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To all those who went to selective high schools (1 Viewer)

andrew12678

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thankfully not everyone there is strange and weird. the guy who ended up dux at my year at a selective school didn't require tutoring.

there is a culture (not to be racist), but especially amongst the selective Asians, of not just reaching the A level but competitiveness. At my school though most people only really gave a deal once Year 11 came around.
Second this post, 7-10 was extremely chill and people only started caring around yr11-12!
 

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Yeah, I don’t think ALL selective people are like that. I was probably just unlucky, or the universe was showing me how not to act. Maybe I’m too much of a white girl, but I found the overly-competitive and jealous nature of some of my former classmates really, really unattractive. Moreover, the people who embodied such characteristics weren’t even the “top” students. The real “top” students (who were the only friends I had at that school tbh), however, were the nicest and least competitive, so it’s funny how that works.

I also don’t have that much respect for people (the “selective” Asian culture) who hold those kind of values TBH. Competitiveness with others, if not healthy, fuels jealously, and jealously results in one’s downfall. That’s why a lot of successful people preach “competing with yourself” instead of others, and admire and become inspired by those who are successful instead of trying to one-up them or “bring them down” just because you secretly hate yourself and have some deep-seated insecurity that can’t be mended, even through years of therapy and counselling. :) ALSO, you’re competing against the STATE, so how is it in anyway productive to narrow your comparison down to the what, 20-30 people in your class?

Healthy competition is good though, when you want the best for both yourself and others around you. I believe that is not only the formula to becoming successful, but also just being a decent human being in general, and most likely attributes as to why I couldn’t stand the thought of completing my education at my former, oh-so-prestigious “selective” school.

So as you can see by my long-winded rants, I obviously did not enjoy my experience at selective. And the guys there didn’t help either. Like, usually having a crush alleviates the torture of going to school, but I didn’t find any of them attractive at all. :/
I think it is more a comment on human nature, its human nature a little, to be jealous of those who are better or more skilled. Competition is something like the survival of the fittest, ironically, the self-absorbed seem to be the ones who want to push others rather than pull others up alongside them.
 

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It all really depends. I started year 11 this year at a selective mixed high school from a single-sex private school, and the first lesson someone came up to me and showed me around. Ever since then my social circle expanded rapidly. I got their snapchats from the first day, and felt like I was there since year 7. I was even invited to 2 parties and got roses on valentines day despite being there for only 3 days ;). Be hard working and stay humble, and you won't feel any competition at all.
 

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Seriously, a history tutor in Year 9? I can understand getting a tutor for math, English, science, etc, but really HISTORY? All for the sake of one-upping you? Wow...

You must've been really smart/amazing. Otherwise she wouldn't have targeted you like that.
Yeh. At least I can understand a history tutor for year 11 and year 12 if you chose a history related HSC subject...
 

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