But you just said (or indicated, maybe I'm projecting) you were willing to accept heterosexuality is as much of a lifestyle choice as homosexuality is; that is, in my view, not at all.
Having sex is always a choice (ignroing rape ofc). The fact that you are consenting to having sex means that you are choosing to have it.
Your desires and w/e are not always your choice, but it is your choice if you surrender yourself to them or if you resist those you know to be wrong.
So you expect people to have sex with people they're not attracted to because the gender they are attracted to is somehow "wrong" by some arbitrary standards of definition?
I never said someone should have sex with people they are not attracted to at all, thats horrible. People shouldn't ever be pressured into having sex. If you're unsure about it then you probably shouldn't be doing it anyway, that much is common sense.
People should stop blaming their actions on lust and "genes" and stop making excuses for themselves in general, and start taking some personal responsibility.
If you choose to reject God, thats fine (well its not really, but I'm not going to stop you). Subsequently if you choose to have abuse sex in ways for which it was not intended (provided its concentual and with another adult ofc), than thats fine as well. As you keep telling me, its none of my buisness.
But take responsbility. Don't say you didn't have a choice, because you do.
One does not choose one's sexual orientation. Are you then asking them to deny it?
No I'm asking them to take control of their lives and get a sense of responsibility (that goes to heterosexuals just as much, no-one is forcing you to have sex outside of marriage etc.).
One may not choose who they are attracted (to to an extent) however they are always responsible for their actions.