anyone with asian parents? please do my questionnaire for my PIP (1 Viewer)

[kathleen16]

Hi guys my PIP is about kids born in australia who have asian parents. If anyone in this situation could take a few minutes to do this questionnaire I would be very grateful. Alternatively, if you have any thoughts on the subject in general that would be equally awesome. Thanks heaps.

All answers are anonymous and confidential. Feel free to leave some questions out if you want to.

1) Age?

2) Gender?

3) Which country/ies were your parents born?

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there?

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property?
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family?
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family?
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender?
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders?
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards?
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)?
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends?
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you?
• Your parents compare you to other kids?
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you?

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex?
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians?
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend?

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home?
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English?
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language?
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English?

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades?
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion?
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance?
• Your parents link academic success to life success?
• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group
Feel a part of your ethnic group
Participate in cultural practices/organisations
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much?

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage?

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family
Peers
School/education
Media

11) Any other comments?

 

[tempco]

1) Age? 19

2) Gender? Male

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Singapore

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia - 10 years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? Rarely

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents? N/A

[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? N
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? Y
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? N
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? N
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Y
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? N
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? N
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? N
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? N
* Your parents compare you to other kids? N
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? N

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? N
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? N
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Y

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? Y
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? N
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? N
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? N

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? N
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? Sometimes
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Y
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Y

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - Neutral
Feel a part of your ethnic group - Neutral
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - Rarely
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - Rarely
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - I have an idea. I wouldn't describe it as "clear"

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? Cultural diversity is important.

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? Food. Culture, tradition, religion, among other things.

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yes.

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Yes.

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 10
Peers 3
School/education 4
Media 1

 

[s2indie]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Female

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Vietnam

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia - 20 years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? Never

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?

[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? No
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? Yes.. well sometimes.
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Yes - true.
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? No
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Yes
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? Not really.
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? No
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? No
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Haha, yes.
* Your parents compare you to other kids? HECK YES.
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? No

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? No
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Nope
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? wouldn't know.

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? No
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? No - they speak English too.
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? Yes - but that was when I was a kid.
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? No

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? No
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? No
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Yes
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Yes.

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - Neutral, cept New Years then I'm really proud.
Feel a part of your ethnic group - Rarely.
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - Very Rarely
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - Never - cept the war.
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - I've been there. I understand it. Sometimes.

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? No different than before.

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? Culture and Food.

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yes. I am.

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Yes.

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 10
Peers 5
School/education 6-7
Media 1-2

 

[shinji]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Male

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Malaysia and China

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia : ~20 years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Sometimes

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General
Your parents act like you are their property? y
Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? y
Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? y
Your parents treat you differently because of your gender?y
Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? n
Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? y
Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? n
Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? Sometimes
Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Kinda.. mum does, dad doesn't
Your parents compare you to other kids? not really.. but they compare me to my sisters
Your parents seem to live their lives through you? y

Dating
Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? n
Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? y
Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? umm .. would help if i had a girlfriend

Language
Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? y
The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? n
Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? n
Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? n

School
Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? n
Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? n
Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? y
Your parents link academic success to life success? y

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group im proud to be asian but i don't get carried away with it
Feel a part of your ethnic group sometimes i feel like im getting along, other's i just don't
Participate in cultural practices/organisations if practises include going to temple, etc. then occasionally
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage rarely
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage i don't have the best idea of my heritage ... but i have somewhat of an idea

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? stronger sense of individuality, food, traditions, culture.

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? yes

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? yes

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 10
Peers 8
School/education 4
Media 1

11) Any other comments?

 

[P_Dilemma]

r my PIP

1) Age?
18
2) Gender?
Male
3) Which country/ies were your parents born?
HK
4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there?
Australia - 16 years
5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Nope, none at all
6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property? N
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? N
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Y
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? Y
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Y
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? N
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? N
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? Y
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Y
• Your parents compare you to other kids? Y
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you? Y

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? Y
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Dunno
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Y

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? Y
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? N
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? Y
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? N

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? Y
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? N
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Y
• Your parents link academic success to life success? Y
• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - High degree
Feel a part of your ethnic group - High
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - Low
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - Medium
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - Medium

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?

