Should i drop out or continue on? (1 Viewer)

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I'm doing my hsc this year. Although my marks have been very poor, since year 11. Ever since I moved from Melbourne to Sydney at 2008, i lost the motivation to study due to family problems such as relatives death and my mum being abused by my dad.It was very hard for me to move, since I loved being at Victoria. At year 9 in Vic, they offered me to study the VCE subjects at year 10. It made me very angry to have move to sydney and all the hard work i put into when I was in Victoria). I was in the top math class, and if i continue in year 10, i would probably be able to do methods or specialise. Although when i came up to NSW. The head teacher put me into Math general also known as standard. I was not good in it, since at Victoria I was learning more complex math. Tried to persuade my teacher to put me in 2 unit math, since i knew i would be able to cope with it and i found it more fun than standard but she disagree and thought I couldn't do it. Coming to sydney was hard, the work was completely different and i dislike it for many things. I had family problems back down in Vic and my rents seperated my dad left to Sydney. My dad persuaded my mum to come to sydney, so she did. Promise me that we weren't going to have any more problems. Although coming here, became 2 problems. Still had family problems, my mum nearly died and I was the one who found her in a room trying to suicide. I became lazy to study since I couldn't handle the problems was facing. Teachers think that I'm lazy but inside it was due to too much stress. I couldn't handle it.

I'm doing poor in chemistry and physics. I've chosen the wrong subject and drop a subject, which i really regret on. Since i've would of done better in that one than physics or chem. I'm still confuse on what career path will i do. I just miss out on my chemistry half yearly. Don't have a doc cert to fix it and don't know what to do. My friend said it counts as 1 unit, if so then i just stuffed up since I'm only doing 10 units. I been away from school mostly, due to family problems and relative death, which have drag me down in school work. Not sure if i should drop out, but something is holding me from doing it. I don't want to drop out now since their are couple more terms left. Do you reckon, for me to drop out or continue on? I don't study much, and i know if i don't im destroying my future. I'm regretting alot of stuff i've done in the past, and wish that i can turn back the time and fix alot of the mistakes I've done.
 

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I really feel for you, that is some problems no one should have to go through. I say keep continuing and you should be able for EAS. Also report all matters to the relevant authorities (e.g abuse of mother, there is help out there).
You sound like a smart kid so continue.
 

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This may not seem likely, but I know EXACTLY what you're going through. EXACTLY.
And I know it gets really really really hard at times, but I think you really should keep going. Sometimes.. when you concentrate on something, like work, it's easy to forget about everything else. It makes things easier to deal with. Don't drop out =(
And... I don't have much faith in the authorities.. but of course if something really serious is happening/about to happen, call them RIGHT AWAY.
 

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I agree with taking a year off. That's what I did between year 11 and 12, I also moved from Vic to Sydney and had heaps of problems. Find a counsellor and talk to your school, you need to sort this all out before it becomes even more out of control.

Don't worry, you can survive all this. :) it's amazing how well you're coping so far.
 

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I really feel for you, that is some problems no one should have to go through. I say keep continuing and you should be able for EAS. Also report all matters to the relevant authorities (e.g abuse of mother, there is help out there).
You sound like a smart kid so continue.
Naa, i love my parents and will never do that call authorities on them. What us a EAS btw? I used to be smart, but not in english. Shakespeare made our lives harder, don't you reckon? :angry:
Thanks btw for all you that replied. I'm going to try to get back up and see how i go for a few weeks. If i try to attend school more often, i might be able to complete my hsc in highschool, although i missed out my chemistry half yearlies. Anyone know what i should do?
School said that i have to fill out a appeal form, although i need a doctor cert, which i cant one.
 

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I'm sure one of those psychological doctor type of people may be able to give you one. I feel sorry for you as you are facing a loooooot of mental stress. Your determination however amazes me as i don't think i would be able to do that in case this situation happened to me.


Also, if you don't want to call EAS, try to somehow convince your dad out of abusing your mom. That would be one of the worse things a child or a mother can have. I konw its difficult but try to rectify it to the best you can
 

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Say if i do take a holiday and then go to tafe to complete my hsc. Does that mean I've to start all over again? From the year 11 prem to year 12? Or start fresh as a year 12, because it does sound like a good idea. If i do start fresh i've decided to comit to studying.

I have another option, where I drop out from school and go to tafe and complete a course on becoming a chef. Not sure what is the course called either its catering or hospitality. My dad is a great cook himself, although he does not have qualification, but pretty good. Food that, I'd rather eat than go to an Asian restaurant.

Any suggestion a good place to gain experience to become one?
My careers advisers said to me, the Campbelltown tafe is a good place to start my learning at.
 

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Say if i do take a holiday and then go to tafe to complete my hsc. Does that mean I've to start all over again? From the year 11 prem to year 12? Or start fresh as a year 12, because it does sound like a good idea. If i do start fresh i've decided to comit to studying.

I have another option, where I drop out from school and go to tafe and complete a course on becoming a chef. Not sure what is the course called either its catering or hospitality. My dad is a great cook himself, although he does not have qualification, but pretty good. Food that, I'd rather eat than go to an Asian restaurant.

Any suggestion a good place to gain experience to become one?
My careers advisers said to me, the Campbelltown tafe is a good place to start my learning at.
In my opinion, do what you think is right. It seems to me that if I was in your situation I would drop out of school for now but return next year. It seems you need a break to sort out/overcome the problems you are facing, get professional help etc (There is honestly nothing wrong with seeing a counsellor or psychologist for whatever reason).

You seem very smart and dedicated - find a different school which will allow you to take the maths classes (and other classes) you want. I don't think I would be happy with myself or my life even if I did 'pick myself up' and continue on this year. I wouldn't leave with what I wanted (good grades in subjects I wanted to do). TAFE is another option, and you might have a better chance of getting the subjects you want. But fight for what you want. If one school won't allow it, try and find another school. You don't want to look back on this time with hate and regret.

Again, this is just my personal opinion but I wish you all the luck in the world in figuring out what is best for yourself.
 

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