id go down on the girl (assumin she wanted me too...) regardless of whether she wanted to on me or not - i understand a dick aint a prettything, and its a big step (yes, and a big thing, and theres the whole *oh my god im gonna choke* thing)
spit swallow or other is personal choice of the lady
coming on er face would be so..wrong and..degrading and...generally n@5+y
oh, yes, and kissing after is personal choice.
re: fhm/ralph/all that shit - they're generally useless and wrong. go with your gut instinct, and talk to HER and you can't go wrong.
and whats this crap re: cant make her come havin sex boys? pfft you arent tryin hard enough.