More than one language, more than one cultural perspective, and therefore a more general view of the world. Others may have narrow views of the world, like GWBush


9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much?
Perhaps
10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage?
Yes, to a certain degree.
11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family - 5
Peers - 8
School/education - 6
Media - 5

11) Any other comments?

 

[Riviet]

1) Age?
17
2) Gender?
Male
3) Which country/ies were your parents born?
HK
4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there?
Australia, about 18 years.
5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Rarely
6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? N
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? N
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Y
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? N
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Y
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? N
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? N
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? N
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Occasionally
* Your parents compare you to other kids? Ocassionally
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? N

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? N
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? N
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? N/A

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? N, but I choose to speak it at home.
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? Never difficult
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? I did take classes, now I can speak it fluently.
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? They are fairly fluent speakers in english.

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? N
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? N
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Somewhat Y
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Y
* Other_____________________________________________


9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much?
I think it's slowly declining over generations.
10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage?
To an extent, yes.
11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 9
Peers 8
School/education 7
Media 6

 

[fuzzyorochi]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Male

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Vietnam (Chinese/Vietnamese ethnicity)

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia. Over 22 years.

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? Never.

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property? N
  
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? N
  
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Y
  
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? N
  
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Y
  
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? Y/N ..not sure
  
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? N
  
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? N
  
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Y
  
• Your parents compare you to other kids? Y
  
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you? Not really
  

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? N
  
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? N...however, haven't tested this out yet
  
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? they don't expect me to date until after HSC
  

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? Y/N..again, a mix
  
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? Y/N...they only speak a different language when they don't want me to listen. Apart from that, No.
  
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? They did, but stopped.
  
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? N
  

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? Y
  
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion?Y/N...they do, but in the end, i'll choose my own path.
  
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Y
  
• Your parents link academic success to life success? Y
  
• Other - parents expect the younger sibling to almost always surpass the older one. i.e. I must attain at least a 95+ UAI, since my older brother got a 94.75

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - Neutral
Feel a part of your ethnic group - Neutral
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - Always for cultural practices
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - Sometimes
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - not a "clear" sense, but i have an idea.

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? That i should attempt to learn more.

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? Culture, Food, Religion, among other things.

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yes

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Yes

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family - 10
Peers - 7
School/education - 6
Media - 3

11) Any other comments? Could you please do my survey based on Asians as well? (located in PIP Discussions and Assessment surveys forums)

 

[naivedoll]

1) Age? 16

2) Gender? Female

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Vietnam

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia - over 20 years.

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Rarely

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?

[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property?
Sometimes
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family?
Much more 'accepting' now
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family?
Yes. Or else no mother would want me to be her daughter in law *smiles
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender?
No
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders?
Yes but that's been instilled in me since childhood, it's automatic.
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards?
Yes. "We used to have to memories pages upon pages from blackboards, you have it easy."
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)?
Emphasis yes. But not too much.
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? No
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? No
* Your parents compare you to other kids? ... who's parents don't.
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? No

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex?
It's more an age thing. My mum used to butt in on the phone and start giving them a lecture on why they should concentrate on learning. Now, I have no time to talk on the phone.
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Yes
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Yes

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? Yes
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? No, I can speak Viet.
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? Yes. And then I graduated.
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English?
Not really. I find it funny when she's angry and tries to swear in English.

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades?
Not really. More about my sanity these days.
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? Big no.
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Not really.
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Yes

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group -
Proud yes but not to the point where I chuck a whole "New Order" fit and think we're superior.
Feel a part of your ethnic group -
I'm in limbo. Yes active participant in events and what not, but not necessarily to the point where I feel comfortable with kids singing Viet Karaoke.
Participate in cultural practices/organisations -
Yes. A lot.
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage -
Yes. My mum has great stories.
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage -
To an extent.


8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?
Food, humour [damn they're dirty], our sense of togetherness but it's not as strong as the Indian community.

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yes. But it's more of the fact that parents are pretty much forcing it on them rather than letting them understand. But if my mother didn't make me learn Vietnamese I would have been cut off to a whole different world.

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Yes.

