what wouldnt you put up with? (2 Viewers)

[hipsta_jess]

ok, so what wouldnt you put up with in a relationship, whats enough to make you break up with your partner?
for me, i wouldnt stand lying (id rather know the truth and be hurt than lied to) or infidelity.

 

[Winston]

ummmmm if the girl flirts with other guys, and makes herself look like a slut ... and ummmm girls who just wouldnt be honest damn it at, like talk... and ummm... if they wont stop asking me "hey don't you think that guys hot"

yeah there's more can't think of it now...

 

[my sharona]

Originally posted by hipsta_jess
ok, so what wouldnt you put up with in a relationship, whats enough to make you break up with your partner?
for me, i wouldnt stand lying (id rather know the truth and be hurt than lied to) or infidelity.

dishonesty... and i guess if he was with someone else, that would be dishonest... unless he told me beforehand...

that make no sense, but i'll stick by it...

 

[ujuphleg]

Originally posted by hipsta_jess
ok, so what wouldnt you put up with in a relationship, whats enough to make you break up with your partner?
for me, i wouldnt stand lying (id rather know the truth and be hurt than lied to) or infidelity.

same... i know the truth hurts but i'd feel better knowing that he was telling the truth than lying to me AND doing something wrong.

plus, what do you think constitutes cheating? and what is a no-go zone in your relationship?? i know friends who will go ape at their bfs if they know they've been talking to their ex-girlfriends even online.... i reckon thats a bit extreme.

 

[hipsta_jess]

nah, i dont mind them chatting or seeing them as friends or whatever...once it gets physical, its a no-go zone as far as im concerned. i should be the only person they want to share saliva and various other bodily fluids with!

 

[my sharona]

Originally posted by hipsta_jess
nah, i dont mind them chatting or seeing them as friends or whatever...once it gets physical, its a no-go zone as far as im concerned. i should be the only person they want to share saliva and various other bodily fluids with!

what about cybersex?

 

[ameh]

domestic violence by john howard

 

[hipsta_jess]

Originally posted by whiterabbit
what about cybersex?

i think cybers just sad! but yeah, it prob consititutes cheating in my book...not too sure...
but then, i dont mind them watching/"reading" porn
weird.

 

[ujuphleg]

Originally posted by hipsta_jess
i think cybers just sad! but yeah, it prob consititutes cheating in my book...not too sure...
but then, i dont mind them watching/"reading" porn
weird.

well if hes having cybersex with his ex-girlfriend, i guess thats the diff. It means hes fantasising and getting off on a real, live person, someone whom hes known intimatley before.

Whereas if hes watching/reading porn, hes fantasising about a fantasy figure, someone whom he doesn't know or like or has known before...

i think i'm babbling again.

 

[my sharona]

hard to draw a line

if cybersex is cheating, is thinking of sex without contact should be cheating too...

 

[ujuphleg]

well the diff is, if hes just masturbating and thinking of his ex, you can't really stop that. but cyber involves the girl (ex) actually at the computer saying (typing) stuff which turns him on, and therefore she is actively partcipating in getting him off. Its the same with phone sex. If he phones up a sex phone hotline and talks to someone, thats wrong. Not necessarily cheating but wrong. If he phones up his ex and has phone sex, it isn't cheating but its in the same grey area as cyber. he shouldn't be engaging in "interactive" sex so to speak.

i think i've just made that really confusing

 

[my sharona]

wow... i would've called it cheating...

so you're saying it's only cheating if the other person is actively involved..?
but then... ??
explain

 

[Lundy]

I find it odd no one has mentioned abuse yet.

 

[ujuphleg]

leave me alone!! LOL i don't know.

cheating is different from... stuff. its like, cheating is actually intimate physical interaction with someone else whereas cyber and phone sex inihibits this grey area in between meh and cheating where its not on but depends on how liberal the person is... does that make more sense?

of course is abuse is out of line.

 

[Loz#1]

Arrogance, shallowness and vanity.

 

[Persephone87]

Someone who is vainer than me, or thinks that his opinion is better and more correct than anyone elses, or is a living image of my Dad.

I could not tolerate the thought that he was only going out with me because his former girlfriend is no longer available to him.

 

[santaslayer]

What Loz said.....Arrogance.

Also, if she constantly burps or farts

 

[dark`secrets]

rofl @ santaslayer

hmms.. dishonesty & superficiality for a start.

 

[MiuMiu]

Originally posted by Persephone87

I could not tolerate the thought that he was only going out with me because his former girlfriend is no longer available to him.

Been there, no matter how much he tells you that you are the one he wants, you can never quite believe him...

 

[spin spin sugar]

physical abuse, recurrent cheating, recurrent lying, drug addiction