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Some ppl i know have been in long term relationships since highschool and are breaking up because they have only been with one person, and have never experienced the whole "dating scene" - (meeting new people, going out picking up, dating bla bla)

and think that they might just be staying in a relationship because its "nice" but havent had the experiences to know if they are "the one"

i think its a bit dumb but i can see a point in it i suppose...
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I think it is a really good reason. If I met the girl I want to marry tomorrow it would be a huge problem for me because I still need to sleep with at least 5 other girls and wait at least another 7 years before making that sort of commitment.
 

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Skeeta said:
Some ppl i know have been in long term relationships since highschool and are breaking up because they have only been with one person, and have never experienced the whole "dating scene" - (meeting new people, going out picking up, dating bla bla)

and think that they might just be staying in a relationship because its "nice" but havent had the experiences to know if they are "the one"

i think its a bit dumb but i can see a point in it i suppose...
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been on the receiving end of that, partially.
some people just want to know what else is out there enough to know they're making the right decision. to each his own.
 

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i think it actually has a lot to do with people views on love
 

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i think its good to have a wild peroid. i've already gone though mine though and though its fun and interesting and stuff, it can be pretty shallow and boring after a while. rather than building on something with someone else or being comfortable with another person, you always have to look your best and impress and blah boring.
it's a good thing to go through, but after a while you get over it and want something more substantial.
 

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i suppose that if they came back to you after seeing the rest of the world, then you know it was meant to be.
 

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Shell said:
i suppose that if they came back to you after seeing the rest of the world, then you know it was meant to be.
Dude, King Neptue is one jealous fucker.
 
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Skeeta said:
Some ppl i know have been in long term relationships since highschool and are breaking up because they have only been with one person, and have never experienced the whole "dating scene" - (meeting new people, going out picking up, dating bla bla)

and think that they might just be staying in a relationship because its "nice" but havent had the experiences to know if they are "the one"

i think its a bit dumb but i can see a point in it i suppose...
thoughts?
Depends I guess, personally I'm pretty satisfied that I got it right the first time, and can't really understand why anyone would do this unless they felt that they were missing out on something better.

I guess if that's the case then it'd make sense to do, and it's a much better alternative than cheating on your partner to try others out.
 

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I don't think its dumb at all.

While you're in a perfectly good relationship that has lasted for a long while, the concept about 'learning' can be pretty tempting.

It's like friends. You don't stick with the same friends because you want to learn about the world, other points of view, and how to handle people different to you. You want to search the scene so when you pick your closest friends, you know that theyre the most reliable, because you've had pretty unreliable friends, or you know that they're the most honest, because you know how an unhonest person acts. etc.

As with relationships, you want to learn more about what you want, about how you want to be treated, and how universal the way you love someone is. Even though this isn't necessarily a conscious decision, the desire to learn is a valid one.

It's not about 'am i missing out?', considering most situations, at least from friends I hear, that their intuition says so. It can lead to the wrong decision yes, but then they get what they want: a learning experience. Now they know what they want because they've now lost it and they hate it. Tragic, but its pretty standard for someone to feel like they need to know.

I thought I had it right first go. he didnt. the four next men were everything I didn't want, but I had to find that out first. The one I'm with now (for 2.5 years) is everything I want for the meantime, but who really knows later on...
 

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i dont reckon thats just a high school thing. lotsa ppl go out with someone for aggges then break it off cause they want change or someone new. lotsa ppl just stay with the person cause they couldnt be botered to break it off or because its just 'nice' and u get the action. it hapens to like everyone.
 

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i think that's stupid :p....nah other people can break up, but i've only had one boyfriend, and i'm not intending on having any others, for me it's one and only one true love XD but seriously, i was lucky enough to find what i wanted, with patience it came, but others may not get that chance, so break ups are understandable i guess.
 

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Thats sorta... in an indirect way, the reason I broke up with my high school boyfriend during uni. I wasnt happy to begin with, and the fact that I was curious to "try other people" further pushed my desire to be out of the relationship.

So, I think its a pretty valid reason for wanting to end a relationship, especially one when you're young. You're too immature to make anything last in your relationship, and, for me at least, the thrill of the chase and wanting to explore who I was in different contexts was too exciting an opportunity to let pass at 18.
 

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sparkl3z said:
i think that's stupid :p....nah other people can break up, but i've only had one boyfriend, and i'm not intending on having any others, for me it's one and only one true love XD but seriously, i was lucky enough to find what i wanted, with patience it came, but others may not get that chance, so break ups are understandable i guess.
The same case. I have a boyfriend and I'm not going to break up because of not having anyone before.
 

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azzie said:
i think its good to have a wild peroid. i've already gone though mine though and though its fun and interesting and stuff, it can be pretty shallow and boring after a while. rather than building on something with someone else or being comfortable with another person, you always have to look your best and impress and blah boring.
it's a good thing to go through, but after a while you get over it and want something more substantial.
I'm with u. I did the whole drunken random hook ups, the going out with the girls on a man hunt ect.. and then I met this guy that swept me off my feet and it kind of scared me off and I broke up with him after two weeks..then we got back together and went out for just over 3 months, I still dunno why he broke it off with me I guess we just rushed into things.

But yeah being with him kinda made me grow up a bit, speshialy now that I'm not with him any more. I don't want randomness I don't want stuff to be meaningless... I like being with a guy that knows I like kisses on my neck and what kind of perfume I use, I like feeling completely comfy and at ease around someone.
I'm never doing the random thing again, it's not for me any more.
 

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