06ers (and others I spose): Are you still talking to your school friends? (1 Viewer)

[kami]

Its funny how friendship works, I remember being in primary school hanging around almost exclusively with the same 4 or so people but then things started getting rocky once I went to highschool because I got into Caringbah Selective and they didn't. So we slowly started drifting and not talking for a while, even though highschool was hell because there were so many snobby kids that I didn't bond with. After dropping out, I kept in contact with none of them (and it wasn't like they would keep up with the unhealthy dropout they didn't like either).

Later when I went to TAFE for my year 10/HSC I didn't really bond well with most of my classmates - they thought I was a pretentious fag and I thought they were stupid bogans, that sort of thing, so I obviously don't talk to them anymore. Oddly enough though, I started talking to two of my primary school friends and it was like almost no time has passed whatsoever. Weird.

Uni friends haven't really worked for me though, alot of people only seem interested in socialising over drinks and I can't drink so poo to that. So we end up only talking about our assessments and its rather tiring to constantly be looked to for guidance about homework.

I have friends outside of the places I study(ied) too, but it feels like alot of them are going into different directions now - alot of them don't talk to me unless I talk to them for instance and even when I talk to them I don't hear much about their lives. There are still a few I'm still close to though, which I appreciate.

 

[Conspirocy]

ive always found even through highschool and now at uni a bit that every 3-4 years i just have to shift my group of friends.

Ive got some mates from highschool but honestly I only speak to about 3 or 4 regularly...I think thats pretty common for most people. The others I can see them out and its like we havent missed a beat, but at the same time its different.

On the other side my grade for year 12 had about 180 people in it, I barely knew most people...there's this one guy at uni, and we didnt say one word to eachother all of highschool...we sit with eachother every lecture...doing the same course, only talk to eachother at uni...nice guy, but i guess that's the point...people will be ur friend just because ur in the same place. you can fool urself into thinking you have heaps of friends, but really when it comes down to it, there are only a few people who are ur close friends...and the others, while they are great people, just sorta make up the numbers

 

[tallkid34]

Its funny how friendship works, I remember being in primary school hanging around almost exclusively with the same 4 or so people but then things started getting rocky once I went to highschool because I got into Caringbah Selective and they didn't. So we slowly started drifting and not talking for a while, even though highschool was hell because there were so many snobby kids that I didn't bond with. After dropping out, I kept in contact with none of them (and it wasn't like they would keep up with the unhealthy dropout they didn't like either).

Later when I went to TAFE for my year 10/HSC I didn't really bond well with most of my classmates - they thought I was a pretentious fag and I thought they were stupid bogans, that sort of thing, so I obviously don't talk to them anymore. Oddly enough though, I started talking to two of my primary school friends and it was like almost no time has passed whatsoever. Weird.

I only started living in Sydney about 3 years ago and I can say now, I didn't cope too well having to deal with both 'snobby kids' and 'stupid bogans' whom were unfortunately, the 2 main groups in my high school. Coming from an international school overseas where 'everyone' is completely different, I found it very hard to adjust to people here in Sydney. Everything turned out well in my final year though because I had made my own niche of friends, all of them going to UNSW with me! We still keep in touch ever since we graduated and I hope we continue to do so once we're at uni.

 

[Serius]

i still keep in contact with a few friends, the ones who i do all share a common theme a love[perhaps too much] of drinking. This means that people from school who i never hung out with that much i talk to abit more.... probably like a full 1/3 of my year went to my uni so its not like we never see each other, there just alot of people i dont really give a shit about so i havent seen nor persued seeing them.

 

[sladehk]

you need something in common.. like sex

 

[^CoSMic DoRiS^^]

i reckon you can tell pretty soon after you meet someone whether they'll be a long term friend or just somebody you know and hang out with occasionally...like some people you just click with and others you dont. it helps to have people who are what my friends and i call 'social lubricant' - people who are just so naturally out there and friendly that they can get a conversation going with just about anybody and are easy to get along with. we have a person like that in our group and she's fantastic for going where there's a lot of unfamiliar faces...thanks to her we're all friends by the end of the night lol.

 

[Redgoddess]

I keep in contact with a fair few via the internet, but there's probably only about... 4 or 5 that I really make the effort to see, my bestie and I text virtually every day, call each other about once a week, and see each other about once a week as well, if not more often, then there's a few who i've become closer with since school ended and we hang out and play sport and stuff together, but i wouldnt say they're really good friends, and once I move out of the 'gong and up to sydney I think we'll fall out of contact. I think there's probably only that 4 or 5 that i'll see regularly, plus a few that i'll see on occassion/talk with on the internet, but I'm looking forward to going to uni and meeting new ppl.

 

[Riona]

My two best friends have moved and so don't have phone or internet acess. We keep in contact through letter and the occasional short mobile phone conversation, with even rarer meet ups. I will see them regularly once university starts though, and we'll meet up after their TAFE and work and my uni classes.

I still see people from high school around MySpace and all that jazz, and occasionally drop them a line. It doesn't really bother me though.

