothing more. Nothing less.
They've been going out for almost a year now. I didn't tell Allan about what happened during the holidays until I spoke to Laura. She kept denying a lot, until other people she socialised with kinda put pieces together and told me of the other people she slept with that I didn't know about. She admitted to it, and she withdrew from everyone.
She ended up losing a lot of friends at school because of all the close friends and boyfriends, she messed with. She lost me. She lost everyone except Allan.
Allan blamed me for the friends she was losing. I defended myself really calmly. I told him the truth, in the most sincere way as possible, about how many guys she ACTUALLY screwed with while he was away.
He got angrier with me. He said he didn't care. He didn't want to hear it. He said "we weren't even going out, who cares".
And I said "you did. you told me you did."
So we drifted apart.
Now, I'm over what happened with him & Laura, but I lost contact with Allan, a great friend, over something I did as a loyal friend. It sucks ass, and although it gets easier to stop thinking about the two friends I lost, it just makes me angry.
You be a loyal friend and it slams in your face.
Sometimes I think that the moral of the story is not to tell a mate that his girl's been fucking around.
