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[OZGIRL86]

I went out clubbin for the first time on fri, since i only turned 18 recently, and i was at the bar by myself buying a drink and this older guy prob nearly 30 came up to me and asked me if i wanted to dance, i didnt want to dance then, plus he was a bit too old, so i said no thanks then he said come on just come and dance after u get a drink, and i nicely said no again, and he was still persistant in asking so i just said mabye later, then he told me where he would be.
how do you politely reject someones offer?and what do u do if they dont take no for a answer? just walk off?
myfriends were sitting down so they couldnt drag me away

 

[super katie]

I think that you just have to be polite and firm. Saying 'no' is polite or bitchy depending on how you say it I guess. But if he keeps asking you after being rejected heaps I think you are perfectly withing your rights to tell him to fuck off

 

[Loz#1]

A nice big "fuck off" usually works.

But yeah, try and be polite at first.

 

[Jago]

use the pepper spray.

 

[Raginsheep]

Tazers are generally quite effective.

 

[SuGa BunI =D]

a nice n fwenly kick tu his family jewels wif ya pointy shoe.. yer dat works wel =P

 

[super katie]

or tell them you're a lesbian or you only like having sex with trees and dead people. and if they say thats ok my mum is a tree and my dad is dead... then just run

 

[SipSip]

I went out clubbin for the first time on fri, since i only turned 18 recently, and i was at the bar by myself buying a drink and this older guy prob nearly 30 came up to me and asked me if i wanted to dance, i didnt want to dance then, plus he was a bit too old, so i said no thanks then he said come on just come and dance after u get a drink, and i nicely said no again, and he was still persistant in asking so i just said mabye later, then he told me where he would be.
how do you politely reject someones offer?and what do u do if they dont take no for a answer? just walk off?
myfriends were sitting down so they couldnt drag me away

Happy B'day for you first of all.
It's good that you don't go to clubs by yourself, and also try to stay with a group most of the time. That way you could get out of sticky situations easier.
As for the rejection part, point to a guy in your group and go, "sorry can't, if my bf sees you, he'll be pissed." or just point to any guy.
If they are being really persistant i guess the good old swear word works a charm...

 

[Tommy_Lamp]

ask him if he knows what gonorrhea
if he says yes, ask him if hes ever seen it up close

 

[truly-in-bliss]

u get that all da time in bars.. esp if ur by urself or with other gfs...... most of the time if u really wannna reject somone in a bar then just do it sharp, and dont be too nice... cuz these guys are like pros, if u show the slightest sign of weakness, then they will hassel u.

rejection in real life and in a bar are 2 difff things.

 

[bubz :D]

what lin said is true. give it to him straight or he'll persist.

 

[mack]

Yeah there are alot of those guys in clubs, and the same thing happened to a friend of mine. We devised a little method, it has worked everytime weve gone to a club and a guy starts pestering her. If she ever goes to get a drink and im not with her, i watch her from a table or something. If a guy starts getting on her nerves she makes a hand gesture, and i walk up to him, tap him on the shoulder and say "What do you think youre doing?" and they back away, as most of them are cowardly creeps. I mean, what kind of 30 year old makes moves on an 18 yr old? Its disgusting really. If youve got some male friends to do this it will probably work, i cant guarantee it, but it has worked for the times it has happened to us. Or maybe its just because of my height, rippling shoulders, bustling arms and washboard abs?

 

[OZGIRL86]

Jeez i hate when that happens. I was on the train and this guy tried to ask me out and he wouldent piss off, so i ended up shouting at him. And today I was in Woolworths and this dude just came up to me and started talking to me and then asked me out. Just say you have a bf..

Thanks I'll try that next time
I couldnt think of what to say at the time, coz it was happening so quick

 

[OZGIRL86]

Happy B'day for you first of all.
It's good that you don't go to clubs by yourself, and also try to stay with a group most of the time. That way you could get out of sticky situations easier.
As for the rejection part, point to a guy in your group and go, "sorry can't, if my bf sees you, he'll be pissed." or just point to any guy.
If they are being really persistant i guess the good old swear word works a charm...

Thanks
Well my friends were coming with me to the bar most of the time, but sometimes I'd go myself.
If it happens again, ill try those other things u said

 

[OZGIRL86]

u get that all da time in bars.. esp if ur by urself or with other gfs...... most of the time if u really wannna reject somone in a bar then just do it sharp, and dont be too nice... cuz these guys are like pros, if u show the slightest sign of weakness, then they will hassel u.

rejection in real life and in a bar are 2 difff things.

thanks
yeh he seemed like a pro lol..
i think i was prob a little weak and not sharp enough, next time if i don't want to ill know what to do now.

 

[OZGIRL86]

Yeah there are alot of those guys in clubs, and the same thing happened to a friend of mine. We devised a little method, it has worked everytime weve gone to a club and a guy starts pestering her. If she ever goes to get a drink and im not with her, i watch her from a table or something. If a guy starts getting on her nerves she makes a hand gesture, and i walk up to him, tap him on the shoulder and say "What do you think youre doing?" and they back away, as most of them are cowardly creeps. I mean, what kind of 30 year old makes moves on an 18 yr old? Its disgusting really. If youve got some male friends to do this it will probably work, i cant guarantee it, but it has worked for the times it has happened to us. Or maybe its just because of my height, rippling shoulders, bustling arms and washboard abs?

Thanks
Good idea, your friends are lucky that they have someone like you that keeps an eye out for them.
he had to have been 30 easy..
good advice

 

[hatty]

Jeez i hate when that happens. I was on the train and this guy tried to ask me out and he wouldent piss off, so i ended up shouting at him. And today I was in Woolworths and this dude just came up to me and started talking to me and then asked me out. Just say you have a bf..

you must be so hot

 

[OZGIRL86]

get the capsicum spray??

lol
pity, i dont have any

 

[hipsta_jess]

guys in clubs generally do not get subtle messages (such as shoving them off of you when theyve just groped you and stuck their tongue down your throat).
basically, just tell them your not interested, then go and hide with some friends for a bit (always good if you can take a male friend with you to act as a bf if you need it), and then go and have fun and theyve generally forgotton all about it before long.

 

[dark`secrets]

sif buy when you can make them LOL

see.. you can make both peper and capsicum