Testy Girls (1 Viewer)

[transcendent]

alright, what's up with girls and their testing? is it just for conversation or it their a motive to it? yeah you can say it's a bit of both but really it's one or the other. so why do you do it?

 

[loquasagacious]

Testing?

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[Dreamerish*~]

I don't deliberately test. I ask questions.

I never really think about people asking or saying things to test me, or just to see my reaction. It's the basics of communication. You communicate with people, they respond depending on what you say, and vice versa. You don't need to deliberately manipulate people to find out all about them.

 

[OZGIRL86]

I might come across as being testy at times even when I'm not being testy.I normally just ask questions for the sake of conversation.Sometimes I just can't help being inquisitive,though I don't really think its a bad thing unless someone has something to hide.

 

[AlleyCat]

i ask questions to suss out whether or not i want to be with the person i am talking to, whether we connect intellecctually, whether i find him attractive/funny etc. i think its better to be inquisitive than lead a person on, and i dont think its manipulation at all.

 

[alby]

if i ask questions, its usually either a) random, b) to find out more about them, or c) to make conversation. i'm by no means "testy"....whatever that means to you

 

[loquasagacious]

'Tis indeed a fine art.

 

[SuGa BunI =D]

ask to make conversation, then go home and analyze
*bad habit*

what is your definition of testing?? i personally test a guy by allowing himto meet my close friends, they critical thus make good judgments

 

[AsyLum]

...and whether he dresses well in which case, he's gay

 

[Calculon]

I'd prefer I'm the one with the balls in the relationship, personally.

 

[SuGa BunI =D]

...and whether he dresses well in which case, he's gay

biatch

 

[alby]

What's it mean when I girl asks when your birthday is

a) strictly for the sake of finding out how old you are
b) to make convo
c) random question
d) attempt to get to know you

 

[positive]

What's it mean when I girl asks when your birthday is - strictly for the sake of finding out how old you are?

They always seem to gloat that they're older then you if they are... sooo annoying!

 

[wrong_turn]

i let the gloat....but thats because im young for someone in year 12

 

[positive]

a) strictly for the sake of finding out how old you are
b) to make convo
c) random question
d) attempt to get to know you

Damn I thought she was hitting on me (Since girls always talk about how they go for older guys(More brackets: And I say "Damn" because she is really hot!))

Just goes to show how incoherant guys are lol

 

[Lennie]

i ask questions to suss out whether or not i want to be with the person i am talking to, whether we connect intellecctually, whether i find him attractive/funny etc. i think its better to be inquisitive than lead a person on, and i dont think its manipulation at all.

Uh-huh. Well said.

However when I do it, it is more to manipulate. Can't seem to help it :/ It doesnt mean that I'm going to be bitchy, I just prefer having the upper-hand to a certain extent.... Call it a defence mechanism.

Maybe I just like to see guys squirm :/ Funny thing is, they only pass the test if they don't.

Everyone has a different definition of 'testing' it seems. Hence everyones objectives are also different.

I think it is safe to say though, that testing really means to size someone up as a potential partner/friend.

 

[iambored]

Uh-huh. Well said.

However when I do it, it is more to manipulate. Can't seem to help it :/ It doesnt mean that I'm going to be bitchy, I just prefer having the upper-hand to a certain extent.... Call it a defence mechanism.

Some people ask questions so they have the upper hand? Do you mean so you can find out information to use against them later or try to get them do what you want at that time?

Giving someone information about yourself is because you trust them in a way, I wouldn't expect information I gave to be used to manipulate me.

 

[Lennie]

Some people ask questions so they have the upper hand? Do you mean so you can find out information to use against them later or try to get them do what you want at that time?

Giving someone information about yourself is because you trust them in a way, I wouldn't expect information I gave to be used to manipulate me.

Yeah, reading over that I just realised how dodgy it sounds.
I'll try to explain it a little more clearly...

I wouldn't intend to use the info against them at any stage. It's more that "knowledge is power" and being as defensive as I am, I prefer to FEEL as if I'm the one with the upper hand... At least until I know them fully. Doesn't mean that I intend to act on the knowledge, and I would definately not use it against them... It just means that I feel safer having it to myself.


To a certain extent, we are all guilty of manipulating in subtle ways.
I would never force someone to do something they don't want, I'm talking about things like making small changes to the direction of the relationship or similar. Nothing I have done with regards to manipulating has ever been extreme enough to leave me on bad terms with someone, or make them feel betrayed.


Err sorry if that isn't making sense.
The HSC is screwing with my mind

 

[iambored]

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[alby]

Damn I thought she was hitting on me (Since girls always talk about how they go for older guys(More brackets: And I say "Damn" because she is really hot!))

Just goes to show how incoherant guys are lol

could always be
e) "when is it so that i can get you a pressie?"
or
f) easy way to get chatting (possible pickup)