Parents+HSC
Probably been talked about before, but in need of a slight vent, so if you think I'm going to waste your time, I warn you- you probably shouldn't keep reading.
I was basically just wondering if anyone else's parents are unrealistic?
Expecting you to get a great UAI, which is not so bad, but then being completely unwilling to help you achieve it?
They don't seem to understand that we're stressed, and constantly nagging us about doing dishes doesn't actually help.
They seem to think concentration is easy to find, and that when I'm trying to study, it's alright to say 'COME FEED THE DOG!', and when I ask if I can do it in 10 minutes when I've finished my study period, they say no. It just messes my head up a bit.
And now that I've got my license, they're demanding (literally) that I drive everyone everywhere. Drop off my sister, drop of my mother, pick up my sister, go get my father. It doesn't seem to end. Apparently wanting to study and feeling stressed that it's taking time away from said study is 'selfish'.
Apparently it says a lot about my unhelpful, ungrateful attitude, and I can't actually see that.
So Mum puts me on the guilt trip, telling me don't worry, she won't go out, she'll stay home and pick everyone up.
So I buckle and say, look, you really should go, I'll pick everyone up, but please, try to give me some more warning next time so I can plan for it!
But no. She's refusing to go. Tries to force me to apologise, when I feel that it was her that was being unreasonable. I will never understand my parents' need for me to apologise, even when I don't mean it. Stupid. I think it cheapens genuine apologies.
Yells at me and tells me what a child I'm being.
I usually try to see things from their point of view, but sometimes they drive me crazy.
They expect so much, but don't seem to be willing to cut me some slack.
I'm trying to do the HSC for heaven's sake, and she seems to think it's a piece of cake. Like I just have to show up for exams and do well. Like there's no consistant effort involved.
And then she says 'Well what about those nights where you go out and hire movies with your sister!'- so I try to explain that those nights are factored in to my study plan, and I have control over what I'm doing when.
Maybe that's my problem, maybe I'm a control freak?
I just really am getting sick of people other than me fucking up my study habits.
It's bad enough when I do it, I tell you!
I'm quite sorry, I know this is a me me me me whinge thread, but I really needed to get it off my chest.
My sister doesn't come home from work for an hour, so I can't vent to her yet =)