strictness, relationships (3 Viewers)

[mack]

When he turns 18 i expect that figure to reach 50+, seriously. Yes it is disturbing that he tells me, i wish he would stop it.

 

[AsyLum]

Easiest way to retort.

"Hey i had sex with another bitch last night"
"So that means you got how many STD's now?"

 

[mack]

Haha thats a good one, but i usually do the old "I prefer to make love to a woman who shares similar feelings for me rather than score with a random chick to increase your tally." Cheesy, i know.

 

[AsyLum]

"One of these days i hope you find a penis instead of a pussy"

 

[belly_moo]

I've made a promise to myself never to grow up to be like my parents in their views on life.
That promise also includes never ending up like my parents who don't show any affection to each other.

lol i've made a promise to myself to never marry a vietnamese guy, because i know that that's how i'll end up being - the way my parents are now. and i dunno, the culture thing doesn't work for me.

being a 'first-generation' australian born asian can really suck especially when you can't speak the same language as your parents - communication barriers etc. and its even harder to see their POV n vice versa... i have to use a friggen vietnamese-english dictionary the size of the White Pages A-L =\

 

[mack]

"One of these days i hope you find a penis instead of a pussy"

Haha that reminds me of that nightclub game on EbaumsWorld. I hope that happens to him one day.

 

[Raiks]

I've got a friend who is the biggest slut around... he has notched up 234 girls and he's only 24. He's not lying for the fact he used to live nextdoor to me and when we were on the balcony at the front of our place in the morning eating breakfast on the steps, we'd continually see him saying goodbyes to yet another girl he had racked up.

He actually has a tally going which is scary, but besides that, he is the friendliest, most trustworthy mate and you'd never pick it if you didn't know about it... he just has too much charisma to abuse.

 

[_muse_]

i have a q.. im not asian so i dont really understand what asian parents are like but... since when have parents had control over our relationships? if we're happy in a relationship are they seriously gonna be evil enough to tear us away from that? thatd jus make us depressed, and arent they always saying they will do anything to make us happy?



sorry in a sit. where this is occuring atm.

 

[Raiks]

Yeah, I've never entered the realm of asian strict parents... is it a cultural thing or just more a individual parental thing?

Are they really that dominating that they would try and dissolve a healthy relationship just because of their beliefs and control... I can't really comprehend it because I've come from quite a liberal family...

 

[belly_moo]

i have a q.. im not asian so i dont really understand what asian parents are like but... since when have parents had control over our relationships? if we're happy in a relationship are they seriously gonna be evil enough to tear us away from that? thatd jus make us depressed, and arent they always saying they will do anything to make us happy?



sorry in a sit. where this is occuring atm.

yes. they would. some asian parents are strict enough to cause heartbreaks, change neighbourhoods, change schools or ground them [theres more]. some parents threaten, some lecture incessantly about "focussing on school" not "socialising", "not having friends", that sorta convo and most do a bit of both n more [cant think of the other ways at the moment] and yeah i agree with ya, they say they do want the "best" for us so we can be "happy" but a lotta strict asian parents also contradict themselves. pahh.

but i think it also depends on where n how the asian parents grew up? some 40-something asian parents grew up in australia and they've sorta adapted to some of the culture here whereas some are still living with the ways of back in south-east asia . some are just stubborn and don't see any other POV.

 

[belly_moo]

Yeah, I've never entered the realm of asian strict parents... is it a cultural thing or just more a individual parental thing?

Are they really that dominating that they would try and dissolve a healthy relationship just because of their beliefs and control... I can't really comprehend it because I've come from quite a liberal family...

its got to do with a lot - expectations as well, expectations of giving the family name a good rep n other stuff in the similar ball park. but yeah, DEFINITELY. some are. some aren't. meh. depends on the person, really.

one of my closest friends started dating this guy when we were in yr8, both her parents are filo but her dad was heaps more strict and less leniant than the mum n he reacted violently when he found out about her bf \= i remember for a few years they didn't get along with each other v.well... i don't even know if they still don't get along with one another. but meh. thats another story.

