Friends with Benefits .. 2 (1 Viewer)

[jumb]

You are a whinging, whining shit.
This thread is shit.

Pot kettle black.

 

[MzbLaZeIT]

hey hey i have something to talk (or yet ask about) in relation to friends with benefits...
im currently seeing this guy (whom i was friends with before we started hooking up)
We totally get along, we are two of the same (totally a boy version of me) there are strictly NO emotions, no feelings for eachother.. i mean i luv him as a friend! and we hook up for fun and stuff........ he is definately a 'friend with benefit'.. there is 100% great communication we talk about anything, including having sex.
anyway
im looking into going 'all the way with him' as im a virgin.
Alot of people look into the whole "but do u love him? your not going out with him etc etc?"

i totally respect him, as he respects me. But there is no talk about going out, because i dont want it. either does he. I talk about other guys i like freely to him, as does he with girls.. there is no jealousy nothing.. its a great relationship! he must be my 'soulmate' lol

I want to have SEX (with him) and we've talked about it.. so does he......
i mean...... i dont know what to expect (yes i do physically..... but FEEELINGS wise)
has any1 been in this situation? its weird.. lol i am going to have sex with him.. but do u think it will change things? hooking up and stuff hasnt changed anything so far.........

 

[+Po1ntDeXt3r+]

its hard for sex not to change something... cos if its not u.. it will be him...

id plan for the worse.. hope for the best...

sex with friends... can end up shit as hell.. or awesome.. ... dun overthink it.. and if u have to .. talk about it... weird but important.. get it all out if ure really friends

 

[jumb]

hey hey i have something to talk (or yet ask about) in relation to friends with benefits...
im currently seeing this guy (whom i was friends with before we started hooking up)
We totally get along, we are two of the same (totally a boy version of me) there are strictly NO emotions, no feelings for eachother.. i mean i luv him as a friend! and we hook up for fun and stuff........ he is definately a 'friend with benefit'.. there is 100% great communication we talk about anything, including having sex.
anyway
im looking into going 'all the way with him' as im a virgin.
Alot of people look into the whole "but do u love him? your not going out with him etc etc?"

i totally respect him, as he respects me. But there is no talk about going out, because i dont want it. either does he. I talk about other guys i like freely to him, as does he with girls.. there is no jealousy nothing.. its a great relationship! he must be my 'soulmate' lol

I want to have SEX (with him) and we've talked about it.. so does he......
i mean...... i dont know what to expect (yes i do physically..... but FEEELINGS wise)
has any1 been in this situation? its weird.. lol i am going to have sex with him.. but do u think it will change things? hooking up and stuff hasnt changed anything so far.........

Go for it, you sound like you know what you're doing.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

hey hey i have something to talk (or yet ask about) in relation to friends with benefits...
im currently seeing this guy (whom i was friends with before we started hooking up)
We totally get along, we are two of the same (totally a boy version of me) there are strictly NO emotions, no feelings for eachother.. i mean i luv him as a friend! and we hook up for fun and stuff........ he is definately a 'friend with benefit'.. there is 100% great communication we talk about anything, including having sex.
anyway
im looking into going 'all the way with him' as im a virgin.
Alot of people look into the whole "but do u love him? your not going out with him etc etc?"

i totally respect him, as he respects me. But there is no talk about going out, because i dont want it. either does he. I talk about other guys i like freely to him, as does he with girls.. there is no jealousy nothing.. its a great relationship! he must be my 'soulmate' lol

I want to have SEX (with him) and we've talked about it.. so does he......
i mean...... i dont know what to expect (yes i do physically..... but FEEELINGS wise)
has any1 been in this situation? its weird.. lol i am going to have sex with him.. but do u think it will change things? hooking up and stuff hasnt changed anything so far.........

It all depends on if you're comfortable with losing your virginity to someone you may not have a relationship with. That is, losing it to a "friend with benefits".
You should realise that if you choose to do this, you can't regret it.
It sounds like this guy is very special to you, and you him. I can't really imagine being so close to each other yet not developing any feelings other than friendship.
If you do have sex with him, there's a chance that things might change. It's all up to you to decide whether this's the right choice.
However, personally, I think that if he is not a virgin, you might want to reconsider losing your virginity to him. That's just my opinion.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

go baby im in the same boat, only im a bit more bitchier in the situation, i cannot BARE the thought of my ex moving on....yet its fine for me (although i havent yet, kinda)! Spose im still in love with him. You will find a way everything always works out for the best. Have those young girls left him alone??

You're not in love. You're one of those frustrating people who doesn't love your boyfriend, but doesn't want anyone else to have him. Move on, mind your own business and let him find someone better.

 

[Snow Pea!]

HEY! in response to the other thread, im also in the same situation!! omg someone please help me sort out what to do. i've been with my bf for like 3 and a half years, or ex more like, but we can still say we love each other, yet talk about fucking other people, and we get along really really well! even better on than when we were dating! but at the same time im so fucking confused i realy dont know what to make of it ...

someone help me

it usually falls in the shit.. dont mean to be negative or nethin but i speak from experience..

