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Parents, domestic abuse, want to leave home - need help! (1 Viewer)
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Omie Jay
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this is very wrong, it really gives me the shits when i hear about parents who act like this, and make me really grateful for mine.
Omie_Jay - Once again, I really don't know his reasoning for not allowing me to work. We don't interact unless it is to fight. Can't get mum on my side, she too is fearful of him. I probably should play smart and talk to him, but don't know if I can stoop myself to such lows.
Savak - He may be Muslim, but he is not religious.
Savak - He may be Muslim, but he is not religious.
Omie Jay
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your dad sounds seriously screwed up, sorry, i wouldnt know what to do in your situation 
talk to police? but that might escalate things...
i dont know how much you earn, but moving out might be the only option, tho ur parents most likely will have quite a reaction to this.
talk to police? but that might escalate things...
i dont know how much you earn, but moving out might be the only option, tho ur parents most likely will have quite a reaction to this.
AlleyCat
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Unfortunately, your culture changes everything.
I've actually lived in Pakistan in the past so I know firsthand how repressive of a position muslim women find themselves within the household.
As you belong to a highly entrenched and family-orientated culture, I now know that you're not going to be able to go break out of it.
Seemingly, your only real way of getting out of your situation is to simply get married and hopefully to a man who will give you the freedom that's been denied to you.
In your circumstances, I really don't see any other way.
Oh they help heaps. Trust me. I've been calling them lately for an issue I'm having atm. The best thing is, you get the same counsellor over and over again. So when you call them back, just ask to be connected to your previous counsellor and just goes from there.
It's free on home phones and optus mobiles. Plus the number will NEVER appear on the phone bill.
Seriously?
You are 20 years old. Tell a friend you trust, ask if they mind if you stay with them while you find more suitable work (to support yourself). Grab your shit, move out.
You have the internet so you can find out about services that are there to help you if you feel you will need them. If you have people at home you wish to stay in contact with, give them a call/email and let them know the situation. I would advise not letting them know where you are staying unless you want your dad coming around, at least initially.
But really, it's not rocket science. You're an adult, you're in a living environment that is marginalising what YOU want and causing you (apparently) sever emotional distress, move the fuck out.
You are 20 years old. Tell a friend you trust, ask if they mind if you stay with them while you find more suitable work (to support yourself). Grab your shit, move out.
You have the internet so you can find out about services that are there to help you if you feel you will need them. If you have people at home you wish to stay in contact with, give them a call/email and let them know the situation. I would advise not letting them know where you are staying unless you want your dad coming around, at least initially.
But really, it's not rocket science. You're an adult, you're in a living environment that is marginalising what YOU want and causing you (apparently) sever emotional distress, move the fuck out.
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I suggest omie_jay, bbj, or tallkid34
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I'll bring the ammo
Pass. I'm not muslim, I'm already taken and neither am I interested in being a part of anyone else's culture anytime soon.
Omie Jay
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Go to your local police station, explain your situation that you want to leave home, but are unable to due to intimidation and you fear if you do so you will be beaten.
They will take you seriously, get you in contact with organisations which can help and will keep you safe. You shouldn't have to live like this.
Some of the advice in this thread is so retarded. The girl was physically beaten at 17, this shit's serious.
They will take you seriously, get you in contact with organisations which can help and will keep you safe. You shouldn't have to live like this.
Some of the advice in this thread is so retarded. The girl was physically beaten at 17, this shit's serious.
RabbitRabbit
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It sounds like something out of the book 'A thousand splendid suns' which goes in depth about the mistreatment women in muslim cultures. It's a bit sad that women with as much potential as men are held back because of tradition. You shouldn't be made to fear your father.
I'd say manage your money well and prepare to move out as an independent. Get centrelink money as an independent student for rent and support. You can't expect to live with your parents forever. But budget well and think carefully about how much you need to spend per week. Getting another job may be a bit hard in a recession, but in any case once you move out, you can get Austudy from the Govt until you find a secured job if you do decide to move out.
I'd say manage your money well and prepare to move out as an independent. Get centrelink money as an independent student for rent and support. You can't expect to live with your parents forever. But budget well and think carefully about how much you need to spend per week. Getting another job may be a bit hard in a recession, but in any case once you move out, you can get Austudy from the Govt until you find a secured job if you do decide to move out.