[man ive been posting too many posts in one day ]

 

[RCMasterAA]

being a 'first-generation' australian born asian can really suck especially when you can't speak the same language as your parents - communication barriers etc. and its even harder to see their POV n vice versa... i have to use a friggen vietnamese-english dictionary the size of the White Pages A-L =\

Yay, another fellow first-generation ABC . I agree with the language barrier thing. I wish I could argue with my parents in english cause I'm so sure I'd 'kick their ass' with how contradictory their views are. But no, I'm stuck with some chinese/english mix which doesn't work well for trying to get my own feelings and views across.

 

[AsyLum]

Ive been lucky enough to have open minded parents, who are still considered 'strict' in white POV, but rather lax id think in asian ones.

I think parents these days have a reason to be scared, and want to restrict their kids, heck society and the younger generations are in a moral decline and i would probably box my kids in as well with whats going on nowdays.

Although i probably wouldnt do it to the extent of some of the parents now, but id damn well make sure my kids werent fucking by 8th grade.

 

[mack]

Well in that case, regarding my brother, my parents have failed miserably.

 

[iambored]

i have a q.. im not asian so i dont really understand what asian parents are like but... since when have parents had control over our relationships? if we're happy in a relationship are they seriously gonna be evil enough to tear us away from that? thatd jus make us depressed, and arent they always saying they will do anything to make us happy?



sorry in a sit. where this is occuring atm.

they don't see being with a person as causing happiness, they see it as a distraction, as a downfall for your future.

 

[AsyLum]

Well in that case, regarding my brother, my parents have failed miserably.

In that case maybe its time to bring him in line yourself, before he leaves a trail of babies before 18

 

[Malazn Pleasure]

i have a q.. im not asian

 

[belly_moo]

Yay, another fellow first-generation ABC . I agree with the language barrier thing. I wish I could argue with my parents in english cause I'm so sure I'd 'kick their ass' with how contradictory their views are. But no, I'm stuck with some chinese/english mix which doesn't work well for trying to get my own feelings and views across.

OMGG!! *hi5's* aha 'cept my parents are vietnamese though. which i think is sometimes really crap cause i don't really have m[any] vietnamese friends to teach me fobby viet -_- most of em are canto.

but yeah i have the exacttt same problem . i only really talk to my mum in vietnamese though. but whenever something comes up i can't and dunno how to say what i wanna say n feel. its frustrating though. very, very frustrating.. raaaaaa

 

[+Po1ntDeXt3r+]

OMGG!! *hi5's* aha 'cept my parents are vietnamese though. which i think is sometimes really crap cause i don't really have m[any] vietnamese friends to teach me fobby viet -_- most of em are canto.

but yeah i have the exacttt same problem . i only really talk to my mum in vietnamese though. but whenever something comes up i can't and dunno how to say what i wanna say n feel. its frustrating though. very, very frustrating.. raaaaaa

i must admit.. i wasnt born here.. but ive live 80% of my life here..
i kno the feeling..

azn parents can be shit or good.. no in betweens..
mine to say the least are good.. and sadly they were partially right bout relationships being distracting.. i hav been distracted but lucky for me

wit POV ..after 3 yrs working with ppl and 7 months of patient contact.. most ppl wont share ure POV.. so just deal with it.. learn to use their ideas against them if necessary or learn to be mature enuf to see if they have a point
u just can reject a POV if u havent got experience.. ..

azn parents are overly protective and usualli want their kid to be the best.. not always possible.. migrant parents want their kids to hav the easy life..

how do i kno this?
i talked to my parents after we fight to sort our differences and when im stressed.. another sibling yells back at them then screws up.. so my parents dun think they are mature enuf.. just got to show them u can put ure money where ure mouth is..
my 2cents

btw i cant speak the languages they do.. but i put a massive effort to learn..
ull lose friends but its painful when u lose family

 

[rumour]

^^ is so wrong, why does she stay?

She is in "love"

Fucking hell-they are getting engaged this December & she only turns 18, a week after me in November!!!!!!!!