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 10
Peers 7
School/education 6
Media 3

 

[~shinigami~]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Male

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Vietnam (But we're Chinese)

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia - 30+ years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? Never

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? No
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? No
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Yes
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? Yes
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Yes
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? No
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? No
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? Y & N
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Y & N
* Your parents compare you to other kids? Yes
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? No

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? No
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Yes
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Yes

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? Yes
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? No
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? They tell me NOT to but I WANT TO.
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? No

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? Yes
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? No
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? NO
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Yes
* Other_No____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group Yes but none of that "azn pride" stuff
Feel a part of your ethnic group Somewhat because of language barriers
Participate in cultural practices/organisations Somewhat
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage Yes
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage Yes

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yes, slowly though

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Yes, definately.

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 8
Peers 5
School/education 5
Media 3

11) Any other comments? What is PIP?

 

[rahrah]

1) Age? 16

2) Gender? female

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? hk/china

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? aust, umm... dunno... 20 ish years?

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Often, but only because they think everything in aust is done like it was "back in hk/china."

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? Yes
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? Yes
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Yes
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? Yes
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Yes
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? Yes
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? No
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? Yes
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Yes
* Your parents compare you to other kids? Yes
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? Yes

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? Yes
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Yes
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Yes

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? No
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? Yes
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? No
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? No... they`re not too bad.

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? Yes
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? kind of...
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? No
* Your parents link academic success to life success? Yes
* Other____________________ my parents think i`m stupid?

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - kinda
Feel a part of your ethnic group - not really
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - sometimes
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - not really
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - don`t think about it

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? I don`t usually think about it.

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? High expectations push you to achieve more

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Kind of... like me ==;;

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? To a point... not to the point where they start speaking the LOTE in public around other people

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 5
Peers 5
School/education 5
Media 5

11) Any other comments?

 

[daffodil101]

Hi guys my PIP is about kids born in australia who have asian parents. If anyone in this situation could take a few minutes to do this questionnaire I would be very grateful. Alternatively, if you have any thoughts on the subject in general that would be equally awesome. Thanks heaps.

All answers are anonymous and confidential. Feel free to leave some questions out if you want to.

1) Age? 19

2) Gender? F

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Malaysia

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia 20yrs

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? Rarely

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General
Your parents act like you are their property? n
Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? n
Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? y
Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? n
Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? y
Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? n
Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? n
Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? n
Your parents hardly ever compliment you? n
Your parents compare you to other kids? sometimes
Your parents seem to live their lives through you? n
Dating
Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? n
Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? n
Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? n
Language
Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home?n
The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? n
Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? n
Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? sometimes
School
Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? y
Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? n
Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? n
Your parents link academic success to life success? y
Other_____________________________________________
7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group not much
Feel a part of your ethnic group not much
Participate in cultural practices/organisations none
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage none
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage none

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? i don't care really

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? FOOD, chinese new year, exposure to another culture encourages tolerance and acceptance of others

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? yes

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? yes

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 9
Peers 6
School/education 5
Media 6

11) Any other comments?

 

[aleachim]

1) Age?
16
2) Gender?
Female
3) Which country/ies were your parents born?
Indonesia
4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there?
Australia - 20 years
5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Sometimes
6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]
Misunderstandings about etiquette I guess.
General

• Your parents act like you are their property?

No

• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family?

Not really

• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family?

No, who would?

• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender?

No

• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders?

Yes, because I don;t really show enough respect, IMO.

• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards?

Rarely

• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)?

Rarely

• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends?

True, especially when younger. Not anymore however.

• Your parents hardly ever compliment you?

Not as much as I'd like ><

• Your parents compare you to other kids?

Oh yeah!

• Your parents seem to live their lives through you?

Definitely...
Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex?

No

• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians?

They don't mind. Am currently dating someone who isn't. They are fine with it.

• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend?

No they probably would not. That is why I refrain from doing it.
Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home?

Not as much as when I was young.

• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English?

Yes. I;ve forgotten Indonesian, only ever have known a tiny amount of Mandarin.

• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language?

No. But i'd like to after the HSC - good for the CV and communication btwn. family

• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English?

Not really.
School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades?

My mum does, dad not as much

• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion?

No, wait: except career. Pressure's all from Mum.

• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance?

Not really

• Your parents link academic success to life success?

Yep.

• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group
Some
Feel a part of your ethnic group
Sort of
Participate in cultural practices/organisations
Rarely
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage
Never really
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage
not much
If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?
I'm not saddened by it too greatly. I'd identify myself as more Aussie than anything else.
8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?
Food!
9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much?
Definitely but I'm nto criticising it. I believe cutlural mixing is better for society and increases the understanding of the world around us.
10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage?
not really... but it's a part of identity so I agree it is somewhat crucial
11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 7
Peers 8
School/education 5
Media 2

11) Any other comments?

 

[Dark Phoenix]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Male

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Philippines

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia for 18 years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? rarely

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

* Your parents act like you are their property? n
* Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? n
* Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? n
* Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? n
* Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? n
* Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? n
* Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? n
* Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? n
* Your parents hardly ever compliment you? n
* Your parents compare you to other kids? n
* Your parents seem to live their lives through you? n

Dating

* Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? n
* Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? n
* Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? n

Language

* Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? n
* The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? y
* Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? n
* Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? n

School

* Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? n
* Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? n
* Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? n
* Your parents link academic success to life success? y
* Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group - There isnt too much pride i admit coz i just wasnt raised in the philippines
Feel a part of your ethnic group - I am a part of my ethnic group its just that languages cause problems
Participate in cultural practices/organisations - no cultural practices at all
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage - i hardly know anything about my heritage
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage - not really

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? Crap

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? Philippinos are mainly family orientated which i guess i dont have

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? Yeah, some just dont care bout cultural heritage

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? Sure

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family - 5
Peers - 8
School/education - 8
Media - 2

11) Any other comments?

 

[nichhhole]

1) Age? 16

2) Gender? female

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? - Papua New Guinean chinese, raised in canada

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? i'm half asina, half white... i have alot more to do with the asian family.. sometimes there is conflict between my mother and father because of the two different cultures.. but not really... more based on individual attributes as opposed to cultural issues.

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property? N
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? Y
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Y
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? Yes... but there are no boys.. so i dont really know.. no boyfs... etc.
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? mmhmm.. doesnt everyone? but more that they expect me to engage in intelligible conversations with adults etc... they arent huge on the 'seen and not heard' thing
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? no?
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? hardly
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? no, i get free time
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you? no
• Your parents compare you to other kids? yeah.. but only as a compliment.. (L)
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you? sometimes...

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? no
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? on the contrary,. they'd rather i dated a caucasian boy... they say asian boys like girls with small feet [i have tiny hands and feet] because they can stand closer to the kitchen sink,
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? - UM IF IWERE ALLOWED A BF then maybe theyd have an issue. Actually at one stage they said i could go out with this boy iw as absolutely in love with.. and tehy were like. 'you cna hold hands and kiss.. but thats all. you need to be aware nichole.. boys dont just want to hold hands you know.' i nearly cacked myself, but they were dead serious..

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? if i could speak it? i was a failure at mando
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? they dont.. but my asian family speaks canto when they dont want me to understand.
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? haha yea... but in mando rather than canto.. because its the way of the future... supposedly...
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? on the contrary.. my asian mother is often said to sound southafrican/english..

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? no.. they get angry/aggitated because im constantly ditching my tennis lessons to study...
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? nope.. but they said i should follow my dreams.. and that if i dont develop any dreams by uni.. they're going to make sure i enroll in soemthigng 'safe'... ie ENGINEERING/ACCOUNTNG
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? no... 100 is totally in my reach.. esp coz im going so well in com&fam studies and food tech and stuff..- Jk
• Your parents link academic success to life success? partially... but they get that i have to be well rounded.. and well rounded i am at a total of 1209381293080912 kgs
• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group alot. AzN pryde chigga!
Feel a part of your ethnic group hardly at all.. ebign a half asian.. i feel villified, and i;m not kidding... asians say i'm 'white'.. and to white people i'm asian.
Participate in cultural practices/organisations i go to yumcha and capitol and have been to asia...
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage i taught myself to count in canto when i was 6 froma lonely planet guide
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage hardly.

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? the emphasis on family.. i always know i have somewhere to turn to... and i get lots of gold...
u should see all my chains
!(L)!

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? kinda.. but maybe they're just hiding it? it'll come out soon...

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? mmhmm

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 7
Peers 5
School/education 7
Media 4

11) Any other comments?


p.s are you asian!?

