Partner does drugs (1 Viewer)

[crazyhomo]

talking to him about it helped? wow, i'm totally coming to bos for relationship advice, i never would have thought of stuff like this by myself

 

[katietheskatie]

i thought you were staying out of this forum?

 

[ElGronko]

OK, let me get this straight.

- You go out with a guy who smokes pot, presumably because you are attracted to him.
- You then decide that you don't like him the way he is.
- Then idiots in this thread start suggesting ultimatums like "If he won't quit for you, he's not worth keeping".

Get fucked.

When you have a relationship with someone, it is because you like them for who they are, not for the potential they have if you can forcefully change them, essentially through using blackmail

He is not in the wrong here, you are. This "if he won't change, he is not worth it" attitude is a total croquette of merde.

If it offends you that much, it is you who does not deserve him.


I would also like you to tell me on what bases do you "find people who do drugs to be disgusting, stupid, and immature."?

 

[angelduck]

i dont really have to explain that to you, i know ur opinion, i respect the fact that if you think drugs are cool in some way, or that you want to do them, its your choice. When i started seeing this guy, i didnt know he did drugs. It is my right to have an opinion on whether i want to see someone who does drugs, and it is also my right to share that opinion with them. I didnt give him an ultimatum, i didnt go "stop doing pot or i wont date you anymore". I told him i didnt want him to do it around me, or see me when he was doing pot/still feeling the effects - if i dont want drugs in my life that is my choice, and just because my opinion is different to yours doesnt mean you can act all high and mighty. I find people who do drugs to be stupid aobut their choices in life - not stupid as in dumb. To me, it is something that is stupid, because drugs ARE linked to death - like excessive alcohol, speeding etc. I find people who speed to be immature and stupid as well. So dont try to tell me my opinion is crap, because it is mine, and i have the right to hold it

 

[ur_inner_child]

OK, let me get this straight.

- You go out with a guy who smokes pot, presumably because you are attracted to him.
- You then decide that you don't like him the way he is.
- Then idiots in this thread start suggesting ultimatums like "If he won't quit for you, he's not worth keeping".

Get fucked.

When you have a relationship with someone, it is because you like them for who they are, not for the potential they have if you can forcefully change them, essentially through using blackmail

He is not in the wrong here, you are. This "if he won't change, he is not worth it" attitude is a total croquette of merde.

If it offends you that much, it is you who does not deserve him.


I would also like you to tell me on what bases do you "find people who do drugs to be disgusting, stupid, and immature."?

I don't disagree with your intent. I agree with the fact that she has a generalised perception of those who do drugs, as well as how members may be flawed in saying "if he won't change, he's not worth it" when clearly it is not as simple as that.

However, I disagree with how you illustrated that you love someone as everything they are. Yes you don't go into a relationship to change someone, but surely you cannot always certainly love someone for everything possible thing they do and are. It's kinda hard to point out something you don't like about someone you're infatuated with, I admit. I tend to brush them away as insignificant, but some can really irk you that you'd want changing. But it is much like I can love someone for who they are... but they're smokers (something I do not hold as the best of qualities).

I feel it is more "if he refuses an attempt to compromise or even talk about it, he's not worth it".

 

[sja]

Smoking pot and doing cocaine increases your I.Q by at least 30 points.

You feel more energetic, have a higher count of natural protein - and it even promotes hormone growth. You experience larger muscle growth, and your heart becomes larger by expending more oxygen into your muscles and gaining more cardio growth..

You gain sweeter smelling and better hygeine odours when you smoke pot and do coke. On top of this, you sweat less and look lush, and full of life.

I always smoke pot and sniff coke when I'm not mastubating to Disney World porn.

 

[!! CaR`JiE !!]

If he really loves you, and you mean so much to him. He will be willing to quit the drugs.. even try his v. best to quit and other shit.

 

[Serius]

If he really loves you, and you mean so much to him. He will be willing to quit the drugs.. even try his v. best to quit and other shit.

what the hell? how about we look at this on the flipside

if YOU really love HIM you will accept him for who he is, the occasional getting high and all. If HE means so much to YOU than you wont hassle something that is part of who he is.

Women marry men thinking they can change them.
Men marry women hoping they wont change.

 

[stamos]

haha wow i can't believe loz#1 is still on here

i can't believe I'M still on here

this is ridiculous

 

[balin.kid]

i have a similar problem with this really good mate I have down the coast, we hook up when I'm home from boarding school and he told me that hed given up not only to ring me after I'd left a week later, stoned. I just tol dhim that I would not talk to him when he was like that and I think hes learnign that people just dont go for that anymore
good luck

 

[Serius]

i dont get it, so you dont mind if he smokes aslong as he isnt with you or calls you when he does it?

 

[nahian]

Man
If snoop cant quit
NO ONE CAN

 

[Sandez]

Stupidity? now that is really ignorant of you. A handful of the smartest people in my school smoked pot regularly and did a couple of harder drugs a few times. You know some really smart people have been into some heavy shit right? T.S Elliot was an opium adict and he was considered a very influential poet of his time.

So did Coleridge.

I seriously find nothing wrong with people who take the soft illicit drugs, such as mushrooms and pot.

They're not mugging people, the only person they hurt directly is themselves, and they aren't addictive either.

I also know several people who smoke pot sometimes, one of who who is doing Pharmacy at Sydney, which has an incredible UAI.

Don't assume that the media stereotype of a typical pothead is correct. Do you also believe that all Lebanese builders are dodgy? All Muslims are out to kill you? Naomi Robson is actually good looking?

I'll leave you to answer these for yourselves- but one thing that I think is the crux of the issue is- if you really love him, you'll look past it, and love him for who he is, not hate him and regard him as a lower person than yourself.

And in regards to medical drugs- they CAN, and ARE regularly abused by many people. It's just not worth the political effort to highlight the issue, as it's much easier to let people who assault and stab and roll others to walk free, while people who are carrying a recreational amount of pot are jailed for being perfectly compliant with the police.

Don't you love society?

/rant

 

[Sandez]

Smoking pot and doing cocaine increases your I.Q by at least 30 points.

You feel more energetic, have a higher count of natural protein - and it even promotes hormone growth. You experience larger muscle growth, and your heart becomes larger by expending more oxygen into your muscles and gaining more cardio growth..

You gain sweeter smelling and better hygeine odours when you smoke pot and do coke. On top of this, you sweat less and look lush, and full of life.

I always smoke pot and sniff coke when I'm not mastubating to Disney World porn.

GTFO Troll.

 

[dodgyfilokid]

he knows that you don't approve of it..i reckon he should make the effort of at least slowin down if not completely givin it up....you should also understand that its his choice and that you dont have absolute power over him even if you two are in a relationship...it comes down to his decision..dont ditch him just because he refuses to give up...only do that if it starts to affect the way he sees things wit u...my ex does drugs (ecstasy and coke) but she gave up on coke and ecstasy only sees her face once in a while..i dun approve of it but she does want to quit

 

[Sandez]

Ecstasy is easy to quit. As are pot, shrooms and LSD.

It's that other shit such as coke which isn't, and that's why I'm never going to touch it.

 

[mr_brightside]

GTFO Troll.

Not a troll. Just a member with a "different" view on everything.

 

[Some_Guy]

drug users are the most selfish people on earth.

at least the ones i knew were.
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[Tulipa]

drug users are the most selfish people on earth.

at least the ones i knew were.
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before making such a broad generalisation based on a few people maybe stop and think of how stupid you're going to make yourself look.

 

[Sandez]

Rich people are more selfish, in my experience.

As are self righteous know it alls.