 

[Mandy101]

HEY! in response to the other thread, im also in the same situation!! omg someone please help me sort out what to do. i've been with my bf for like 3 and a half years, or ex more like, but we can still say we love each other, yet talk about fucking other people, and we get along really really well! even better on than when we were dating! but at the same time im so fucking confused i realy dont know what to make of it ...

someone help me

haha, me and my ex were in the same position. We went out for three years also and broke up in feb this year.. we get along even better now, but we still lead separate lives. I see him at least 2/3 times a week, and we keep the physical, but we don't depend on eachother emotionally. It was hard to distance myself at first, but its really working for me now. Just do the following:

a) get a life and date other people: that way you open yourself to more than just one person, and don't feel so confused and dependent
b) if you're getting it on, treat it as purely a physical thing and dont attach emotions to it. If you can't do that, stop the physical.
c) you both do love each other - its inevitable that you would after three years; however you probably both just need some change.

Finally - Meet new people, date new people.. if you are meant to be, you will end up back together later Three years is a long time, obviously you'll have curiosity about dating/mixing/having it off with others. There's plenty of time to get back together later, just enjoy yourself and other people for the time being

 

[stainmepink]

ok it's been nearly a week and i feel i want him more after meeting up with other guys. Goddamit nothing is working for me. and Snow pea what do you mean by fall into shit? please elaborate. Mandy 101 i think like you thanx for the advice. Shaynie69, the girls left him alone just when we break up. i think they were out to get me O_O!

 

[Alimoe_KG]

ok it's been nearly a week and i feel i want him more after meeting up with other guys.

Stop meeting BOS guys.

 

[MzbLaZeIT]

However, personally, I think that if he is not a virgin, you might want to reconsider losing your virginity to him. That's just my opinion.

hmmm interesting!!

sex with friends... can end up shit as hell.. or awesome.. ... dun overthink it.. and if u have to .. talk about it... weird but important.. get it all out if ure really friends

hmmm this i have taken into consideration! but nothing in the past has fuckd us up (especially with us seeing other people) thats why we are both feeling so comfortable as to not fall for eachother or for it to get messy.. its strictly that we like eachother as friends, respect eachother + most inmportant we comfortable with doing it both for the first time...AND both have a mutual decision in having sex! hahah


well thanx guyz hope for the best
apparently its 'once u pop u cant stop'

hehehe!

 

[Serius]

unless u want it to be something special and all emotional connections and everything, i reckon just go for it, if all you are expecting is some pleasure and maybe a stronger connection with your friend then you have nothing to lose.

frends with bennefits its the ultimate position, you should try and acheive this position as often as possible with as many girls as possible[ provided they know cause i am not exactly condoning cheating here] it makes everyone happy and takes care of those woresome sexual needs without having to bother with messy emotional situations

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hmmm interesting!!
apparently its 'once u pop u cant stop'

hehehe!

lol thats funny cause once one of my friends said that, and a girl who tends to be a bit naive didnt get it and asked quite innocently "what pops?"... to which i replied " her pringle lid"

 

[MzbLaZeIT]

lol thats funny cause once one of my friends said that, and a girl who tends to be a bit naive didnt get it and asked quite innocently "what pops?"... to which i replied " her pringle lid"

HAHAH! good one.

 

[sweetXinsanity]

I'm actually in a situation extremely similar to this one right now...
but only it turned out bad lol
but anyways, i say if you guys have a good connnection after so long, go for it!
but watch out for the warning signs of it becoming something that will be regretted....
if signs start to pop up like you or him getting jealous, sumthin like that..i suggest u guys talk bout everything, i meen after all great friends can talk through anything, right?
thats my rant for this thread....

 

[sweetXinsanity]

You're not in love. You're one of those frustrating people who doesn't love your boyfriend, but doesn't want anyone else to have him. Move on, mind your own business and let him find someone better.

While shaynie maymove on, the dilemma is, he still loves her... so he wont move on lol
in the words of yoda: quite a pickle, this is

 

[Alimoe_KG]

Yoda didn't say that.

He doesn't eat pickles. He is a pickle.

 

[sweetXinsanity]

it's kind of the style in which yoda would say something...not something he actually quoted really.
one of my friends at school looks like yoda minus the greeness :uhhuh:

 

[Tuggi3]

IMO:
if your going to be freinds with benefits, try not to let emotions get in the way...
once the emotions there, it always gets messy (espiecally with exes)

 

[sweetXinsanity]

i agree with that 100%!!
it's something that could make or break a strong relationship!
i speak from recent experiences....

 

[Shaynie69]

While shaynie maymove on, the dilemma is, he still loves her... so he wont move on lol
in the words of yoda: quite a pickle, this is

Exactly! He stalked me at a party!