casual vs relationship (1 Viewer)

[thejosiekiller]

i think u have problems with morality

how could u not consider how ur bf feels? and to dismiss it as just a fling

 

[jumb]

i think u have problems with morality

how could u not consider how ur bf feels? and to dismiss it as just a fling

I'm with josie. You're a sick fuck.

 

[OZGIRL86]

But a fling is a fling.
It's nothing serious.

But your already in a relationship with someone else..
you can't just think about yourself, when someone else is involved.
if you feel the need to have a fling with someone else then maybe you shouldn't be with your current bf.

 

[my sharona]

Thing i dont get is...
If i took a 'break' from my bf, then had as many flings as i wanted, then got back together, i dont think any of you would have any objections to that.
Why?
What difference does it make?
I dont want to break up with him, and after a hell of a long time i want sex with no-strings-attatched.

And for all you puritanical people, i dont think he would object strongly, he's done it before and i've understood.

 

[jumb]

If i took a 'break' from my bf, then had as many flings as i wanted, then got back together, i dont think any of you would have any objections to that.

That is more morally correct then sleeping around while you have a boyfriend.

 

[my sharona]

But why? Wouldn't that be redundant pain i could spare both of us?

We don't want to break up. I just want variation in my sex.

What if we had a threesome? Would that be as wrong? (I'm presuming you'll all say no')
You guys aren't making any sense.

 

[thejosiekiller]

but ur not breaking up in the traditional sense

ur just breaking up and having a fling and then dragging him back so u can have ur way

to do all this for variation in sex makes me think ur not really in love with him at all

 

[jumb]

What if we had a threesome? Would that be as wrong? (I'm presuming you'll all say no')
You guys aren't making any sense.

No, because you are including him.

 

[my sharona]

What, so now if i'm in love with somebody, i'm not allowed to have sex with anyone else?

That's one of the dumbest things i've ever heard.
Prostitutes are now unable to fall in love? Same goes with porn stars?

 

[my sharona]

No, because you are including him.

By telling him that 'hey, i'm bored. do you mind if have a fling with this guy?' isn't exactly excluding him.

 

[jumb]

What, so now if i'm in love with somebody, i'm not allowed to have sex with anyone else?

Yeah, but while you are in a RELATIONSHIP you can't be with anyone else. Break up with the guy and you can fuck whoever the hell you like.

 

[thejosiekiller]

so ur not big on monogamy then?

well love is commonly associated with wanting to settle down with ppl//eg get married and the law is no polygamy

im not saying every time u fall in love u have to get married, but it losses meaning if ur not faithful

why do u think ur in love with ur current bf? why dont u just break up with him than drag him along and cheat on him

 

[ur_inner_child]

What, so now if i'm in love with somebody, i'm not allowed to have sex with anyone else?

That's one of the dumbest things i've ever heard.
Prostitutes are now unable to fall in love? Same goes with porn stars?

reason why some say when you're in love, you shouldn't sleep with other people is when you're in the most COMMON scenario, where you're not a prostitute or a porn star.

Most of the time, you're in love and if you claim that you're in love, you care about how they feel, and you don't want them to get them all torn up because you slept with someone else.

Some people don't attach love with sex, but even so, if you really want someone, you often OFTEN feel obliged to prove that and actually become faithful, even though no one has asked you to.

It's almost on the border of disrepectful, if not trampling all over it.

Which is why I stopped talking to this girl when she decided to tell me she had fallen in love with one of my mates (who loved her too) while fucking several hundred other men and expected me not to cringe.

 

[bubz :D]

if you're in an open relationship where you've discussed what you can/can't do, and what's considered going too far - and if what you want to do is OK with your boyfriend, then we can't judge any of that - it's your relationship! if you were actually cheating on him, then that's a different story.

 

[glycerine]

i think youre all being a little unfair, it sounds like she plans to be open with her bf. if he's comfortable with it and you are too, then why not?
although why dont you try some stuff to spice up your sex life first? toys, role playing, whatever?

personally i prefer casual relationships. i get bored easily.

 

[Generator]

Is there any real point in passing judgement on another person just because their sexual habits may be different to your own (assuming that it is a case of consenting adults, of course), or because they may have a different idea as to what constitutes a serious/loving relationship?

Edit: Yay for being slow to respond.

 

[my sharona]

I just find it weird how so many people claim that they can see a distinction between 'sex' and 'making love' and then go off onto their moral high-horse and try and fudge the borders.

A proper relationship shouldn't be threatened by a fling.
If it is, then maybe it's lacking trust.

 

[jumb]

i think youre all being a little unfair, it sounds like she plans to be open with her bf. if he's comfortable with it and you are too, then why not?
although why dont you try some stuff to spice up your sex life first? toys, role playing, whatever?

personally i prefer casual relationships. i get bored easily.

Because "open relationships" is an oxymoron. The point of relationships is for monogamy. While they're writing their own definitions and making shit up, they could also tell everyone that they're married and have magic powers.

 

[jumb]

A proper relationship shouldn't be threatened by a fling.
If it is, then maybe it's lacking trust.

I'm speechless.

 

[glycerine]

Because "open relationships" is an oxymoron. The point of relationships is for monogamy. While they're writing their own definitions and making shit up, they could also tell everyone that they're married and have magic powers.

uhhhh, no. our society sees this as the norm. there are MANY happy couples who swing and/or have casual sex with other people. i mean, fuck, you don't have to look far on the internet to find it.