Relationship with Homosexuals (1 Viewer)

[kow_dude]

Hey...

This is a question/poll for the straight people:

Say, you have just found out that a friend of yours is a homosexual, would your relationship/friendship/interaction with that person change in any way? If so, how?

Thanks

 

[mr_brightside]

Sexuality shouldnt matter.

If however, unwanted attention was given, that would be a different story.

 

[*yooneek*]

nah... like i dont believe homosexuality is right- but i'd still be their friend xox

 

[niteshade1312]

it didnt change my friendship with a certain friend of mine, who I found out was bi many months after we had met. And we are still great friends

 

[ur_inner_child]

i live with a gay couple
my two best friends are also gay (not the gay couple)
i work at oxford st
my apartment is situated in newtown
i go to a music university

as you can tell i'm not just tolerant.

yes im straight

 

[alby]

well i havent gone though it personally. it probably wouldnt change anything, but i 'm not sure - things like any extra attention & how close i was to them in the first place would probably help to determine what happens

 

[Serius]

well it might change things a little bit, but if u mean i would stop being friends with them? i doubt it but if they were constantly hitting on me or i didnt feel safe getting drunk around them or something then yeh it would change

to date i havent had any friendships with homosexuals[ that i know of].. not cause i hate them or anything but i dunno, theres lots of people iam not friends with its not like i pick them not to be friends with... like iam not friends with any russians, just by chance doesnt mean i hate russians

 

[bubz :D]

i was a bit disappointed when i found out a cute friend of mine was gay lol, but other than that initial "damn, he's gay" response, i don't see why my relationships with them should change.

 

[neo o]

If a friend of mine came out, it'd change the way that I perceived them and/or interacted with them - they aren't the same person that I knew. Anyone who says otherwise is either kidding themselves, hasn't had it happen to them, or just didnt realise it.

Originally Posted by ur_inner_child
i live with a gay couple
my two best friends are also gay (not the gay couple)
i work at oxford st
my apartment is situated in newtown
i go to a music university

as you can tell i'm not just tolerant.

yes im straight

This thread doesn't have anything to do with being "more than tolerant". You can have gay friends, but still be as suprised as all hell when someone you thought to be straight comes out as gay. THIS IS A COMING OUT THREAD, NOT A, "I HAVE HEAPS OF GAY FRIENDS I'M SO ACCEPTING THREAD". If your boyfriend turned around and told you one day that he also liked men would you just shrug it off and not think about it? Seriously?

 

[keithmoon]

If he starts touching my groin area and starts feeling me in unusual ways, I would tell him to get fucked, as a half-joke. But, our friendship shouldn't change.

 

[super katie]

It didnt bother me, theyre still the same person, its just that now you know something about them that you didnt know before.

 

[xeuyrawp]

Hey...

This is a question/poll for the straight people:

Say, you have just found out that a friend of yours is a homosexual, would your relationship/friendship/interaction with that person change in any way? If so, how?

Thanks

My friendship would change, although not for the worst.

The dynamics just change a bit. I think the key is to talk with them about it; you should be open and say 'look, I think it's weird. I probably only think it's weird because I haven't been around many gay people before. I'm telling you this so you know how I feel, and I'm sure I'll get over it. '

 

[luscious-llama]

I have quite a few lesbian and bisexual mates and i get along with them just fine? Like we greet one another with the usual "kiss cheek thingo" and sure they like to hug you heaps, but it doesnt change anything really. They dont hit on me, they know i'm straight..

ah life. and gay boys are another story all together, the ones i've come across are bitchier than normal chicks argh ...(generalisation)

 

[ur_inner_child]

This thread doesn't have anything to do with being "more than tolerant". You can have gay friends, but still be as suprised as all hell when someone you thought to be straight comes out as gay. THIS IS A COMING OUT THREAD, NOT A, "I HAVE HEAPS OF GAY FRIENDS I'M SO ACCEPTING THREAD". If your boyfriend turned around and told you one day that he also liked men would you just shrug it off and not think about it? Seriously?

oh, sorry i wasn't more specific, i was trying to emphasise it happens all the time for me, and its like meh.

 

[flipsyde]

i was trying to emphasise it happens all the time for me, and its like meh.

same here I get a lot of friends saying it to so Im just like, "really? Ok" and still talk to them the same as if they never said it, unless they're upset about it and need to talk, then I'm still there for them, just as I would be if they were straight. It doesnt change our friendship.

 

[Sonic]

i'd have no problems seriously... friendship wise we're still cool but i wouldn't get into anything sexual..

 

[Atticus.]

not a problem... i can honestly say i wouldnt care in the slightest, guy or girl.

id probably think more of them for having the strength and courage to come out to me

 

[braad]

i went to an all guys school (actually 2) from 7-12, and some guys turned gay, i dont care really...they dont crack onto me, and we still all get along really well. It's like any line with a female friend, friends and thats it.

 

[pmr_123]

a couple of my friends are either gay or bi, and it doesn't bother me one bit, and even when they came out it wasn't that big a deal, we kinda had already guessed it... doesn't change anyhting

 

[jebbie]

I say my friendship wouldnt change. People say all this stuff about unwanted attention. But hello is it not just the same as if it was a straight member of the opposite sex giving unwanted attention? Why do they feel the need to add this comment? Seriously, I dont get it.

Im straight, and don't believe homosexuality is right, but I am not going to 'defreind' someone because they have a different sexual preference to me/the fact I don't believe its morally right. I mean I'm a Christian, I don't believe lying/underage drinking/having sex before marriage is right, but I dont force my views on others, what they do is their decision, I mean theyre adults (mostly) anyway. If its a guy, then I know there won't be anything going on between me and him. If its a girl, then, well, she'd know I don't swing that way.

I would be weirded out if an ex came out and said "I'm bi/gay". Because my ex's are very straight. I have to say there are a few of my friend's who if they said it it would definitely freak me out, but even so I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. And it definitely wouldn't change my friendship with them, I'd still talk to them, go out to lunch/coffee, hang out, etc But in the same token, if they starting hitting on me I would react the same way as if a guy I didnt like had of. I would freak out, try and nicely tell them I don't like them that way (although I'm sure they would already know this), and that I wanted to stay friends and probably avoid them for a little while.