don't marry your lover, marry your best friend (2 Viewers)

[theism]

discuss.

so the theory goes, once you get married with your lover, and your passion dies out, the marriage will go down the drain.

 

[katietheskatie]

that's what my mum always told me lol

it makes sense though. like, you might not always be 'in love' with someone no matter who it is or what you think when you get married, but you'll pretty much always want to spend your life with your best friend

 

[theism]

Isn't your lover supposed to be your best friend?

no, its like from seinfeld,
'independent george', and relationship george

 

[katietheskatie]

doesn't mean someone can't be both though imo

 

[philphie]

i could never marry my best friend. best thing about her is i don't have to see her everyday.

 

[boganxcore]

i have a crush on my best friend, therefore = win?

 

[philphie]

lol mate, not win, i do not reciprocate your feelings

 

[sydchick]

this makes a lot of sense. but romance can destroy a friendship.

 

[Lukybear]

cant your lover be your best friend?

 

[philphie]

what best friend with benefits?

 

[allzy]

Why marry at all??

 

[theism]

Why marry at all??

parents divorced sweetheart?

it can work..
just needs alot of work.

ALOT of work

 

[philphie]

so when you get married without a prenup and divorce, nice big settlement, learnt this from my parents

 

[chelsea girl]

How great is it when your lover is also your best friend? I have the best relationship.

 

[theism]

so when you get married without a prenup and divorce, nice big settlement, learnt this from my parents

if you're a house-husband yes.

if not, then no.

you'll get owned by teh wife

 

[Tulipa]

parents divorced sweetheart?

it can work..
just needs alot of work.

ALOT of work

Some of us with happily married parents have no interest in marriage. Random assumptions like that don't really work.

I think if I was to ever consider marriage, it'd have to be with someone who I felt that consummate love for. Anything less and why bother?

 

[sydchick]

my parents aren't even married.

 

[melsc]

I think one of the signs of a good relationship is they are like a best friend (that does not mean they are not your lover or there is a lack of passion) Lets be honest, if you don't enjoy doing everyday stuff together and hanging out for a fair bit of the day, how will you go spending the rest of your life together? I know a few married couples who don't really like spending much time together and I don't get it, you should enjoy spending time with that person and they should be like a good friend, with the passion thrown in as well lol

 

[breaking]

I think one of the signs of a good relationship is they are like a best friend (that does not mean they are not your lover or there is a lack of passion) Lets be honest, if you don't enjoy doing everyday stuff together and hanging out for a fair bit of the day, how will you go spending the rest of your life together?

this, i guess ...basically i agree wholeheartedly with those who have said that a lover can/should be a best friend too



i guess there's a valid point re: op's best friend thing, but like... how many people actually have romantic feelings for their "best friend"? and what about people whose best friend is of the same sex, lol
it sounds like a fucked up thing to say/think but it's true; any relationship can potentially lose its intimacy/passion at some stage, whether it's someone you have known really well your entire life or a person you met at a club whilst drunk as fuck. and i guess as a general rule this is more likely to happen to people who have been in many relationships in the past... in particular people who for some strange reason feel as though they like... can't survive without a boyfriend/girlfriend or something

but yeah, i don't really think like this anyway it's so like.... negative and if you're going to be all pessimistic about the future of your relationship then you probably shouldn't be in one lol

 

[red-butterfly]

i guess it's true that intimacy and passion can die if you marry your lover ... but i'm not too keen on marrying my best friend... seems a little weird for me