Yes! Dont suggest a break. Dont demand a break. Nothing. If she wants one she'll ask.NosaJ said:
i dont want to trust me, but on the other hand i can't stand being apart if it seems like we might not have to.jebbie said:
It's all about how good you are at controlling yourself, and how well you understand each other.NosaJ said:
Thats why im worried about being too pushy. i'm not after complete attention, just a little or at least a clear sign of what we should do. if either of us suggests a break then im not stressing about not seeing her or misinterpreting everything. this is a relationship i don't wanna screw up.Dreamerish*~ said:
Then don't throw it away.NosaJ said:
This isn't about me its about her. I dont have a problem with my exams or anything i just don't want to appear selfish by asking too much of her. We're in the same grade at the same school.Dreamerish*~ said:Then don't throw it away.
Talk to your girlfriend. If she's in the same grade as you, she should definitely understand. If not, make it clear to her how important the HSC is, and that you need as much support as she can give during the next couple of months. If the both of you feel it's easier to take a break, take it - but be warned that there's no guarantee you'll get back together and resume from where you left off.
Good luck.
Well, then there isn't a problem. Since you value your relationship, and you know what is needed during exams, give her all the support you think she would need. You are not appearing selfish by staying with her. In fact, you will stir things up a lot if you break up with her. She might not believe that it's for her benefit. Your good intentions could be interpreted as an excuse.NosaJ said:
thanks heaps. should i talk to her about this or just leave it be and give her some space?Dreamerish*~ said:
It wouldn't hurt to talk to her. Tell her that you'll be there whenever she needs you, and that you'll give her space when she needs it. She'll be happy to know that you understand.NosaJ said:
Don't "give her space" without saying anything. She'll think you're being distant. Just let her know that she's got someone who'll support her through the HSC.
but i think shes giving herself space without saying anything. we were talking about trials last night and itold her how i felt and she said i need to 'let her go from my mind'. does that mean shes already done the same?Dreamerish*~ said:It wouldn't hurt to talk to her. Tell her that you'll be there whenever she needs you, and that you'll give her space when she needs it. She'll be happy to know that you understand.
LOL, hey, that's nothing to be worried about. When you're revising, you're not supposed to be thinking about anything else. She's simply telling you to concentrate while you're studying. There's always time to talk, or spend together - but when you're studying, make sure you're not distracted.NosaJ said:
Cool. so all up i need a big slap in the head and a beer for being silly and stressing? its so hard when we both have different priorities. Well actually i have none, i just like being around her.Dreamerish*~ said:LOL, hey, that's nothing to be worried about. When you're revising, you're not supposed to be thinking about anything else. She's simply telling you to concentrate while you're studying. There's always time to talk, or spend together - but when you're studying, make sure you're not distracted.
She's not distancing herself from you. She's only caring about your studies.
Well, yes.NosaJ said:
nah i ace my subjects. except for maths and english which im doing now ^_^Dreamerish*~ said:Well, yes.
You also need to think about your exams too!