I'm also looking forward to university... I'm going to a place where people have similar intellectual interests as me and have the same goal in mind, after all.

 

[vg_woz_here]

umm i keep in contact with some of my friends. but not all of them. coz i just dont wanna!

 

[lilkiwicutie89]

yeah.. i find it really hard to meet up with my school friends these days...

but i definatrly have met up with my outside friends more than school...

while during hsc i didnt talk to many outside friends...


you know.. is it true that you cant trust uni friends???

 

[ObjectsInSpace]

No-one from my town really sticks around. There's nothing here for people our age. My friends in Year 12 were a bunch of absolute wankers, so I'm glad to have gotten out of there in one piece. Made uni a hell of a lot harder to begin with, though; their attitude rubbed off onto me ...

 

[P_Dilemma]

yeah.. i find it really hard to meet up with my school friends these days...

but i definatrly have met up with my outside friends more than school...

while during hsc i didnt talk to many outside friends...


you know.. is it true that you cant trust uni friends???

Cant trust uni friends?! That'd be horrible!

yeah, i haven't met up with my school buddies these days. Mostly because they were either overseas, busy playing with themselves, or employed. I've only met up with ONE school friend these holidays so far...

-P_D

 

[BlackDragon]

you know.. is it true that you cant trust uni friends???

-P_D

wtf? yes. all uni friends in the world are untrustworthy. so will you be a friend to anyone at uni?
I would say uni friends are more trustworthy due to the fact that they are more mature.

 

[kissfan]

i finished school in 05 and i am still really great mates with people from my school. its about 10-14 of us and we will still see each other every week.

 

[ElendilPeredhil]

Haven't seen my school friends since the last day of november, and the girl I talk the most to didn't go to my school...but having said that, when I get home from this inordinately long holiday I'll be catching up with my friends.

 

[mcs]

Its strange... I finished in 05 and some of the people I thought were close friends as such have drifted away while other people who were no more then acquaintances have actually grown closer as such even though we now go to unis in different cities etc..

eg this year one of my good mates from school has been around all year doing nothing but I have not heard from him once till just last week when I ran into him out on the town on new years eve while a girl from my year that I have known for a long time but never been more then an acquaintance as such sent me a big long email (went on Gap in 06) when my Birthday came around and I have been in regular contact with her since and caught up with her for lunch the other week when she got back from overseas. Now this was a girl that I thought I probably wouldnt hear from again until at school reunions in the future but it looks as though we will become good friends after school. Perhaps it is influenced in some way by the groupie sort of atmosphere of school which disappears once school is out.

But as many have said on here about their own yeargroups, there are plenty of people that I would be more then glad to not hear from again!

 

[SweetSeasons]

But as many have said on here about their own yeargroups, there are plenty of people that I would be more then glad to not hear from again!

I think for me.. after school kinda sucked cause I could never see the ppl I wanted to see due to different social groups, different work times, different uni's ect.. so I ended up hanging out with the same old people, who I was growing tired of towards the end of high school any way.. and now.. my best friends are people from work, few ppl form younger years from my school, people I've made friends with at uni and people I've met at the pub or even festivals..

Lifes good when you get rid of the people that where making life not so good.

 

[Redgoddess]

Definitely a lot of my "friends" at school were purely due to convenience - they were there, i was there, they weren't hugely objectionable, i didn't want to hang out by myself, so we hung together, but I didn't really form close attachments to them. That said I think I've made some friends for life and there's quite a few people I'd like to keep in contact if possible. The ironic thing is that the people I'm close with now I only really became friends with in year 10/senior school, most of the people I've known and associated with for the whole six years just stayed on a superficial level, whereas I have a much deeper friendship with the friends I made later on. *shrugs* I can't imagine life without my best mate, but I'm heaps excited about meeting a whole bunch of new ppl at uni

 

[Evilo]

Our "group" has stayed pretty close, although certain individuals have not been invluded in these outings. We get together probably once or twice a week - but my work hurts this obviously. So in answer to your question - my relationships have improved - well the ones i wanted anyway.

 

[jellybeenz]

I was pretty close to all my good high school friends until the beginning of last year (graduated 04)... now I'm only close to 2 of my school friends and see maybe 3 of them on a regular basis.

I made some uni friends and started spending time with them- this put a strain on my high school friendships because my life wasn't all about them anymore. In addition a couple of us got into relationships last year and the others seem to have a problem with that and have distanced themselves since then. It is sad, but I've began to realise that perhaps all those times I said "they aren't as jealous and bitchy as they seem, you just have to get to know them" I was lying to myself. That I just didn't want to see the truth.

I've made many attempts to organise things these holidays, but I just seem to get rejected everytime. I don't get invited to hang out at people's houses anymore- even though one of them lives across the road from me. It kinda makes me sick to think my friends hang out together across the road from me and don't invite me. I think they just assume I'm busy because of uni friends and my boyfriend, but if they actually took the time to talk to me- I think they'd realise I'm not as busy as they think.

But anyways, I guess things change and I shouldn't get so upset- I've kept close high school friends for 2 years since graduation- which is longer than a lot of other people.