Re: Love Problem
I don't know where your other post is that links to this thread...or is there one...
Anyway..
I would say, you know it's better to know for sure than to dream about her 24/7 when she could not even be noticing you at all or even like you. She could be into other guys. But you see I don't know this girl that you like so I shouldn't judge her right. So, in the end, it's better to know than fear. If you do get rejected, it's better to be rejected than live in uncertainty and fear 24/7 (well in my opinion yeh. don't know about you though).
You know, this is just my idea....you don't have follow it though if u don't like it. I thought wouldn't it be nice if you could just write her a letter? telling her how u feel and stuff but not getting too mushy. Just going "hey, I just wanted to write this letter to you because I wanted to tell you that for a long time I have been interested in you.." (or whatver i duno..this is just an e.g.) And leave her an option. Write somehting like "if your answer is yes you can meet me at the lockers next monday at 10am, if not I would like for us still to be in good friendship with no awkwardness. I would just like you to know that writing this letter wasn't easy for me and even if your answer was a no, I ask that you will try and not treat me any differently. THank you."
You see, I think this is a good way to do it because:
1) you don't have to face her so if she does reject you, you won't feel that embarrasssed or bad.
2) She will be alone and have time to think about the answer as long as she needed instead of like 2 seconds to answer the Q (Don't rush girls! They hate being rushed).
3) Since you didn't approach her in person, she won't feel embarrassed or 'on the spotlight' around other people in public. Even if you did this in a quiet area, she could still be worried there are people around. You see, it's a romantic moment and you wouldn't want to ruin that with other people around and making the girl feel uncomfortable to answer your question. I think it's good to give her privacy when thinking about this answer so that she can think thoroughly about it before she says yes or no.
4) Doing it by letter won't likely ruin the friendship as it had less 'social contact', thus making it less damaging to the friendship.
By the way, make sure when you give it to her though, smile at her (but don't smile so big that you freak her out! but don't be too serious and scary okay coz that will freak her out too!). it would be good if you could wait till like a special day like her bday (if u don't know, try and find out. just ask casually or findout through her friends or an year book,etc). Or Christmas, any special day (excpet valentines! coz it's a dead give away!). And like give her a lil prezzie (girls love presents but don't give flowers because that also gives it all away!). Give her a little present and a nice card and slip that letter inside the card. It's a letter in disguise. =) She won't notice anything and she won't freak out u see. And when she goes home, she will read it in her own time. Just when u give it to her let her know "please read it at home. I just prefer if you do since it's from me =D"
ANyway, that's all. Hope that helps.:wave:
