yes, yes you did ramble on... your new name is: RABLOR, LORD OF THE RAMBLE... From now on, you have to include the word RAMBLE in every post... RAMBLE RAMBLE RAMBLE... haha... do it, i DARE you! DOUBLE dare you!
I dunno tho aL... in all seriousness, if we can't "love" - then what are we here for? I have so many different opinions on what life is all about, but to put them into text in a way you can comprehend, i don't think it's that possible... However, with all that said.... I do have an opinion on love... Love for me is a four letter word: PEMS... My best friend and I came to the conclusion of what love is via PEMS... It's an acronymn for those things which classify what "true" love really is... I'll explain it, or try to...
P = Physical...
You have to have a physical attraction to your opposite, otherwise your relationship will never be complete - you'll never be 100% happy with you partner...
E = Emotional...
You have to be emotionally connected to your partner, otherwise you will never have enough compassion to care 100% for your partner, hence not having "true" love....
M = Mental...
You have to be able to think about your partner, and say CONFIDENTLY to yourself "I really do love this person"... You have to have involuntary thoughts of the person... You have to be able to have no control over what is occuring in your brain relating to your partner...
S = Spiritual...
You need to be able to connect "spiritually" with your partner... This may seem weird/awkward to explain/comprehend... But you need to be on the same "wavelength". You need to be able to finish your partners sentences because you know the "real" them - the "inner" them (no guys, i don't mean THAT "inner").
I'm not sure how well i explained my thoughts, probably not very well - but hey, at least i tried... I've been through many relationships (no bragging rights), but enough to realise that in every one of them i may have had 1, 2 or maybe 3 of the 4 attributes, but never all 4... I also believe, that "love" is not exclusive... You can love more than one person - however the chances of finding two or more people who you love equally as your partner are about 1 in 975,000,000... My best friend and i came up with this figure as we reckon you can love (as a partner, on average) between 1 and 7 people in the world... However, the diversity of the world is such that you never are going to meet all of these partners... They could be in Rawanda, Fiji, Indonesia, Iraq - anywhere in the entire globe, but i don't believe any human being can physically cross such a large land space to have met more than 2 "true" loves... Ahh, this is all getting to complicated to explain! I dunno if this makes any sense, but yeah... I tried...
aL - your thinking is vaguely familiar to me - i look at the studies i did on Absurdism and from that, existentialism... I dunno if it's the right route to take with your thoughts - its all very pessimistic... You can't succeed without optimism, perserverance and hard-work... Work at finding the right person, and you will... Have believe aL - you'll find the right one... We all will, it's our fate, our destiny... We have no control of it - get on the rollercoaster and let go - don't worry bout what happens, just let it happen... Take each day as it comes... Oh well, i've rambled on for too long, i should be deemed Jester to RAMBLOR, KING OF THE RAMBLE... Okay - back to work... Ciao!