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Yeah I’m just trying to manifest a better term 2 but idk how long that will last forThat's a very positive mindset![]()
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Yeah I’m just trying to manifest a better term 2 but idk how long that will last forThat's a very positive mindset![]()
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Well if ur parents aren’t able to change their mindset ur going just have to learn to block out whatever they say and remember that it’s ok to get bad results cause as long as u tried ur best that’s all u can do. Like I have 2 more terms left of year 11 to redeem ur marks so it will be ok and ur marks will improve. Just don’t give up and also take a break. Go outside for a walk or smth and try not to think about this too much. Use these mistakes as motivation to improve and do better next timeGuys... my mum asked me about my exam results and i said i didn't get any back- then i felt guilty because my parents always used to get really mad when i lied- so i confessed to lying and told my mum my results and she asked why i didn't tell her and i said it was because i was rlly worried about her reaction and i was already upset with them and that i didn't need to get more upset for it because i knew what she was going to say to me anyways- Then she proceeds to tell me how i'm not going to rank and that my results are bad and that it's cause of my phone (which i told her it wasn't) so then she moved onto how i had my amazing brother at home to tutor me and as i was getting out of the car i left with "First batch of exams are over, i'll do better on the next". But i already know she's gonna tell me dad and then my dad is going to yell at me more- and i'm not going to be able to go to the easter show on friday cause like wtf i don't have any rights when i get bad marks- but like wtf dude why can't she just say alright that's pretty bad but we can move on together- unfortunately she's not like that and i'm scared for my wellbeing when i get the rest of my marks back cause she's gonna hammer me for them. My morning was going well- and now it's shit.
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Normally she's a very "You worked hard it's ok we can do this" type of person which i don't think she's realised how hard i've worked (to the point of nearly falling asleep in my exams cause of how exhausted i was) because the results don't compliment that. She also said that i was really confident about my exams (which i wasn't) and then i got those shit results- so idk anymore-
Any advice on how to move on from this? I still have more exams to get back and i'm scared cause some of them were hard and idk what to do with my life anymore if it's always gonna be like this.
Eventually u might have to have a deep conversation with them about everything ur feeling and hopefully they will listen cause they can’t just keep punishing u for doing bad even tho there’s other reasons behind ur decline in marks. Like sit down with them and tell them to not interfere when u speak and just let them listen to u and hopefully u and ur parents can figure out smthGuys... my mum asked me about my exam results and i said i didn't get any back- then i felt guilty because my parents always used to get really mad when i lied- so i confessed to lying and told my mum my results and she asked why i didn't tell her and i said it was because i was rlly worried about her reaction and i was already upset with them and that i didn't need to get more upset for it because i knew what she was going to say to me anyways- Then she proceeds to tell me how i'm not going to rank and that my results are bad and that it's cause of my phone (which i told her it wasn't) so then she moved onto how i had my amazing brother at home to tutor me and as i was getting out of the car i left with "First batch of exams are over, i'll do better on the next". But i already know she's gonna tell me dad and then my dad is going to yell at me more- and i'm not going to be able to go to the easter show on friday cause like wtf i don't have any rights when i get bad marks- but like wtf dude why can't she just say alright that's pretty bad but we can move on together- unfortunately she's not like that and i'm scared for my wellbeing when i get the rest of my marks back cause she's gonna hammer me for them. My morning was going well- and now it's shit.
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Normally she's a very "You worked hard it's ok we can do this" type of person which i don't think she's realised how hard i've worked (to the point of nearly falling asleep in my exams cause of how exhausted i was) because the results don't compliment that. She also said that i was really confident about my exams (which i wasn't) and then i got those shit results- so idk anymore-
Any advice on how to move on from this? I still have more exams to get back and i'm scared cause some of them were hard and idk what to do with my life anymore if it's always gonna be like this.
Yeah... idk i don't have much motivation anymore- but i do wanna do better. Blocking them out is hard when every second they get they remind me of my failures. I'm ok with my mistakes because i know i need to learn from them- however we do not see eye to eye.Well if ur parents aren’t able to change their mindset ur going just have to learn to block out whatever they say and remember that it’s ok to get bad results cause as long as u tried ur best that’s all u can do. Like I have 2 more terms left of year 11 to redeem ur marks so it will be ok and ur marks will improve. Just don’t give up and also take a break. Go outside for a walk or smth and try not to think about this too much. Use these mistakes as motivation to improve and do better next time
Maybe ur motivation will come back after the holidays. Cause I have also lost motivation but I feel like it will slowly come back after a break. So take a break and don’t dwell on this too muchYeah... idk i don't have much motivation anymore- but i do wanna do better. Blocking them out is hard when every second they get they remind me of my failures. I'm ok with my mistakes because i know i need to learn from them- however we do not see eye to eye.
