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its a feeling, but it takes time to develop a real feeling of 'love'Rebecca1234 said:i agree that loving someone and being in love with someone is totally different. i also agree that a relationship needs some distance, spending everyday together will only cause for u both to get sick of each other and furthermore will be led to fights and almost breaking up!! ... jus chill ... i have a Q sorry to break the tjhread question but do u believe that love jus comes as a feeling or u have to be with someone for a certain time to experience of fall for them. Cheers
Maybe when you're in love you love everything about the person - even their faults. And even if you spent the rest of your life with the person it wouldn't drive you crazy. But not to such extremes like you can't spend one second without the person; that's just wierd.azzie said:I don't know why, but the idea of ALWAYS wanting to be with someone is kinda scary. I mean, wouldn't you want your own space? Wouldn't you get sick of that person eventually?
I don't know the answers to these questions, but anyone can feel free to chip in
The closest i've gotten to love is the feeling you get when you can just free yourself of inhibitions and of all the things that restrain you, and just expose your darkest, deepest self to another person with the full knowledge they won't fuck you up.azzie said:Okay well I've been asking this one for a few days now, but I thought I might as well post it here to see what replies I get.
How do you know something is love rather than simply lust, infatuation or familiarity?
I was naive and kinda felt obliged to return the "I love you" thing when in fact I felt or knew that I wasn't in love with my ex. Even now, I don't think I could say I was 'in love' with someone until well into a relationship, I think most things start with an attraction, then a like/courting period, then you have the relationship to find out whether or not they're someone you can stand over an extended period. For most people, I think the feelings develop around this time, rather than the cliche movie experience where you suddenly fall into each other's gazes and sparks start in your heart. I think some may call it cynical but its the realistic look at these things and I agree, you don't tend to invest your emotions into things as much as if you thought otherwise.azzie said:Well I'm dating a guy who wouldn't say he was "in love" with me if his life depended on it!
I wonder about that, are there some guys out there who wouldn't use the term "love" at all?
I mean, I don't know if I believe in love, but I guess I'd use it eventually, if I was convinced.
"in love" with you.. or anyone?azzie said:Well I'm dating a guy who wouldn't say he was "in love" with me if his life depended on it!
I wonder about that, are there some guys out there who wouldn't use the term "love" at all?
I mean, I don't know if I believe in love, but I guess I'd use it eventually, if I was convinced.
What does -P_D represent?P_Dilemma said:Actually, it's quite easy.
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...because love doesn't really exist.
-P_D
AsyLum said:the cliche movie experience where you suddenly fall into each other's gazes and sparks start in your heart.
Haha as do I, but reality has struck me with its evil cynical rodalby said:
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ohhh right. I thought it was one of those faces like O_O or something lol. Well spotted...quik. said:P_D would probably represent the initials of his nick.
It really depends whether you see a difference in 'feeling loving feelings' and 'in love' with someone.azzie said:Well I'm dating a guy who wouldn't say he was "in love" with me if his life depended on it!
I wonder about that, are there some guys out there who wouldn't use the term "love" at all?
I mean, I don't know if I believe in love, but I guess I'd use it eventually, if I was convinced.
I think it kind of highlights the problematic issues with overusing the word 'love' these days. The fact that everyone uses it so much, it feels so inadequate to actually describe any feelings...quik. said:I wouldn't say 'I love you' to someone simply because what you really feel is a tad more awkward to express.
Sort of a cop out in my opinion.
My first girlfriend said she loved me, and I didn't say it back. She kept pressuring me to, like it was expected. When I did say it, the whole thing was pretty empty and sort of a turn off, and I ended up breaking up with her shortly afterward.
I don't think it's too hard to explain to someone that you don't yet feel that way, however you think they're and amazing person.
Unless, of course, you are trying to simply 'hook in son'...