CoFFee BreAk
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Sorry, this is totally insane, but please let me explain the whole situation.
I’m in TAFE, and I had this really odd crush with one of my classmates. Well, I’m NOT expecting him to like me back or anything. I just like him, and that’s all. Let it be a major reason for me to be excited when it comes to uni. I knew it just couldn’t happen ‘cause I’m 18, while he’s… 43 years old (don’t freak out yet, he doesn’t look old anyway)! He’s a single dad, and he’s got two little twins. Used to be a pretty famous stand-up comedian (he once left Aussie for London to pursue his career, and now he’s back home).
In class, he’s pretty full-on and knows a lot of stuff (note that he’s not the oldest guy around). I know he always acts like he’s still 20-something, and he seems to want to be the most popular guy (when some of my girlfriends don’t think he is) who likes sitting among the ladies, which is weird, but I never even realized I would have feelings for him. He does show a lot of respect to girls, though.
The first time we met, we barely spoke to each other. Then as we went through the course, we started to get to know one another, and he seemed to take interest in having me as a friend. I was one of only a few girls he enjoyed spending time with, even though we didn’t really expose our personal lives. He used to text me up and ask me and my other friends to go to the movies (it’s just great that I was included). There’s a time when I was feeling down ‘cause when we took turns reading out our story ideas in class, my mind didn’t seem to be working well so I didn’t get anything done (it’s good the teacher’s very understanding). The guy comforted me and told me to get some rest and that everything will be fine.
We once hit a pub near our campus after class is over with two of our classmates. There, he bought me a beer and later on, he drove me home with his car. When he offered to drive me home, I told him he didn’t have to, ‘cause my flat’s just across the street (which is true). But he insisted that I ‘get in the car.’ From then on, I had this weird feeling inside of me, and I began to think of him as a special person.
But all this time, I’ve been struggling to identify my feelings for him- whether I liked him romantically or only as a ‘father figure’. I told some of my high school and college friends about this, and most of them thought I probably think of him as a ‘dad’. They gave me this suggestion that I shouldn’t have a ‘crush’ on him because of this huge gap between our age. I realized they’re right. Even if I didn’t ask for their opinion, I know we’re just not meant to be. After all, I just liked him, and I don’t want things to go further. At times, I assured myself that I just think of him as a ‘father figure’. Yet the truth is, if he’s just like a dad, why do I feel a bit jealous (OK, I admit it) every time he talks to other girls?
This is the first time I loved someone who’s 26 years older than me. It’s actually hard for me to like a guy. I’ve to know more about his personalities. I only had 3 crushes in my senior high school history, and now this is very unlikely.
Then we had this misunderstanding. It’s been a while since the last time he sent me a text message. I thought back then, he was upset with me, ‘cause I actually had this crush on another one of my classmate whose name is Anthony (Ant is 24 and is really easygoing), and the guy didn’t like Ant. Every time I talked to Ant, he would give me this look that showed he’s annoyed. It wasn’t just me, actually. One of my girlfriends (who’s 19 years old) enjoyed spending time with Ant, and the guy also eyed her out. The guy actually liked that girlfriend of mine, but right now, I guess he didn’t anymore, because she’s such an airhead.
Back to the point where the misunderstanding happened, I noticed that since I told him I had a slight crush on Ant, he never text me again. I thought there’s something wrong, but a few weeks later, he did send me an sms! So I thought maybe it’s just my assumption. Maybe he’s been busy, knowing he’s working and he’s got his kids.
I wanted to send a text to that girlfriend of mine and tell her I was excited I got his sms. Yet I made a major mistake- I wasn’t sending the text to her, but to him instead! He thought I was making fun of him, but after all the explanation, it’s all cool, and he said sorry he misunderstood me. Everything’s back to normal. We still talked in class, but I somehow felt that he didn’t really talk to me that often.
Well, I just turned 18 yesterday actually, and since we got class, it’s all going great… until a friend who’s sitting beside me told me that guy KNEW I liked him. Ohh what a birthday surprise. It couldn’t happen! I asked that friend why might the guy think that way. He told me I was too obvious, although I didn’t do crazy things such as stalking him or trying to drop a pen in front of him so he could get it for me (like I used to do in high school). Maybe I paid too much attention, and some guys might just know if someone liked him? I tend to focus clearly on his eyes every time he told me and my friends some things.
The friend who broke the news to me is trying to e-mail me with some explanation tomorrow. So I don’t know if something worse could happen. I already freaked out, but that friend told me to relax, ‘cause it’s not a big deal. Maybe it’s just me who thought it’s a big deal. But who knows it might be a problem. I wanted to talk to him like we used to… wayyyyy before I have feelings for him.
What if he REALLY knows I liked him? Should I explain to him that all this time, I only liked him as a ‘dad’ or should I keep quiet and let it all go away by itself?
If you don’t understand me, that’s alright ‘cause I don’t actually understand myself. This seems ridiculous. Sorry for being too long, but for those who have read it all until the end, heaps of thanks, and I was just wondering about the best step I should take if he really finds out. I'm so devastated right now.