I've tried- so hard- to sit them down to have a deep conversation but they aren't very helpful because they shut everything out and either call everything related to mental health a 'trend' in this generation- or i'm just 'stressed' which i know that that isn't all- Mental health is not an excuse for bad marks in their eyes- it isn't even an excuse for wanting to sit in my room instead of sitting downstairs and watching a shitty ass, corny movie with my parents. They think i'm being rude and that they wanna see my face more- but every time i go to see them we always argue about something. They aren't very good listeners cause they always think they are right no matter how hard i try to tell them otherwise.Eventually u might have to have a deep conversation with them about everything ur feeling and hopefully they will listen cause they can’t just keep punishing u for doing bad even tho there’s other reasons behind ur decline in marks. Like sit down with them and tell them to not interfere when u speak and just let them listen to u and hopefully u and ur parents can figure out smth
I have 3 other exams to get back first... but i'm praying i get some form of motivation because i actually cannot do this shit.Maybe ur motivation will come back after the holidays. Cause I have also lost motivation but I feel like it will slowly come back after a break. So take a break and don’t dwell on this too much
Ok ur parents need to know that mental health issues are not a trend and the reason why it’s becoming a big thing is because more people are actually speaking out on this topic and are trying to grow more awareness to the issue. I think talking with someone else I trust first is the best way to approach this and hopefully they will be able to persuade ur parents to change their mindset and maybe u will feel a bit betterI've tried- so hard- to sit them down to have a deep conversation but they aren't very helpful because they shut everything out and either call everything related to mental health a 'trend' in this generation- or i'm just 'stressed' which i know that that isn't all- Mental health is not an excuse for bad marks in their eyes- it isn't even an excuse for wanting to sit in my room instead of sitting downstairs and watching a shitty ass, corny movie with my parents. They think i'm being rude and that they wanna see my face more- but every time i go to see them we always argue about something. They aren't very good listeners cause they always think they are right no matter how hard i try to tell them otherwise.
Also- my school counsellor is really busy apparently- she hasn't replied to my friend's emails in 2 weeks and she uses study periods to have sessions so that's not an option for me.
If you don't mind me asking- who did you ask? Because i dont feel like anyone i talk to can help me-Ok ur parents need to know that mental health issues are not a trend and the reason why it’s becoming a big thing is because more people are actually speaking out on this topic and are trying to grow more awareness to the issue. I think talking with someone else I trust first is the best way to approach this and hopefully they will be able to persuade ur parents to change their mindset and maybe u will feel a bit better
Honestly I haven’t really told anyone but if ur comfortable maybe ur friends, ur relative or smth. I go to this youth program at my church so I have leaders who have graduated that I can talk to. But just find someone u trustIf you don't mind me asking- who did you ask? Because i dont feel like anyone i talk to can help me-
hm ok- my church is too small for a youth programHonestly I haven’t really told anyone but if ur comfortable maybe ur friends, ur relative or smth. I go to this youth program at my church so I have leaders who have graduated that I can talk to. But just find someone u trust
Maybe just whoever u talk to make sure they don’t tell anyone else. But if u ever need someone to talk to I’m here and their are plenty of people on here that are willing to listen to uhm ok- my church is too small for a youth program
the last ex-friend i told blackmailed me to my mum and my mum laughed at me and called me silly for what was happening- so that was lovely. So idk i'll have to find someone i hope-
fingers crossed ay-Maybe just whoever u talk to make sure they don’t tell anyone else. But if u ever need someone to talk to I’m here and their are plenty of people on here that are willing to listen to u
Then maybe u might have to speak to someone else or at least tell them the truth and how ur feeling and if their a good friend they should be supportive of u and understandfingers crossed ay-
edit: but my friends kinda take me as a joke cause i'm usually the bubbly and happy one (thanks to my lovely parents for forcing me like that) so i don't want them to look at me differently-
Hopefully.... i have 2 hours study today so i plan to sneak off to the music rooms with one of my good friends who kinda knows what's going on- hopefully we're chill but idk man-Then maybe u might have to speak to someone else or at least tell them the truth and how ur feeling and if their a good friend they should be supportive of u and understand