Hey,
My name is Luca. I saw your thread and firstly, id like to say sorry for those immature douche bags, they wern't very helpful and im sure now you will realise that most guys aren't to be trusted around our age with questions like that. In fact most people in general IMHO aren't worth you investing your time, hope and personal information in. However, I have been on the otherside of anal sex more than my fair share of times and i have some tips for you that i wish someone had told me or the other person before we went ahead with it...
First things first, use lube or amyl nitrate - the amyl might make you paranoid or dizzy or whatever though so that should be last resort... if i were you a combination of lube and lots of alcohol (for you, not the guy who needs to be rock hard). Weed or pills are also good options if your cool with that. in my opinion they are the best ways to go though, so try to be alright with that, it dulls pain and inhibition big time!! all good things! one of those three option are pretty much essential! also there is a chance that you will shit on him (for lack of a beeter term) so get rid of that possibility by using an enema much earlier. Just a syringe with luke warm water that you insert and in the bathroom and it will flush you out thoroughly... if it doesnt work get warmer water and do it again.
Although the whole point of anal sex is mainly to get the mental stimulation of being dominated (from a female perspective) it is important to prepare in a fair few ways, including talking stategy to the dude. That might take away from the domination aspect the first few times as it means you have input in regards to what he "does to you" but for the first few times it is important. After that if you still want to, the fantasy will be better served in the long term by investing early with that whole somewhat uncomfortable talk.
Talk to him about technique. tell him to start using is fingers to loosen you up while he goes down on you in the usual way... firstly just rubbing, then rubbing with lube, then with finger, then fingers... YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT SLOW AND KEEP HIM GOING DOWN ON YOU MEANWHILE SO THAT IT DOESNT FEEL LIKE A FUCKING OPERATION (no pun intended). After you feel comfotable enough let him flip you over and have his dirty way with you... just let him know that you have to take it slow the first few times, when you feel like you can take more show him by rockign and he will get the hint and then repeat.
Talk really dirty to him throughout so you both get real turned on and dont lose momentum throughout the necessarily slow forplay part. He needs to be real hard for it to work and for you to stop and start helping him get there just makes the process more difficult once he gets as hard as he needs.
This all sounds real complicated but its not, i just wanted to explain thoroughly.... i figure your girlfriedns probably wouldnt be much help so im just trying to be nice here.
If you do it right to begin with it can be all you picture it to be and much more... sweet regular sex is fine, but sweet and sour at the same time with that hint of power play as well is fucking incredible... it just takes some work the first few times...
My email is
luca_fiorentino@live.com.au
email me.. hopefully you dont mind keeping in touch and letting me know if i helped at all...
Peace
Have fun!
(this time the puns intended)