I’m in TAFE, and I had this really odd crush with one of my classmates. Well, I’m NOT expecting him to like me back or anything. I just like him, and that’s all. Let it be a major reason for me to be excited when it comes to uni. I knew it just couldn’t happen ‘cause I’m 18, while he’s… 43 years old (don’t freak out yet, he doesn’t look old anyway)! He’s a single dad, and he’s got two little twins. Used to be a pretty famous stand-up comedian (he once left Aussie for London to pursue his career, and now he’s back home).
In class, he’s pretty full-on and knows a lot of stuff (note that he’s not the oldest guy around). I know he always acts like he’s still 20-something, and he seems to want to be the most popular guy (when some of my girlfriends don’t think he is) who likes sitting among the ladies, which is weird, but I never even realized I would have feelings for him. He does show a lot of respect to girls, though.
The first time we met, we barely spoke to each other. Then as we went through the course, we started to get to know one another, and he seemed to take interest in having me as a friend. I was one of only a few girls he enjoyed spending time with, even though we didn’t really expose our personal lives. He used to text me up and ask me and my other friends to go to the movies (it’s just great that I was included). There’s a time when I was feeling down ‘cause when we took turns reading out our story ideas in class, my mind didn’t seem to be working well so I didn’t get anything done (it’s good the teacher’s very understanding). The guy comforted me and told me to get some rest and that everything will be fine.
We once hit a pub near our campus after class is over with two of our classmates. There, he bought me a beer and later on, he drove me home with his car. When he offered to drive me home, I told him he didn’t have to, ‘cause my flat’s just across the street (which is true). But he insisted that I ‘get in the car.’ From then on, I had this weird feeling inside of me, and I began to think of him as a special person.
But all this time, I’ve been struggling to identify my feelings for him- whether I liked him romantically or only as a ‘father figure’. I told some of my high school and college friends about this, and most of them thought I probably think of him as a ‘dad’. They gave me this suggestion that I shouldn’t have a ‘crush’ on him because of this huge gap between our age. I realized they’re right. Even if I didn’t ask for their opinion, I know we’re just not meant to be. After all, I just liked him, and I don’t want things to go further. At times, I assured myself that I just think of him as a ‘father figure’. Yet the truth is, if he’s just like a dad, why do I feel a bit jealous (OK, I admit it) every time he talks to other girls?
This is the first time I loved someone who’s 26 years older than me. It’s actually hard for me to like a guy. I’ve to know more about his personalities. I only had 3 crushes in my senior high school history, and now this is very unlikely.
Then we had this misunderstanding. It’s been a while since the last time he sent me a text message. I thought back then, he was upset with me, ‘cause I actually had this crush on another one of my classmate whose name is Anthony (Ant is 24 and is really easygoing), and the guy didn’t like Ant. Every time I talked to Ant, he would give me this look that showed he’s annoyed. It wasn’t just me, actually. One of my girlfriends (who’s 19 years old) enjoyed spending time with Ant, and the guy also eyed her out. The guy actually liked that girlfriend of mine, but right now, I guess he didn’t anymore, because she’s such an airhead.
Back to the point where the misunderstanding happened, I noticed that since I told him I had a slight crush on Ant, he never text me again. I thought there’s something wrong, but a few weeks later, he did send me an sms! So I thought maybe it’s just my assumption. Maybe he’s been busy, knowing he’s working and he’s got his kids.
I wanted to send a text to that girlfriend of mine and tell her I was excited I got his sms. Yet I made a major mistake- I wasn’t sending the text to her, but to him instead! He thought I was making fun of him, but after all the explanation, it’s all cool, and he said sorry he misunderstood me. Everything’s back to normal. We still talked in class, but I somehow felt that he didn’t really talk to me that often.
Well, I just turned 18 yesterday actually, and since we got class, it’s all going great… until a friend who’s sitting beside me told me that guy KNEW I liked him. Ohh what a birthday surprise. It couldn’t happen! I asked that friend why might the guy think that way. He told me I was too obvious, although I didn’t do crazy things such as stalking him or trying to drop a pen in front of him so he could get it for me (like I used to do in high school). Maybe I paid too much attention, and some guys might just know if someone liked him? I tend to focus clearly on his eyes every time he told me and my friends some things.
The friend who broke the news to me is trying to e-mail me with some explanation tomorrow. So I don’t know if something worse could happen. I already freaked out, but that friend told me to relax, ‘cause it’s not a big deal. Maybe it’s just me who thought it’s a big deal. But who knows it might be a problem. I wanted to talk to him like we used to… wayyyyy before I have feelings for him.
What if he REALLY knows I liked him? Should I explain to him that all this time, I only liked him as a ‘dad’ or should I keep quiet and let it all go away by itself?
If you don’t understand me, that’s alright ‘cause I don’t actually understand myself. This seems ridiculous. Sorry for being too long, but for those who have read it all until the end, heaps of thanks, and I was just wondering about the best step I should take if he really finds out. I'm so devastated right now.