 

[---dree]

1) Age? 17

2) Gender? Female

3) Which country/ies were your parents born? Philippines

4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there? Australia, this year it will be 18 years

5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time? sometimes

6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property? Y
  
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? N
  
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? Y
  
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? Y
  
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? Y
  
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? Yes, sometimes
  
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? Y
  
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? N
  
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you? Y
  
• Your parents compare you to other kids? N
  
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you? Sometimes
  

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? N
  
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? Y
  
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? Y
  

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? N
  
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? N
  
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? N
  
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? N
  

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? Y
  
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? N
  
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? Y
  
• Your parents link academic success to life success? Y
  
• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group: Somewhat, but only when i'm with others of the same ethnic group
Feel a part of your ethnic group: Sometimes, mostly when i'm with others of the same ethnic group because i know we understand each other culturally
Participate in cultural practices/organisations: rarely, depends on my parents who are part of an ethnic group organisation but i'm usually forced to participate in practices/organisation events.
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage: usually only learn when i'm with family or overseas in the Philippines
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage: somewhat, it's not something that i'm very familiar with but i don't particularly feel the need to have a clear sense of it

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel?

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits? importance of family, work ethics

9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much? i don't think we're losing our cultural heritage too much but we don't put as much emphasis on it but that is because we've lived/grown up in a society that's somewhat opposite to the one our parents lived/grew up in, so we act to belong and be accepted in whatever society we live in and sometimes may place less emphasis on our cultural heritage (including practices, beliefs, attitudes, values etc)

10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage? yes i think we should at least have some knowledge of our cultural heritage as it's part of our individual identity

11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family - 7
Peers - 8
School/education - 6
Media - 6

11) Any other comments?

 

[z600]

1) Age?
17
2) Gender?
M
3) Which country/ies were your parents born?
China
4) What country do they/you live in now, and how long (approximately) have they lived there?
Mum and me, 8 years here, Dad travells back and forth
5) Does your parents’ cultural background cause conflict in your family?
Never? rarely? sometimes? often? all the time?
Never
6) If so, which areas cause conflict between you and your parents?
[Y= yes, N= no]

General

• Your parents act like you are their property? no
• Your parents want you to sacrifice personal interests for the sake of the family? no
• Your parents don’t want you to bring shame on the family/ embarrass the family? yes
• Your parents treat you differently because of your gender? yes
• Your parents demand that you show respect for elders? yes
• Your parents judge you based on their birth-country’s standards? no
• Your parents put too much emphasis on their birth-country’s traditions (e.g. religion)? no
• Your parents do not let you have any free time to socialize with friends? no
• Your parents hardly ever compliment you? no
• Your parents compare you to other kids? no
• Your parents seem to live their lives through you? no

Dating

• Your parents complain when you talk to someone of the opposite sex? no
• Your parents expect you to/ would prefer you date only Asians? yes
• Your parents do not approve of open displays of affection (e.g. hugging, kissing) between you and your boy/girlfriend? no

Language

• Your parents tell you to speak their native language at home? no
• The communication between you and your parents becomes difficult because they speak a different language to English? no
• Your parents tell you/want you to take classes to learn their native language? no
• Your parents embarrass you because of their problems with English? no

School

• Your parents seem to care about nothing but grades? no
• Your parents decide things for you (e.g. subjects, school, career) without asking your opinion? no
• Your parents have academic expectations of you that exceed your performance? no
• Your parents link academic success to life success? yes
• Other_____________________________________________

7) Consider the following:
To what degree do you:
Feel pride in your ethnic group
Feel a part of your ethnic group
Participate in cultural practices/organisations
Spend time to learn about your cultural heritage
Have a clear sense of your cultural heritage

If your answers to the above questions were generally low, how does this make you feel? All of them are high

8) What aspects of your parents’ cultural heritage do you see as benefits?
The traditions of my family, the way a human should act
9) Do you think that kids these days are losing their cultural heritage too much?
yes
10) Do you think it is important to maintain one’s cultural heritage?
yes
11) On a scale of 1-10, how influential are these groups on your beliefs, attitudes, values etc.?
Family 9
Peers7
School/education 8
Media 5

11) Any other comments?