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My parents just separated yesterday. My mum is still here, but my dad left due to financial issues. I’m already having mixed emotions. They are going to book a lawyer or something and go court to solve this all at once. Then there is a high possibility that we are moving houses or if possible separating siblings (my sister/me picks or goes with dad/mum).
Even if we picked one, there would be still financial crisis. For example for dinner, I swear to god all I had was AN EGG with a fcked up york on top, RICE and cucumbers. Also one of them may be unable to pay electricity, water bills ( I know they savings, I can’t explain it thoroughly for you right now) – and so it might soon be cut if we are unable to pay.
However at the same time, they both understand that I have this HSC. So they will choose to make a decision on whether or not they will divorce , after this HSC has finished for me. How does this solve the problem…emotions are not toys to play around with. Even if they didn’t divorce, they are still separated with hatred and depression, headaches. I’m suffering from all this and tbh I don’t think I can continue anymore and even if I did it may take 1 or 2 weeks for me to calm down, focus and that would leave me with like…idk 4 -5 weeks? My dad’s words when he left the house was something in the lines of - study hard and be a good man – something like that. When I got back from him privately after school, he said he is “bored”, lonely, and he cried and explained the situation. I can feel that my mum is feeling this too, she keeps on getting headache reliefs like panadol or something like that. I don’t want to see them like this…really.
Universities offer this EAS Disadvantage Form where you sign and explain what disadvantages you are having in terms of HSC right, like family death, divorce, financial crisis etc. I obviously want to fill in something like this, but the maximum you can get is 5 (correct me if I’m wrong). Even if I did sign, I would still need evidence (Divorce Letter/Slip). I can’t do this because they are only separated for now, one lives at home and the other lives in a hotel, motel, apartment, car idk. At the same time I obviously don’t want them to divorce but can’t get this because there is no proof and could possibly just be an additional 1 – 3 points or something. I don’t know whether or not I should continue or not.
My mum on the other hand gave me 2 options. I either continue studying and get an ATAR or give up because of this fcked up situation and emotions I’m having right now and quickly move houses ( which she really wants to right now , a really sh1t one) and go to TAFE or get a decent job instead of wasting time for this 6 weeks without a right attitude for studying. When she said that, I was considering repeating instead, it could be a "fcked up decision" but idk tbh.
Out of all the year 12’s out their, I had to be the only one suffering from this bullsh1t. I really do hope that the people actually working for BOS reads this because this is not fair at all, especially in an disadvantaged school where it actually takes over 1 weeks to get a draft from an English teacher etc. Please if anyone can give some suggestions that would be great, this can legit be a life changing decision. Thank you so much.
My parents just separated yesterday. My mum is still here, but my dad left due to financial issues. I’m already having mixed emotions. They are going to book a lawyer or something and go court to solve this all at once. Then there is a high possibility that we are moving houses or if possible separating siblings (my sister/me picks or goes with dad/mum).
Even if we picked one, there would be still financial crisis. For example for dinner, I swear to god all I had was AN EGG with a fcked up york on top, RICE and cucumbers. Also one of them may be unable to pay electricity, water bills ( I know they savings, I can’t explain it thoroughly for you right now) – and so it might soon be cut if we are unable to pay.
However at the same time, they both understand that I have this HSC. So they will choose to make a decision on whether or not they will divorce , after this HSC has finished for me. How does this solve the problem…emotions are not toys to play around with. Even if they didn’t divorce, they are still separated with hatred and depression, headaches. I’m suffering from all this and tbh I don’t think I can continue anymore and even if I did it may take 1 or 2 weeks for me to calm down, focus and that would leave me with like…idk 4 -5 weeks? My dad’s words when he left the house was something in the lines of - study hard and be a good man – something like that. When I got back from him privately after school, he said he is “bored”, lonely, and he cried and explained the situation. I can feel that my mum is feeling this too, she keeps on getting headache reliefs like panadol or something like that. I don’t want to see them like this…really.
Universities offer this EAS Disadvantage Form where you sign and explain what disadvantages you are having in terms of HSC right, like family death, divorce, financial crisis etc. I obviously want to fill in something like this, but the maximum you can get is 5 (correct me if I’m wrong). Even if I did sign, I would still need evidence (Divorce Letter/Slip). I can’t do this because they are only separated for now, one lives at home and the other lives in a hotel, motel, apartment, car idk. At the same time I obviously don’t want them to divorce but can’t get this because there is no proof and could possibly just be an additional 1 – 3 points or something. I don’t know whether or not I should continue or not.
My mum on the other hand gave me 2 options. I either continue studying and get an ATAR or give up because of this fcked up situation and emotions I’m having right now and quickly move houses ( which she really wants to right now , a really sh1t one) and go to TAFE or get a decent job instead of wasting time for this 6 weeks without a right attitude for studying. When she said that, I was considering repeating instead, it could be a "fcked up decision" but idk tbh.
Out of all the year 12’s out their, I had to be the only one suffering from this bullsh1t. I really do hope that the people actually working for BOS reads this because this is not fair at all, especially in an disadvantaged school where it actually takes over 1 weeks to get a draft from an English teacher etc. Please if anyone can give some suggestions that would be great, this can legit be a life changing decision. Thank you so much.
. Stay strong!