Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depresed (1 Viewer)

[FuzzballD]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

He's crying out for help and is hoping that someone will notice him and care. From his blog, he sounds insightful and realises that his actions have consequences, like hurting the people he loves. He doesn't want to kill himself, rather he just wants the pain to stop, which is why he's asking for help. He wants ways of coping, because he can see that suicide isn't an answer. Thinking and talking about suicide is very different from actually going through with it.

That being said, you can't deal with it on your own. It's not your job to do so. You need to suggest and encourage him to seek counselling, whether it be from lifeline, school counsellors, or even just talking to adults he feels he can trust. Sometimes just getting it out of your head is enough to relieve the pressure temporarily.

Just let him know that you're there for him, and that you care, as do many others in his life, and encourage him to seek professional help.

HSC isn't the be all and end all and it makes me sick that society puts so much emphasis on something that really doesn't matter in the end. It's hard, sure, but everyone gets through it, and he will as well.

 

[cbadvanced]

what a mad guy he sounds just like me during HSC

i am still in recovery atm though

just talk to ure friend and say shit like "U AINT FUKCING USELESS SNAP OUT IDIOT UNI IS SHIT ANYWAYS WHO CARES IF GET A SHITE UAI"

 

[cmckie]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

http://segmentsfromsuicide.blogspot.com/

take a look at that. hes started that and he told me about it. ive been trying to help him. but i think hes beyond help.

lagzor, I know its already been mentioned, but at this stage, the more professional help your friend can recieve, the better.
Its very important that your friend knows that he is not alone, and sometimes just little things like going to the movies with him or some sort of socialisation, can make a difference to him, he needs to know that you are there for him.

Having said that however, I think ( having experienced a similar situation to what you are in, at a rather yoing age) that it is very important that you try not to tackle your friends situation by yourself. Dont feel as though you are responsible and have an obligation to solve your friends problems, because depression is very tricky. As long as you can make people aware of the situation that your friend is in, as well as continuing to reassure him that you are there for him, your doing a great job.
Goodluck!

 

[Evilo]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

i would say the HSC would be alot higher.

not too many other stressful things last almost 2 years.

How about when you can't pay the morgage, support your kids and are unemployed...?

 

[-L-O-Z-Z-I-E-]

The same thing happened to me last year...If he is tellling you that he thinks these things..he does want help and mostly these are cries for attention...its the people who keep it to themselves you need to be carefull of...if u have tlkd to ur friend about it and hes not responsive..maybe you could talk to his parents that your worried about him...or even see a counciller..thats wat i resorted to and it really helped me through it...

 

[lagzor]

thanks everyone for your help. i talked to him about it. sorry to say that he is in hospital now, he tried to kill himself. overdose of whatever was in the medicine cabnet. thing is he took alot more than what nesecerry and his body started to reject it even before it could kill him. ironic in a way. he told me that it would all be fine that night and then thats when he did it.

he really doesnt want to part from this place. he just, wants help. from people. his parents dont care about him. its hard to watch him go down like this.

 

[ElenaV]

keep reassuring him. sometimes the thought of professional help can fuck you over and make you feel weak. just reassure him that it doesn't make him any less of a person to be on meds/in therapy.
as i'm sure others have said, make sure you're there for him. sometimes it will be so tough for you to 'carry' him so to speak, but hang in there. he'll realise that you're helping (even if he yells at you etc) and once he's feeling better he'll realise all that you've done for him.
chin up sweetheart. just do your best. and if anything does happen, remember he's in a lot of pain and you tried your hardest. it's not your fault ok? <3
*hugs* I'm sorry he's in hospital. he really is better off being there for a little while now. don't forget to visit him if you can. he'll now be on the hospital patient register, and he may be assigned to a therapist in outpatient services. just both of you keep hanging in there.
<3

 

[iambored]

thanks everyone for your help. i talked to him about it. sorry to say that he is in hospital now, he tried to kill himself. overdose of whatever was in the medicine cabnet. thing is he took alot more than what nesecerry and his body started to reject it even before it could kill him. ironic in a way. he told me that it would all be fine that night and then thats when he did it.

he really doesnt want to part from this place. he just, wants help. from people. his parents dont care about him. its hard to watch him go down like this.

wow i'm really sorry to hear that, that's a bit of an eye opener for me too. all the best <3

 

[nwatts]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

he really doesnt want to part from this place. he just, wants help. from people. his parents dont care about him. its hard to watch him go down like this.

you know, from what you've already posted, i'd tend to disagree. he wants to die. swallowing a medicine cabinet is a sure fire sign.

let the poor man go.

 

[bizadfar]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

Let him go because of the HSC? Rubbish.

Inform him about alternatives to HSC/uni entry. Insearch etc, tafe even.

 

[munchybuddy]

tell someone about it, before it is too late

 

[stephenchow]

Re: Please help me, i dont know what to do with my friend. hes about to go. hes depre

HSC isn't the be all and end all and it makes me sick that society puts so much emphasis on something that really doesn't matter in the end. It's hard, sure, but everyone gets through it, and he will as well.

Society doesnt put emphasis on the HSC, it's the person that does.

 

[Serius]

You know you were really lucky right? you knew he was suicidal and you did nothing about it, you were the person he was reaching out to and you did nothing. He could of died, and for some reason you didnt get him the help he needed. Luckily, now the hospital will know he is suicidal, they will give him counceling and help, medication maybe so he should be all right.

For anyone in this situation: dont take the risk this person did. If a mate is in trouble, get them the help they need and dont wait around about it, it just gives them a chance to do it.

exactly like i said on the first page:

tell as many people as you can than, his parents, whole family, friends, the school. Call the police or the hospital if you have to. Once everyone knows, he will be basically forced to get help.

I know it sounds drastic, but its what friends need to do. I wish i was smarter when i was young so i could have got someone the help they needed.